In the stage of earning a living, the work and yourself as a tool to make money, even if you do not do anything, you will feel very hard, every day back pain, every day live in the complaint.
In the entrepreneurial stage, just take the work or business as a thing to do, feel so hard to do things, no one to help.
Entrepreneur stage: feel life all the way open, do anything as if God's help, all the valuable people and resources will be mountains and mountains to you over.
Looking back, I've gone through the making a living stage, and now I'm in the entrepreneur stage.
I was born in a remote and poor mountain village in Yixing, Jiangsu Province, and my parents taught me from a young age that studying was my only way out.
From elementary school to junior high school, I was always "other people's children", well-behaved, obedient, capable and good grades, was the first child in the village to go to college. I was the first in my village to go to college. Just as my dream was about to set sail, my mother left us in my sophomore year due to illness.
The pain of losing my mother accompanied me throughout my college career, and in order to take care of my father and younger siblings, I obeyed the assignment and came to Wuxi, which is relatively close to my hometown, to work in the finance and insurance industry.
Specialized counterparts, income is good, I am in order to get married and have children, work and work, two o'clock and one line, the trajectory of life seems to be so leading to the end.
This is my stage of earning a living, engaging in the profession I studied in college, and in a Fortune 500 state-owned enterprise, but I don't feel happy. Although it took me only six years to make it from the lowest level of counter service staff to middle management, but after twenty years there was no breakthrough, encountered the ceiling of the workplace. I didn't like my job and saw the company and myself merely as a tool to make money. In the early years, I often worked overtime, left early and returned late, had no time to take care of my family, and felt that my children were growing up in their sleep. The latter years do not have to work overtime often, numbly 9 to 5, every day live in the complaint.
In this way, 26 years have passed, and in the blink of an eye, we are entering middle age.
Drucker said in his book, Midlife is an Encounter, how to get through the rest of your life:
When you reach mid-life, you will be faced with career bottlenecks, mental exhaustion, and physical burnout, but you will also have the internal drive to revisit the meaning of life and even the urgency to re-examine the meaning of life.
As a small person, the workplace encountered bottlenecks, burnout, which is a difficult thing to avoid. Especially in a state-owned enterprise where you have no control over your own destiny, your position is not your own decision, no matter how much talent you have, how hard you work, because the position is limited, there are all kinds of intricate relationships, all kinds of hooks, all kinds of interests, all need to be able to adapt to be able to live with.
In 2009, my father passed away due to illness, which made my mid-life crisis go further. The sadness of not being able to wait for my parents and the burnout in the workplace made me physically and mentally exhausted.
At this time, my father-in-law was admitted to the hospital with cancer. With surgery, radiation, chemotherapy, and more than twelve hours a day in the hospital, my husband and I were close to the brink of collapse.
Four elders three cancer , once and for all let me realize the precious health.
As the saying goes, you don't know which will come first, the unexpected or tomorrow. The accident came when I was heartbroken at a job where I could see retirement at a glance.On October 8, 2016, I handed over my job and returned to my family.
I was "separated" from my job because of my age! I turned 48 that year.
My father-in-law's illness required further treatment, and my son was studying in the United States, all of which required expenses, while I was "laid off" at mid-life, a mid-life crisis that left me close to depression.
Perhaps it was fate that brought me to the lowest point in my life, when I met the opportunity to start my own business, and I began the second stage of my entrepreneurial journey - the entrepreneur.
On a chance, I saw a case shared by a former colleague in my circle of friends. I took the initiative to seek her advice, because of the simple belief, I began to try the products she recommended. Unconsciously, my twenty years of heavy constipation and sensitive gum bleeding, my daughter's menstrual cramps, my mother-in-law's high blood pressure, and my husband's inability to donate blood due to his sub-health have all been improved. This makes our whole family recognize the product.
Such a good product, I want to share it with my friends. Apart from benefiting from the product, the main thing is that the pressure of life, the mid-life crisis, and the dream of my life have forced me to want an extra income and to change the status quo.
While on the outside I am a mute and quiet "beautiful man", in fact, in my bones, I am a "little girl" who pursues freedom and dreams. When I was in college, one of my favorite sayings was "no freedom, no death". I have always had a dream, and Mr. each backpack, hand in hand with the end of the world, travel around the world, while seeing the beautiful scenery, while tasting the food, while recording the thoughts, thoughts, sights and sounds.
The stereotypical boring workplace is not my favorite, and square dancing, traveling, and taking care of the kids, cooking, and taking care of the third generation of the elderly is not what I want. I don't want to live a routine life anymore, I want to be an interesting and informative person with stories and tastes, who can help more people and make my life worth living.
However, the ideal is very rich, but the reality is very bony. When I wanted to roll up my sleeves and go for it, I encountered misunderstanding and obstruction from my husband and family. Due to the lack of proper communication, we went from heated arguments to speechless silence, to avoidance, until we were on the verge of breaking up.
This is not the result I wanted. I longed for my family's understanding and support, but I didn't know what to do, and a deep sense of powerlessness haunted me. In the most uncertain and helpless moment, I began to embark on the road of self-growth and self-redemption. I began to study everywhere, enrolled in various courses, but wherever there is a little help, I feel that I have grabbed the straw that saves the day.
Nearly three years, I was like this in the dark groping forward, but all around the wall, confused, anxious, fear, helpless, can not find the direction of travel; I desire to bloom their own, but into the inferiority complex and helplessness.
Fortunately, in January 2020, I attended a Law of Attraction offline book club. That time I felt I saw a ray of light again, and I thought that this ray of light might be able to illuminate the path of my life, guide me out of the darkness of fear, and retrieve that once carefree, mischievous, all day cheeky, happy self.
So on July 7, 2020, I decided to continue my entrepreneurial journey. This time I will be able to use the right brain, attract the resources I need to enter my life, get out of the confusion of entrepreneurship, embark on a rapid increase in energy channel, find their mission in life, and realize the value of life.