Since it's the elders, it's better to show some good respect. It is better to say smiley face than you yourself to make the chat interesting. Just try to let the elders talk more and you eat more.
There are really no words, ask more elders who are good at cooking, ask for advice on how to cook; like square dancing, talk about square dancing team of some small interesting things; like playing Tai Chi, talk about some kicking interesting things, the essence of martial arts; love to play mahjong, talk about poker skills; love antiques, if there is no specialty, on the short of it, simply say that the relatives of the relatives of the family are living how ah, relatives of the children are doing what ah.
But in fact this problem does not exist in my family. We don't have a large-scale dinner party on New Year's Eve, basically parents and grandparents and so on eat together, because usually often live in the grandparents' house, but the relationship is more familiar than the parents.
The problem of age is certainly there, but thankfully my family doesn't fight over different ideas, and everyone is relatively independent, living in their own way.
I think it may be that the owner's self-acceptance is not enough, not confident enough, dinner party afraid of their eyes or talk about the transfer of their own body, the heart of the conditioned face of the same uncomfortable, want to escape, in fact, often the most afraid of things it will not affect you what, the inner activities only. Just not willing to step out that step, because although they are relatives or elders, or very powerful characters, but we just need to remember that they are also people, people just want to be recognized, they are not listed. Go for it, you too can be the shining one in the crowd, be spontaneous and you'll be more comfortable oh.
You can talk to your parents if you feel awkward, and if you can get by on the surface, you can apply not to go to the less important dinners, or you can say that you have an appointment with someone on that day, and you don't have time to go. I'm afraid that the first thing that comes up seems to be very familiar with the general ask questions, especially after growing up, ask about love, work, salary and so on. In short, the love between people is to get along with each other, just based on a blood relationship, is nothing.