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Luohe City has a superior geographic location, the city's development is faster, more foreign population, coupled with Luohe people's modern awareness of the city's modern atmosphere is stronger, accept a variety of new things faster, but the traditional customs and habits are not completely rejected, part of the still inherited to this day. Old traditions and new customs permeate each other and integrate, is a modern city in the inheritance of traditional customs on the basis of the acceptance of new things.
Marriage customs
In the 1980s, "parents' orders, matchmakers' words" no longer existed, and marriage was autonomous and love was free. In the city, the main free love, friends introduced, marriage centers and self-advertised marriage announcements and other forms; in the countryside, through the neighborhood, friends and relatives to introduce the main. After the introduction, the matchmaker no longer intervenes, and the man and woman determine the relationship. Women tend to focus on the other party's appearance, personality, occupation, age and family; men generally focus on the woman's appearance, personality, age and character. Some of them also have the phenomenon of parents interfering with the freedom of marriage between men and women, or talking about "the right family" and so on.
Men and women after a period of understanding, each other have no opinion, the parents of both parties agreed, by their respective hukou location issued a certificate to the local civil affairs department to obtain a marriage certificate, become a legal couple, but still can not live together, must be selected on an auspicious day, the male door to marry, the female accompanied by a dowry into the door with the life after the party ****. According to the number of male bride price and female family economic conditions, the dowry varieties, the number of different, generally small daily necessities, television sets, washing machines, some families have refrigerators, motorcycles, etc., furniture generally prepared by the male. Choose the date of the rural areas are generally chosen before the Spring Festival Lunar New Year's double day, the city more choose May 1, 11, New Year's Day, before the Spring Festival. Marrying team is growing. Marriage vehicles are cars, vans or agricultural three-wheeled motorcycles, fewer than three or five, more than two or thirty. City brides wear wedding dresses, to the beauty store beauty make-up. Before the wedding to take wedding photos, wedding photography, video as a souvenir. After the bride back, accompanied by bridesmaids off, firecrackers, the wedding ceremony, the bride and groom under the auspices of the bride and groom to bow in the form of a worship of heaven and earth, two worship of parents, couples worship, and then carried by the groom, the guests flanked into the new room. At noon, the male side of the feast to entertain the guests, friends and relatives to send red envelopes to celebrate, as little as 50 yuan, as many as three, five hundred dollars ranging.
The bride three days back to the door of the custom is still in use. The third day of marriage, the bride and groom to go the first trip to the bride's home, called "back to the door", but there are "seven do not go out, eight do not go home," said the day, such as in the case of the "seven, eight" date, will be postponed one day. The day will be postponed by one day if it falls on the date of "7 or 8". "Back to the door", the marriage ceremony is over, the couple began a new life.
In the nineties, tourism marriage is more prevalent, the municipal committee and some enterprises to organize collective wedding. However, the phenomenon of the wedding ceremony is also relatively serious, more than the grandiose, ostentatious, wasteful phenomenon.
Family
With the development of society and the progress of the times, the structure of the family has changed, the original four generations of the same house, three generations of the same house almost no longer exist. Especially after the implementation of the national family planning policy, which has gained popularity, the traditional sense of having many children and many blessings has gradually faded, and the family has begun to evolve into a smaller, two-generation family. In the cities, there are mostly three-member families, while in the countryside, there are basically four-member families. Due to different lifestyles, different ideologies and different cultural levels, the elderly are reluctant to live with their children after they get married and start a family, while their children are happy to live independently after they start a family, and reunite with each other on Sundays or holidays. There is also a housing tension or family relations between the four generations or three generations of the same house.
Birthday customs
Generally called "birthday", the elderly called "birthday". In the city, to the elderly birthday celebration, most of the banquet, some at home to prepare their own banquet, since the family reunion congratulations. Family conditions or children have a certain social status, most of the hotel banquet guests, participants are mainly children, close relatives and friends, they bring birthday cake, wine, fruit, drinks and suitable for the elderly tonic, there is no lack of red envelopes sent. Individuals have spent lavishly, wasteful phenomenon, there are also a very small number of people who take the opportunity to enrich themselves by celebrating birthdays. To children on their birthdays is more common, the day of the birthday, parents customized birthday cake, and speak a few weeks old cake inserted a few candles. Photo birthday photo as a souvenir. Grandma, grandma, grandpa, grandpa, grandma, aunts, uncles, etc. to participate, but also set up a banquet reception, congratulations to the child to buy gifts, mainly cakes, clothes, school bags, food, etc.. Older school students, there are also invited to their own birthday classmates to send some souvenirs, I or at home or in the hotel banquet, some simply buy some food to take their classmates to go out and play a round. In the early nineties, the prevalence of family and friends, parents, children, couples in the radio or television broadcast opera or song, expressed to relatives, friends birthday congratulations.
Funeral customs
In 1987, the municipal government issued a document requiring that all urban cadres and workers be cremated after death, and that funerals be kept simple. Since then, city residents have been cremated after death. The funeral hall is generally located in the funeral parlor, there are also located in their own homes, friends and relatives to go to the condolences, give wreaths, elegiac account to show their condolences, most of the late nineties to send money, less than 50 yuan, more than a few hundred yuan range. Before the cremation of the body for a facelift, a memorial service, held a farewell ceremony, etc., to participate in the condolences to wear a black veil or white flowers. Some of the ashes are temporarily placed in the columbarium, later selected site for burial, some directly selected site for burial in the cemetery. Children in the deceased "five seven", "hundred days", "anniversary" and other sacrifices before the day to pay homage, burn paper or send flowers to show their condolences.
In rural areas, burials are still practiced, and the procedures and customs remain basically unchanged.
Holiday Customs
The Spring Festival, the first day of the first month of the Lunar Calendar, is a traditional festival of the Chinese people and the grandest festival of the year, which is generally valued by people. Into the previous year's lunar month, people began to prepare for the New Year, especially after the 23rd day of the lunar month (sacrificial stove day, also known as the "small year under"), people are busy shopping for new clothes, to do the New Year's goods. Some units also send workers rice, flour, cooking oil and other food. Due to the improvement of people's living standards, the content of the New Year's goods is also increasingly rich, more varieties, new patterns. In the countryside, during the Spring Festival, a change from the original single eat dumplings, steamed buns, deep-fried doughnuts, but also to prepare some sumptuous food and wine to celebrate the New Year. The city is a complete variety of dishes, everything. On the first day of the first month, people get up in the morning, wear new clothes, firecrackers, hanging whip less than 5,000 heads, more tens of thousands of heads, the sound has been continued to 8:00 am or so. Dumplings and hearty dishes for breakfast, dumplings pre-packed with a coin, a sign of good luck to the eater this year. The elders give the younger generation New Year's money, usually 10 yuan in the countryside, the city less than 50 yuan, more hundreds of yuan. Friends encountered each other on the road, greet each other "New Year's greetings". Municipal leaders to the grassroots and some residents of the family to the holiday season to the cadres and workers and residents of the workplace to give holiday greetings. During the holiday season, people visit friends and relatives, and most of the gifts are fruits, beverages, pastries, alcohol and so on. City due to the authorities 7 days off, in addition to visiting friends and relatives, the economic conditions of some of the family chose to go out to travel over the Spring Festival, to go to the domestic general choice of Hainan, mainly abroad to Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand-based. With the development of science and technology and the improvement of people's living standards, communication equipment developed, people's New Year's greetings have also changed, can not be reunited during the holiday season friends and relatives, with the phone, paging and cell phones, etc. Greet each other a good New Year, to give each other to the holiday congratulations. In rural areas, after the fifth day of the Lunar New Year, people start to engage in field work or other activities, and some of them start to go out to work. The city is from the first eight official work to start everything back to normal.
Lantern Festival, also known as the Festival of Lights. Luohe has the habit of eating Lantern Festival, watching Lantern Festival, playing the story, and the formation of their own unique "nineteen will". From the first fourteen to the first nineteen, the city to organize a large-scale lantern exhibition activities, exhibition of tens of thousands of lanterns, a thousand, a hundred, a variety of attracted hundreds of thousands of people in the city and the surrounding rural areas to go to the exhibition. Rural folk art groups are active in the streets of cities and towns, and in the compounds of institutions, performing dragon dances, lions, stilts, and dry boats, etc., and are rewarded with cigarettes, wine, and snacks after the performances. In order to enliven the festive atmosphere and enrich the cultural life of the people, the city also organizes and holds folk art performance contests during the festivals, with first, second and third prizes, and the winners are awarded honorary certificates to show their encouragement. In the late nineties, the municipal party committee and the municipal government invested hundreds of thousands of yuan, the purchase of gift flowers, on the night of the first month of the fifteenth day of the evening in two locations in the city, up to nearly an hour, so that the surrounding area and the urban masses were wide-eyed.
"38" Women's Day, in order to improve the overall quality of women, celebrating women's own holiday, led by the Municipal Women's Federation, mobilizing enterprises and institutions, government agencies, women to participate in knowledge competitions, speech contests, rope skipping, sprinting, cycling competitions, and sometimes also held songs, opera competitions.
"May Day" International Labor Day, generally led by the Municipal Federation of Trade Unions, organized basketball games, table tennis games, ballroom dancing competitions, art and calligraphy exhibitions for workers. The city held a meeting to recognize the advanced and exemplary figures in the workforce.
Living customs
Clothing. In towns, men with better families wear more tweed coats, leather suits, leather jackets, trench coats, duck down jackets, down jackets, cotton leisure suits, cotton shirts, thermal underwear, knitted sweaters, woolen sweaters and so on in winter. The average family wears ordinary cotton clothes, sweaters and so on. Summer focus on short-sleeved shirts, short-sleeved T-shirts, shirts, pants or Western-style pants, etc., the conditions of the good fabric, style, generally care more about cool just. Spring and fall generally wear suits, long-sleeved T-shirts, jackets, casual wear, sportswear, etc., the agency staff or young men to wear a tie. Fabrics more pursuit of wool or cotton fabrics, style pay attention to novelty, generous, decent. In addition to wearing leather sandals in summer, other seasons mainly wear leather shoes, casual shoes or travel shoes, some men wear cotton shoes in winter. Elderly people mostly wear cloth shoes, and primary and secondary school students wear sandals in summer and travel shoes in other times. With the improvement of economic conditions in rural areas, men's attire has also changed a lot, buying ready-made clothes or ordering them throughout the year, and most of them wear suits, jackets or casual clothes in spring and fall, only of a lower grade and without speaking of brands. Most men, especially young men also wear leather shoes. Women's clothing more varieties of colors, styles updated faster. In winter, women wear coats, duck down jackets and pants, leather jackets, sweaters, thermal underwear, cotton dresses, etc. In summer, they wear dresses, jumpers, and other clothing. In summer, they wear skirts, dresses, T-shirts, pleated skirts, breeches, undershirts, casual shirts, short skirts or shorts. In spring and fall, they mainly wear suits, jackets, cardigans, long skirts, hemmed skirts, fit pants, pants, jeans and so on. Wear shoes, high-heeled shoes, leather sandals, boots, etc., bright colors and styles. Some enterprises and service industries wear specialized uniforms. Students have school uniforms, wear during major events or major festivals, usually wear sportswear or casual wear.
Diet, Luohe eating habits for three meals a day. City dwellers eat more breakfast rice, soybean milk, milk, poached eggs, doughnuts, hot soup, meat box, oil cake, small dumplings, bean foam, etc.. Lunch to soup noodles, noodles, noodles, fried noodles, rice, lo mein, dumplings, etc., mainly to eat rice, more than a few dishes fried with chicken or fish for food. Dinner is still customarily thin rice, buns and vegetables, but the variety of vegetables has increased and the quality has improved. Consumption structure changes, pasta has dropped significantly, fast growth in side dishes, usually basic uninterrupted meat, chicken, fish, eggs, etc., in pursuit of nutritional, diversified and tasty, so that on New Year's Day residents do not know what to eat, jokingly said that "every day is New Year's Eve". Roughage cornmeal, bean noodles, sweet potato noodles, millet and other urban residents have become a hot food to regulate taste and increase a variety of nutrients. The city is generally at home around the table eating habits, in addition to breakfast, mostly eat while watching TV, or discuss the international and domestic situation and local news. Rural diet is still based on staple foods, all fine grains. Breakfast mostly eat rice, steamed buns, dishes to seasonal dishes, with savory dishes, part of the good conditions of the family also drink soybean milk, eating doughnuts. Lunch mainly eat soup noodles or noodles, sometimes also eat lo mein, rice and dumplings, usually guests or festivals. In the evening, it is still mainly thin rice, buns and simple dishes. Rural customary meal, more end of the meal with a bun to the street or the shade of the string of rice field, while eating and chatting, talk about the past and present.
Residence, before the nineties, the city residents housing to cottage-based, part of the building, mostly public housing. Into the nineties, the building gradually replaced the cottage, residential housing to unit housing free of charge to live in the main, the floor is mostly five, six layers, the structure of the two-room and three-room hall, the area of more than 60-90 square meters. 1995, after the abolition of all public housing, housing commercialization, housing area has been gradually expanding to 100-160 square meters of the majority of people, the structure of the two-room hall, three-room hall development to the four-room hall. The structure has also developed from the original two rooms and one hall, three rooms and one hall to four rooms and one hall, three rooms and two halls, four rooms and two halls, and the emergence of double-bathroom, semi-duplex, duplex and other structures. Good conditions of the residents of the family more choose to buy their own land to build villas, exclusive courtyard, living area of less than 100 square meters, more than 300 square meters or more, a minimum of two floors, more up to four floors. The decoration is becoming more and more luxurious, and the cost of decoration for some families even exceeds the purchase price. Rural housing is self-built exclusive courtyard, cottage, tile house and part of the building, fewer than three, more than five, six, with a kitchen, the building is generally two-story. Each house has a courtyard wall and a gate. Structures are mostly pursued to be beautiful and spacious, and the interior is divided into bedrooms, living rooms, suites, and storage rooms, etc. The quality of construction materials is also required to be increasingly high. The quality of construction materials is also getting higher and higher, with bricks, cement, prefabricated boards, iron windows and doors, or aluminum alloy doors and windows. Indoor also pay attention to simple decoration, with paint powder wall, cement pavement, part of the floor tiles, the exterior wall is mostly cement wall surface.
Travel, city residents go out or commute to work generally to ride bicycles, motorcycles, buses, cabs, bicycles to the 24-type tilt-beam car is the main motorcycle to 125-type scooter is the main, there are a few families to buy a small car, van. Most of them choose to travel by train or car, and more and more of them take airplanes if they are in good condition. Rural travel transportation is mainly bicycles, four-wheeled tractors and agricultural tricycles, out of the distance is to choose to take the car and train.
With the use of urban households are basically on the use of color television sets, refrigerators, washing machines. Heating using electric heating, air conditioning, small boilers or units of centralized heating, refrigeration to electric fans, air conditioning-based. Pagers were once popular, and then gradually eliminated with the launch of cell phones, which have become the main communication tool for office workers and the business community. Household telephones are basically popularized. Computers have entered the homes of ordinary residents, mostly on the Internet. Kitchen cookware has basically been electrified, and electric rice cookers, pressure cookers, microwave ovens and so on have become commonly used kitchen utensils. Rural color television sets are basically universal, refrigerators, washing machines, air conditioners, telephones, cell phones, computers and so on have entered some farmers' homes.
Recreation, the elderly recreational activities in parks, squares, qigong, tai chi, sword practice, gate ball, poker, mahjong, aerobics, chess, etc., or raising birds, planting flowers, fishing, etc., to spend their days. The recreational activities of young and middle-aged people and primary and secondary school students are mainly dancing in dance halls, singing karaoke in love song rooms, watching videos in video halls, playing games in electronic game halls, chatting in Internet cafes, playing billiards, etc. The first dance hall appeared in the city in the summer of 1987, and then a variety of entertainment venues were opened one after another. As of the end of 2000, the city **** there are song and dance halls, love song room 40, 30 electronic game halls, pool (table) ball room 40, home, 14 video screening halls, rental, retail audio-visual stores 30, 242 Internet cafes.
Appellation
In the eighties, "comrade" appellation is more prevalent, people are called comrades, only the factory enterprises to call the old comrades as master. In the organization, the subordinate called the leader to call his position, peer young people call the old comrades as teachers, old comrades called the young people to call his name. In the nineties, there were fewer and fewer people calling "comrade", especially in the late nineties, almost no one called "comrade" any more, and men were called "Mr.", and women were called "Ms." if they had been married for more than a year. For men, they call them "Mr.", for women who have been married for more than a year, they call them "Ms.", and for unmarried young women, they call them "Miss". Most enterprises and some organizations address the head of the unit as "boss". Male cab drivers are called "Brother" and female cab drivers are called "Sister", and friends chatting on the Internet are called "Netizens" and those surfing the Internet are called "Netizens". "The first time I saw this, it was a very good time for me.