And everyone will have and their own good people, have their own may not like the people.
The characteristics of friendships are different at different ages. When you are young, you are almost always innocent and innocent with your classmates or close friends.
In adulthood, it is necessary to come into contact with the reality of society, whether it is with coworkers, or with friends, more to be more tolerant of the heart to treat.
Then, in later years, how to deal with their own circle of friends? The more friends you have, the better, or fewer and better?
A 68-year-old sister gave the answer: not fit in, in order to feel the three celebrations.
01. less trouble around gossip
Lu big sister this year 68 years old, has been retired for many years she, retirement life is well organized.
People around her are praised for her good state of mind, good spirit, was asked to maintain a good state of know-how, she said: late in life, or not too much of a group.
A lot of people would find it strange, is it not good to fit in? If you have a lot of friends, you'll feel more comfortable, less lonely, and happier.
But Ms. Lu said, "I used to be very sociable, especially when I first retired, I felt that I had no job, I was not used to it, and I seemed to have nothing to do every day.
So I tried to make as many friends as I could, not only with my former colleagues and friends, but also with many new friends, such as square dancers and travelers.
But slowly I realized that friends are actually not much, and a lot of general friends, but may give you a lot of trouble.
Especially some of the older women love to talk about other people's gossip, always talking about others, I don't like this, but also be said to be false high.
Over time, I've drifted away from some of my so-called friends.
In fact, don't force yourself to go to some groups that don't suit you, that's the most crucial thing in your old age.
02. Don't have to cater to other people's emotions
It can be said that on social occasions, everyone should pay attention to their own words and behavior, and pay attention to each other's feelings and emotions.
When you meet a friend who is understanding and reasonable, and your own three views match, naturally, it goes without saying.
Even if you occasionally say a few words wrong, but if you do not quite get along with your friends, you must pay attention to the balance, a little careless, may make the other side have a dissatisfied or unhappy.
So sometimes, if you don't fit in with your friends, or if your opinions and attitudes are too different, you need to push yourself to meet the other person's mood.
And this kind of socialization can be quite tiring.
Lu said, "I just don't like this kind of socialization, why should I force myself to socialize with people I don't agree with? This way to endure their own ideas to cater to others, but will add to the later years.
03. No longer pleasing to the false friends
The reason why I think it is better not to have too many friends, Lu Daisuke also went through a tortuous process to come to a conclusion.
Now recalling the state of the first retirement, Lu said, that time really seems to be very lively, good people, a lot of friends, they have a busy life, but in fact, on reflection, many of them are not too in-depth understanding of the friends.
Even some of the friends themselves are still some disapproval, there are a few sisters, may be the family life is not as good.
Once they get together, they start complaining about their partners, complaining about life, and always seem to be full of negative energy. Initially, she tried to persuade them to reflect more on themselves, and to look at the good side of life.
But a couple of people talked her down instead, and since then she's kept her mouth shut.
So Lu felt that instead of trying to please some false friends, she should quietly read a book, go watch TV, or go exercise.
From the experience of Ms. Lu, who has experienced a retirement life with a passion for socializing, she has also gradually realized that there may not be many friends who are really suitable for her. But a few confidants in life are enough.
Don't have to force yourself to socialize against your will, to pander to others, to please others, such a retirement life is not only too tired, but also may have a lot of unhappy.
Smooth and casual, love of life, is what people in their later years should adhere to.
-END-