A marriage in which the mother-in-law intervenes too much will in all likelihood lead to divorce. The daughter-in-law will feel aggrieved, and the man will feel even more aggrieved, because he can't afford to offend either his mother or his wife. It seems that only the mother-in-law feels that everything she does is for her son.
Even if she doesn't have a daughter-in-law, she still has the ability to marry another wife for her son until she finds a daughter-in-law that she is happy with. Some mothers-in-law's thinking is incomprehensible. She thinks that everything she does is "for the good of her son", but the real "good" is not the "good" in her eyes. The mother's goodness to her son can only be considered when the son recognizes it and affirms it.
Otherwise, the mother is just "wishful thinking", and the son will not only not appreciate her love, but also resent his mother for the failure of the marriage.
The feeling of losing more than you can afford, the feeling of losing a wife and a soldier, I think a lot of mothers who have become mothers-in-law have experienced. In fact, all the mothers could have lived a more relaxed life, away from their sons and daughters-in-law a little farther, their own peace of mind in their old age is not good.
Zhang Ke has always known that his mother's character is strong, she and his father have been married for many years, and his father has never listened to his mother, and he doesn't dare to breathe. When Zhang Ke was young, he realized that as long as his mother was happy at home, the whole family was happy, and if she was not happy, the whole family did not have a good time.
So, Zhang Ke told himself at a very young age that he must not live with his mother when he gets married in the future, and all these years and all these days, he felt he had had enough.
Unexpectedly, after Zhang Ke had a marriage partner, his mother took the initiative to come and live with them. Zhang Ke politely refused, and from then on, it was his mother who had a two-month-long cold war with him.
The father said that on days when Zhang Ke was not at home, his mother cried when she thought of her son. She was especially sad when she saw other people's families with three generations living together and thought of her son not wanting to live with her. There was no other way, Zhang Ke just had to back down on the matter.
Until the time of divorce, Zhang Ke was still blaming himself, if he had known that there would be such an end, he would not have agreed to live with his mother. After the marriage, the wife and mom living under the same roof, the conflict gradually more and more. The mother does not allow Zhang Ke to do any housework, no matter what time the daughter-in-law is busy, do not allow the son to intervene a little.
The mother also discussed with her daughter-in-law to take over her payroll card, saying she was worried about her spending money. What Zhang Ke can not agree with is that his wife is pregnant, but the mother thinks it is a matter of indifference, there is no need to rest, it is best to stick to the last day before delivery.
Daughter-in-law's vomiting she did not hurt, but instead "teach" his son, "which woman does not give birth to a child ah, are like this." The first time I saw this, I was able to see the woman's face, and I was able to see her face.
Zhang Ke is not too assured that his wife gave birth to a child with him a surname, how to bother the in-laws. The mother said, "Let her go back, do the month and then come back. I'm not well, I can't serve her."
It was always thought that Zhang Ke's wife would not take anything from her mother-in-law, but this statement really touched her bottom line. In this way, Zhang Ke couple hid from everyone, received a divorce certificate.
From then on, Zhang Ke's face never smiled again. Instead, his mother was particularly happy and joyful every day, either going out to square dance or making appointments to go out on trips with her former colleagues. Zhang Ke has found the feeling of being single, without a wife and without a mom, and almost every day he goes home alone.
When his ex-wife gave birth to a child, Zhang Ke has been in the hospital to guard, after his mother learned that he let him go home early, saying that the child was born naturally someone told him.
Zhang Ke does not understand a bit, the mother is also a woman, why the daughter-in-law of this woman so cruel and desperate it. Two days and two nights later, his ex-wife gave birth to a girl, and at that moment Zhang Ke cried especially hard. He became a father, but he, a father, can not always be with his daughter.
When Zhang Ke has time, he goes to his ex-wife's place and looks at the cute little baby in her swaddling clothes, and each time he can't get enough of it. He has been fighting for his ex-wife's forgiveness, hoping that she can remarry him for the sake of the child. And his ex-wife's only request for remarriage is that she no longer lives with her mother-in-law. This is a bit difficult for Zhang Ke.
One day his mother said to Zhang Ke, "Your wife's month is almost over, go to your mother-in-law's house to pick her up," and as soon as the words came out of his mouth, Zhang Ke's eyes turned red, and he said, "Mom, I don't have a wife anymore."
The mother realized that her son and daughter-in-law had divorced, she did not persuade and said, "Anyway, she gave birth to a girl, mom find you another wife, quasi-guaranteed to have a child."
I think: If Zhang Ke had been a little firmer in the beginning, perhaps his marriage would not have lost so badly. There is hope for him and his ex-wife, the big deal is that he went out and rented a house to live in, leaving the matrimonial home to his mother. Maybe the old man should be allowed to think for himself about how serious the problem is with her.
Being a parent is enough as long as the son and daughter-in-law are happy in their marriage, or at least how the young couple lives is their own business. There is a generation gap between the young and the old, and the old genuinely don't need to care too much. If you get involved too much, just like Zhang Ke's marriage, he lost his wife and daughter, and I believe he will lose his old mom in the near future.
Between parents and children, there are things that children can compromise, but there are things that must be adhered to in the end. As long as it is not a matter of principle, you must take your own thoughts as the main, even if the parents are angry is also a moment.
In the future, when you are happy and full of appear in front of them, they have long been not angry. The premise is whether you know how to be happy in your own marriage.