In Shenzhen's Lotus Hill Park dating corner, Zhou Dehua's marriage advertisement is the most eye-catching. 67 years old, he is the corner of the oldest marriage seeker, advertisement posted, will cause a lot of discussion. "Are you the person who is looking for a husband?" "Why are you so old and still come to the dating corner?" An aunt in her 50s asked Zhou Dehua.
"It's me. Living alone suffers ah, so I want to find an old partner to have a dependence in old age." Zhou Dehua touched his bald head and held his glasses with some embarrassment, then added, "Do you have a suitable person around you? Introduce me to one?" In the past year, Zhou Dehua came to the park every week to see if his marriage advertisement had been torn down, and he had contacted dozens of matchmakers, all of whom were not successful. Because Zhou Dehua looking for a partner conditions are a bit high, he asked the other party is not only a square dance partner, but also with his "business", and in the future with him to travel around China and the world.
Today, he has become an old patron of the park's dating scene and is still waiting for his love in the park, which he hopes to find before he turns 70.
After a two-hour bus ride, 67-year-old Zhou Dehua arrived at the Lotus Hill Matchmaking Corner early in the morning to see if his advertisement was okay. If it was wet and dirty, he repaired it, and if it had been replaced, he re-pasted it, something he does every week.
It was raining that day, and the advertisement he had posted a week earlier was still there, but it had been dampened by the rain and the writing was a little blurred. Edward Zhou took out a new advertisement and covered it with the original paper. In order to prevent the ad from being flooded again, he also added a waterproof film to the A4 paper.
67-year-old man looking for true love
Zhou Dehua was wearing a black T-shirt, blue jeans and a pair of white loafers, wearing a pair of gold glasses, looking very fashionable, and left a bald head, he looks a lot smaller than his actual age.
"You're welcome to say that I was a handsome man in my unit when I was young." Zhou Dehua said with a big smile. On Zhou Dehua's marriage advertisement, he describes himself as follows: "Male, 67 years old, Jiangxi, plumbing and electrical repairman, with a monthly income of 2,800 yuan. To find something to do with the old partner, children or friends have the best factory, if the other party has the idea of entrepreneurship, they can partner. Hope the other half can cook, can eat some spicy, can drive the best, age is not limited. I have a house, store, car, all left to my woman." Because of the fear of their own marriage advertisement was torn down, he specially in the end of the text marked a "far away, hope to stay a few more days".
The reporter asked him why he did not post his photo in the advertisement, Zhou Dehua said, that is too high-profile, if someone is really interested in their own interesting, surely he can find him, you can first contact by phone, if the two sides of the personality to get along with, and then about to meet it is not too late.
The park's Matchmaking Corner was originally a place for the "Post-80s" and "Post-90s" to find true love, and the occasional "Post-70" has been very eye-catching, but Zhou is the only "Post-50" in the park. But Zhou Dehua is the only one who is "after 50". Zhou Dehua's daughter lives in the Lotus Hill Park neighborhood, a chance, he went to the Lotus Hill Park to play, found the park's south gate has a dating corner.
Zhou Dehua was very excited at that time and felt that "his chance" had come. That night, behind his daughter's back, he handwrote a marriage advertisement, before and after the revision of four or five times, although not quite satisfied, but he still took to the print store, so that the store typist to help him type out.
At first, Zhou put the advertisement out, around the eyes of the older women and uncles are brushed to him, Zhou like a thief to escape.
Later, Zhou realized that his skin was too thin. Whenever someone came up to look at his marriage ads, he would take the initiative to greet them, "Do you have anyone around to introduce me to?"
"I was actually a bit torn at first. Many people provide inaccurate or even false information on blind dates, talking themselves up. Putting an annual income of 100,000 yuan as 300,000 yuan. I also wondered whether I should beautify myself a bit, because if I made myself look better, I would get more chances of getting a blind date. Then think about it or forget it, to be honest, otherwise, in the future, the blind date met, found the information in the advertisement for marriage is false, but not good, people will think you are a liar. What I wrote is true."
Accidentally became a blind date "nail households"
Zhou Dehua's hometown is Xinyu, Jiangxi Province, when he was young as a soldier. He described himself: "I was 17 years old from my hometown in Jiangxi to Hebei when the railroad soldiers, daily meals 48 cents, open caves to build a bridge technology first-class, I will not only welder, but also turners, pliers." Lao Zhou retired before the Xinyu Iron and Steel Group, an electrician, he was confident in his ability to work. Speaking of his own youthful scenery, his words box some can not be closed, "at that time to find a daughter-in-law to eat commercial food is not easy ah, I was looking for a eat commercial food, around the boys are envious of me. Our iron and steel plant workers have tens of thousands of people, summer heat subsidies, sweet and sour flavored soda to the home a carry is a box, each person can be divided into 50 pounds of watermelon to relieve the summer heat. At that time, my salary was more than 800 yuan." Zhou Dehua's thoughts seem to go back 30 years.
1987, when the social popularity of the sea, Zhou Dehua also in the friends of the urge to come to Shenzhen alone to fight, and then back to Xinyu, Zhou Dehua feel uncomfortable everywhere, "from the day I came out, I know I can not go back."
In 1997, Zhou Dehua and his wife divorced.
"I have a son and a daughter who are now in their 40s and have families. But I can't count on them for my future retirement, so I need someone around to take care of them. I also need to earn some more capital for my retirement in these few years." After saying this, Zhou Dehua sighed several times one after another.
In Shenzhen for 30 years, Zhou Dehua has been a security guard, plumber, garment factory workers, before and after the change of a dozen jobs, and now is considered a successful career. He has several suites in Shenzhen.
"I've been working in Shenzhen for so many years, and I've got some savings. After I retired, I found another job in plumbing and electrical repairs, but last year the company laid off workers and I was almost laid off because I was old and the unit felt it was a bit unsafe to let me work as a plumber. That gave me a sense of crisis. I know that there are very few people who are still working at almost 70, but I just can't be idle, and that's why I have the idea of trying to find an old partner to 'start a business' with, so that old age will also be more fulfilling, and the quality of my retirement life will be higher."
Willing to transfer the property to the woman?
Lao Zhou said the effect of posting marriage advertisements in the dating corner is still very obvious, and he receives two or three calls almost every week. "It's hard to find old people who are willing to start a business together, but I still want to try." A year has passed, he briefly interacted with no less than 30 blind dates, the oldest 70 years old, the youngest is only 40 years old, but in the end none of them can come together. Unconsciously, he has also become an old patron on the dating corner, and several old people who often come here to the dating corner to find a match for their daughters recognize him.
Lao Zhou said that although he is only an electrician, he has a healthy lifestyle and insists on reading every day. Although now older, but the body is very good, high blood pressure, heart disease, coronary heart disease, arthropathy, these common diseases in the elderly he all do not, a breath of air can climb up to nine floors, the atmosphere are not a breath. He reads a lot of books on health and travel.
Today, the only wish of the old Zhou is to find a suitable person, together with a small inn, kiosk, or a small factory, even if the old is not idle. "Like I'm so old and still say I want to start a business, a lot of friends are laughing at me, saying you're so old and still tossing. In fact, I just want to, people old how can not fight again?"
A year down the line, the contact of the blind date one after another, but the fruit of love has never been ripe. Zhou Dehua also began to reflect on where the problem lies. He believes that there are four reasons: first, he is 67 years old, can find most of the divorced or widowed, but most of the elderly have retired, at home to spend their days, or retired to play mahjong, square dancing, none of the elderly are willing to continue to start a business after retirement; secondly, he asked the woman is more trendy, can not be too old-fashioned, the woman should be willing to travel the mountains and play with their own, a lot of old people also do not meet the This is a requirement that many old people do not fulfill.
But Edward Chow said he was absolutely sincere in his matchmaking.
Daughter: public marriage is too high-profile
This time, Zhou Dehua is out of the box, for the face, discussion, and his daughter's opposition, he is all put behind him. The daughter did not support his public recruitment, and felt that this is too high-profile, for an old man in his 60s seems a bit "unorthodox".
Zhou Dehua's daughter said she is still upset about her father's divorce from her mother.
"I think my story is very inspiring. There's nothing wrong with pursuing my love at my age." In addition to starting his own business, Lao Zhou hopes to travel all over China in his car with his partner. To this end, he also took a special driving license in October 2015, "When I went to take the driving license test, everyone stared at me like a giant panda. I was the oldest of all the colleges that took the driving license test." He hopes that his old companion had better be able to drive as well. Because if he wants to travel around the country, it's definitely not possible for him to drive alone, and he needs two people to take turns driving. His dream is that in the future the old couple can buy a caravan, remove the back seat, put a bed inside, and then the old couple will drive around China and even the world. To this end, he is also prepared to learn English.
Previously, he dated an aunt in her 50s, and the woman's family conditions are very good, and she has a number of suites in Shenzhen, and the two sides are quite talkative, and the woman is very supportive of his entrepreneurial plans. The woman's children also suspected that he "impure motives", which makes Zhou Dehua feel very wronged.
Faced with a reporter's camera, Zhou Dehua spoke out his own declaration of marriage: "I hope that after two years, my annual income can reach 95,000 yuan, and after three years, my annual income can reach 115,000 yuan. If you want to age well, then please contact me.
Zhou Dehua has also set a final schedule for himself, and he hopes to find a suitable partner before he turns 70. If he still can't find one at 70, he is prepared to find a nanny.