When I was back in the city during the winter vacation, I saw a scene where an old mother was sending her young daughter to school at the entrance of the train station, looking at her daughter who was about to leave the city, her eyes were full of longing, she said happily that her daughter got into a university in the city, and she had a lot of success.
I believe that such an expression of reluctance has appeared in the hearts of many long-distance travelers. Every time we leave home we are sad, but this sadness is very short-lived, and it may not even take a day before it subsides and is forgotten.
Big cities have friends, buddies, sisters, and careers ...... In between our busy schedules, we seldom think of our parents and relatives in our hometowns, and even lack the patience to listen to them properly. Moreover, they speak sometimes very annoying, single, will urge you to find a boyfriend, girlfriend; after marriage, will urge you to have children; have a child, and will say, hurry up to have a second child ...... We have a variety of reasons and their theories, in the end, do not want to talk to them.
But, parents are old ah, old how lonely ah. Moreover, their world is so small, so small that it's all about you, and they will only grow old in peace when you are happy.
So, the sign of maturity of a person is to be able to listen to your parents well, to be able to stand in their point of view, to understand their uneasiness, and to appease their anxiety through communication, so that they feel that no matter whether you're single or unmarried at the moment, whether you have a child or not, you're all happy, and in this way, they will be contented.
But how many people can really listen to their parents?
On one occasion when I was working in a supermarket, I saw an old lady who came to the supermarket for a few days in a row, and she didn't buy anything. When she saw me doing an activity in the food and oil activity area that I was in charge of, she came over to talk to me.
She said she was old, she was alone in the house, her son and daughter-in-law went to work and didn't have time to spend with her, and she didn't like to stay at home alone, bored out of her mind.
Her partner left her a few years ago, and now she lives with her son. Though under one roof, they are both busy and don't have time to talk to her.
Today, her son came back from a big family trip and went to eat seafood in the evening, so that she could cook noodles for herself. She didn't want to cook noodles, so she wanted to eat some dumplings. But there is no one to eat with her, she had no choice but to go out, to come to the supermarket, at least a little lively.
I talked to her a lot, and she told me a lot of things about their family life, and her mood was much smoother.
The activity will be very busy after 8 pm, I also began to busy customers, so I said to the old lady, you can come over to chat with me, I have been working in this supermarket.
After saying that, the old lady's eyes were red, tears fell, she immediately turned her head, and did not dare to look at me, and said, "It has been a long time since someone so patiently listen to me as an old lady nagging, thank you ah girl." Then he waved his hand and said, "You work first, get busy." It was just an unfamiliar encounter, listening to her say a few words, and as a result the old lady treated me like a family member, so trusting and unforgiving.
I felt very sad, I suddenly thought of my own parents, but also thought of my own old age ......
Sometimes I feel that I have not been as good to my mom as I was to this strange old grandmother, I always don't really like to listen to them, I feel that nagging. I suddenly remembered a while ago, my mom asked me to teach her how to use WeChat, I taught her five times in a row and she still didn't know how to use it, so I got a little impatient and a little bit upset, but I didn't lash out at my mom.
Mom is an old woman from the countryside, the farthest she has traveled is to the county town, and she didn't have the opportunity to go to school when she was a child, and she can't read a few words, so she doesn't know how to use electronic products.
I have always felt that I am still filial piety, know that my mother loves beauty, then let her use my skin care products; I am out to play to see the delicious, but also always bring a share of my mother; worried about her body, but also to encourage her to go to more sports, you can dance square dance, I hope she can know more old ladies; I bought her a new cell phone, teach her to send micro-blogging; occasionally not busy, go home for the holidays, I will also make her a meal ...... but I never took the time to talk to her, and even lacked patience.
I remember one time, I was at work, WeChat rang, it was from my mother. Because the night before I used her cell phone to play a game, in order not to make her rest, I turned off the sound. The next day, my mother messaged me, saying that I couldn't hear the sound of the voice sent by others, and asked me what to do.
I told her in which position, how to open the sound, let her try, two or three back and forth after the mother said or not ah, I was impatient, thinking so simple how can not ah. So she said, "Mom, I'm at work, I don't have time to help you get, wait for me to come back from work." After this sentence was sent, the mother went quiet and never sent another message.
Later, my mother really made some good friends, and when I was at work, she didn't look for me to play much anymore, but as soon as I came home from vacation, she would follow me around and talk to me a lot, all about trivial little details.
The moment we leave home, we are always a thousand reluctant, and even tears fall.
But filial piety in fact there are many ways, not just the New Year's home to the time to bring supplements, buy clothes jewelry. There is a kind of filial piety, very simple, but very difficult to do. That is to listen well to parents. We have grown up and seen a very wide world, and our parents parents are getting old, their world is getting smaller and smaller, and the last thing we can hold on to is that there is still our world.
My boss Yan is a thunderous, say nothing woman, but she has a soft spot, is her mother, whether she is giving us a meeting, or we go to the movies together shopping, as long as the mother called, she will immediately pick up, the tone of voice is also instantly softened, no matter what the mother said, she patiently listened to, and never listened to her lose her temper, and did not show the slightest impatience.
Later, we realized that her father passed away a long time ago, and it was her mother who brought her up. It was hard for her to enjoy the blessings, but she got Alzheimer's disease.
She said, "When my mother was young, she was a fierce woman, no matter how hard she worked, she didn't lower her head like other people, until she brought up the five of us, my siblings, and now my children are 18 years old and studying in college. ..."
The old man didn't recognize anyone, but he still recognized her as his youngest daughter, and liked to talk to her on the phone. And I completely understood Yan's softness at this moment.
She told us, "Don't wait until your parents don't recognize us before you show them your love and have the patience to listen to them. They don't really want much at all, so what does it matter if you listen to them more and just listen to whatever they say? You are their daughter, is their biggest worry, she does not talk to you, with whom to say it ......"
Listen to your parents well, because from the moment you leave home, you have grown up, and they are gradually aging, becoming older and older! ......
The so-called parents and children a, but it is just a gradual walk away, they see us running to every tomorrow, but they are more and more lonely, this time we also need to know how to tender companionship, patiently listen to parents.