San Mao once said: "life confidant need not be more, two or three will be enough."
We used to think that the fewer friends we had around us, the more precious they were, after all, the people who could accompany us were all experiencing memories that were etched in their bones together, and these friends were rare and precious people in our lives.
But, people will change the moon will be round, when with the transfer of time, identity status changes, you and the relationship between friends quietly change, the distance between each other will inevitably lengthen, so the two began to drift apart.
Changed heart of the friends as strangers like strangers, especially for some reasons, and even cause them to look down on you, the first is not to choose to gamble no longer contact, but to try to live out this look.
Some people can't understand why their friends are drifting away from them, and they can't even believe that their buddies are strangers to them.
In the face of these relationship changes, many people can't turn a corner, and their minds keep pondering whether they did something wrong, or their friends have something to hide, and so on to make the relationship broken. This is with a kind of reluctant, unconvinced attitude, on the friend of the change of heart both hate and want to retrieve.
Cousin and a high school classmate relationship is very good, after graduation, but also work together to do small business, the two sides once boasted that "there is money to earn together, brother heart to heart, together to make money to develop a family."
The good times did not last long, the two cooperated for some time, found each other a lot of problems, and then because of the money entanglement, resulting in the relationship between the two slowly changed quality. Later, the cousin re-entered the workplace to work, the high school classmate also began to enter the other industries, the two although not far from each other, but never take the initiative to contact.
That student with some small smarts and connections, in a certain industry mixed with the rise, often large sums of money to invite friends to eat, drink and play, but never called on the cousin. He also said a lot of bad things about his cousin in front of his *** same friends, thinking that he was not a good material for a partner. When his cousin heard this from other friends, he naturally felt furious, and their relationship has since broken down.
For a change in the quality of friendship, we do not have to struggle to stay, even if the two sides meet again, but only to do face and heart and never return to the previous innocent relationship. Smart people will not lose the meaning of friendship in a lament, and will not be depressed from now on can not pull themselves out, should be to stand up again, believe that they are the best people, put down the past, always face the future of the road, I believe that they will be more and more good, but also will meet the fate of the confidant of the friend.
If you put too much weight on a friendship that has changed in quality, and regard a friend who despises you as a treasure, then the person who is most likely to be hurt is yourself.
Every friendship that can't be made, is not solid, can't stand the test, a little bit of shaking will deteriorate, and each other drift away from strangers more than strangers.
Sometimes, too much love you try to please others, humble to cater to others, hoping to repair each other's relationship, this is not a wise approach, in the eyes of others, this is a humble approach, others more despise you.
A truly strong friendship is not so fragile. But where the fragile friendship is not a real friendship, you can not change a friend's heart in exchange for your bitter retention, which is why it is necessary to lower the status to cater to them?
People to a certain age, after getting precipitation, naturally easy to see things light, there is no need to dwell on this, so that their pain is difficult.
The beauty of friends lies in the sincerity, when the relationship between friends has changed, and even friends look down on you, we are not betting on not contacting, but also to find ways to retain. Rather, we must continue to move forward, and you will meet people who are truly worthy of your friendship.