My neighbor's sister-in-law and I are the same, are married from afar, there is a very close feeling of talking also have **** the same language, when I got married, she has two children, looking at her life is tortured by exhaustion, inexplicable heartache, she looked at me shy and can be, too late to repent ...
So, after the wedding, I packed two big bags of candy! I was so happy to see her that I was able to get her to eat it. I didn't expect her to become my family's lingering nightmare for the next two years!
Every morning, as long as I open the door to the hall, less than two minutes, she was carrying a bowl, in my front door called: Xiaojie, just get up ah? This is a good day ah ......
I heard, I went to open the door to her, if pretending not to know, she will not immediately go away, but continue to turn around, send the bowl home, and then come over to wait for me to open the door, perennial so, rain or shine.
When I opened the door, she led the child, beside me to say this and that, last night's dream ah, the child said a wisecrack ah, the old rooster chirping ah, the old hen does not lay eggs ah, planted vegetables sprouting ah ......
At first, I will cooperate with her a bit, later, week after week like this, I also didn't want to hmmm a bit.
She was there relentlessly talking about what she wanted to say, and I made my breakfast, made it good, let her and the kids eat, and if she ate, she didn't crave any more.
When I had eaten and finished brushing the pots and pans, I was ready to do the laundry, when she was tired of talking, she went back to drink some water, and in the meantime, she also scrubbed and brushed the pots and pans in her own house.
To my surprise, she went back to the end of a large pot of clothes, adults, children and husband's, said: your home pressure well out of the water Knight, in your home to wash, we can also talk.
I haven't reacted yet, she was fierce and strong pressure of two large pots of water, began to wash and brush, let me angry, underwear and underwear also used to wash, all washed, she took it upon herself to put the dehydrator plugged into the electricity, said: take off a little bit of forget about it in your home, back and forth to get also troublesome, your home space, in the cool sunshine in the forget about it.
Then, and quickly find a rope to tie the mark, take the drying rack, the whole process, more skillful than their own home, not at all avoid underwear underwear was my husband saw the embarrassment.
After the clothes were washed, she went back to do lunch, and so I have not started to do, she came over with the rice, said: Xiaojie, spicy hot pot is good, do you want to eat together?
Continuing to talk about her endless words, I finished eating and brushed the pot, she also sent the bowl back to wash it, and then came to collect the clothes, chatting, and even sat in my yard to brush the video, to the point, to go to the village entrance to pick up her daughter from school, to receive also did not forget to give me a greeting.
After going back to cook, carrying a bowl of rice and ask me to go to the square dance, after a good dance, also do not go home, continue to come to my house chatting, catch up with the drama, sometimes, I'm sleepy, she does not know to go, but still sitting there as if nothing happened, talking about some of the things that do not have a border.
She had to go back to sleep only when her children were sleepy.
Whenever this happened, I was so angry that I wanted to scold her, but I couldn't bear to think of her sincerity and kindness.
In fact, the neighbor's sister-in-law, her family is not poor, home appliances and equipment, but she just like to stay in my house, and she does not belong to the kind of people who love to take advantage of the people, nor is it the kind of people who eat and drink.
For example, once, I fell and hurt my back, seven days are her to me end of the food and drink, she did not have any complaints; and once, she went back to her mother's home in Sichuan, from her mother's home to bring over two large ham and dry goods, know that I ate, happy to send me, but also took great pains to give me two hours to explain how to eat ham, I think that this large ham to 1,000 dollars, I give her money, she did not want to, and then the other side of the door, the other side of the door, the other side of the door, the other side of the door, the other side of the door, the other side of the door, the other side of the door, the other side of the door. I gave her the money, but she didn't want it, so she patted her ass and left.
Even so, I still feel that there must be some sense of boundaries between people, I have to let her understand this reason, do not get to the end of the unpleasant, the relationship breaks down.
I tried, explicitly, she did not take it seriously, and when I finally could not stand it, I thought of an eye for an eye.
The first day, she did not get up, I called her, and then loudly tapped on the door of her house, go in and talk without edge, she said: Xiaojie, today you are so early, my child has not yet woken up ...
I also ignore her, continue to talk and laugh out loud, talking about their own nightmares, talking about TV shows, talking about star gossip, she cooks, I surround her! I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do that, and I'm going to be able to do that, and I'm going to be able to do that, and I'm going to be able to do that, and I'm going to be able to do that, and I'm going to be able to do that, and I'm going to be able to do that, and I'm going to be able to do that!
The neighbor's sister-in-law said: "Okay, Xiaojie, you wash first, I go to send the child.
I wash and dry well, but also go back to casually cook a meal, and then end over to eat and chat, chat to the afternoon collection of clothes, I do not go back, and so her daughter after school, I have eaten dinner, sitting in her home loud brush video, catch up with the drama, chatting about the drama, more than nine o'clock, she did not urge me, I do not go until 10:30, said sleepy, I send you back, I went to lock the door.
The next day, I know that her husband came back from vacation, all the other actions as usual, the only thing I took my sexiest underwear and thongs to her house, intentionally washed and dried, intentionally drying in the blind are too obtrusive place to her husband.
9:00 p.m. or so, I know they, small goodbye, dry material, I will not go, I thought, you can not be in my face, do those things.
Fast ten o'clock, the neighbor's sister-in-law finally could not control, said: Xiaojie, quickly go back to bed, it's too late, tomorrow we will talk, I send you to close the door.
The third day, I remain the same, but I knocked on the door when the neighbor's sister-in-law and her husband two people fight, nothing more than: this small Jie how so annoying to death, early in the morning still let a person to sleep not, how so illiterate, do not understand anything?
The night, I also so, neighbor sister-in-law, obviously a little impatient, advised me: Xiaojie, go back to rest early, I will go to you tomorrow!
When the words came to this point, I struck while the iron was hot, said with a smile: you can save it, I will go to bed early and get up early, I want to enjoy the feeling of a family.
The morning of the fourth day, the neighbors did not come, at noon we went shopping, the afternoon went back to their homes to take a lunch break, the evening meal together, dancing a square dance, each went back to their homes to rest.
The fifth day, the sixth day, the seventh day, slowly we like neighbors, and each good neighbors, and occasionally still get together, will also be strung out, but will not take themselves as outsiders, will not have no sense of boundaries, let a person distracted.
Lastly:
Just got married and started a family at that time, who all want to be a well-read, virtuous and capable daughter-in-law, but also want to be like a brother and sister with their neighbors, we have something to do, resting on the wall, shouting, come to your home to help; he smelled your home to do the good food, you can also end the bowl to go to the feast a little bit, which is all built on the premise of the two families know the kindness of the people, the premise, the relationship is maintained need to maintain a certain distance, but not without a sense of boundaries, let people upset. The relationship is maintained by maintaining a sense of distance and boundaries.
If I still condone my neighbor's sister-in-law, and still smother my own unhappiness, I think our relationship will sooner or later collapse, I care about my neighbor's sister-in-law, so I can only use this method, and my neighbor's sister-in-law from now on also understands the understanding of other people, respect for other people's good habits, and also said that we have to be a good neighbor good daughter-in-law it.