"Sense of ceremony", in the end, what is it?
Some people believe that it is an attitude of exquisite life, a romantic need, a valuable pursuit.
Other people believe that this is just a kind of "pretense", is a princess disease, is to find for themselves and the other half of the pain.
Everyone has their own attitude towards life, their own worldview, outlook on life and values, and no one can force anyone to make changes.
Because everyone's life trajectory is different, you don't know what others have experienced, naturally have no qualification to evaluate others right or wrong.
For most young people in the contemporary world, life is carefree, and most of the troubles in life come from family and upbringing, and are more psychological in nature.
Social progress allows everyone to pursue their interests and ideals, so rituals are as important as eating and drinking for many young people, and are an indispensable part of life.
But, on the other hand, for the older generation, their birth environment and upbringing dictate that they are more conservative in their approach to life, and that their personal ideals are often extravagant in the face of the harsh reality of materialism.
This early experience determines their habits and attitudes throughout their lives, so the older they get the more practical and pragmatic they are.
How indispensable the sense of ceremony is to the young, how "flashy" it is to the old.
Whenever you discuss the sense of ceremony with older people, they will ask such questions as: "Can the sense of ceremony be used as food? Can it be worn as clothing?"
Faced with this kind of question, the person being asked is often momentarily speechless, not knowing how to answer.
In fact, it is normal to be unable to answer, why? The reason is that these questions are in fact "not the right word".
The so-called sense of ceremony, itself can not be used to eat, can not be used to wear, it is the same as the book, neither food nor clothing, but the spirit of a kind of enjoyment and wealth.
Once upon a time, people used to preach the theory of the uselessness of reading, but this theory gradually disappeared.
Today, people are beginning to condemn the sense of ritual again, do you feel that this drama is déjà vu?
In fact, the rejection and denial of rituals is not a reflection of what is good or bad, especially when it comes to new things.
People are always fearful and skeptical of the unknown and the new. It's a survival instinct that's in the genes, but in this day and age, it's becoming as redundant as wisdom teeth.
New doesn't mean bad.
Existence is rational, and people don't create things that don't make sense for no reason, not to mention that, at the end of the day, rituals aren't a new concept.
Early in the civilization is not yet enlightened, human beings have a "sense of ceremony", but then manifested for the fear of nature and respect for the gods.
Now that the gods and nature are no longer unknowable forces, the sense of ritual has changed from a belief in external objects to a belief in the inner self.
The modern sense of ceremony is a reflection of a person's three views of self and the pursuit of life, a figurative projection of the abstract spiritual outlook of a person in reality.
Since this is the case, then in fact everyone has a sense of ritual, just different.
Young people buy cut flowers and raise succulents, middle-aged and old people plant vegetables and raise orchids; young people raise pets, middle-aged and old people raise fish and birds; young people dance on the street, middle-aged and old people dance in the square ......
Looking like we all have very different hobbies, but in fact there is no difference in essence, as long as there is no influence on the interests of other people, there is nothing to blame each other for. The first thing you need to do is to get rid of all the stuff you've been doing, and you'll be able to get rid of all the stuff you've been doing.
Rituals, but in order to make their lives more meaningful, people live a life, if there is no little expectation, there is no little put in the heart of the high things, that live and what is the meaning?
As for the husband and wife, the sense of ceremony is even more important.
What is the basis of marriage? It is love, love itself is an invisible and unknowable spiritual product, but people always use material to measure and maintain it, thinking that as long as the food, drink and clothing are not worried, the relationship can be long-lasting.
Through the reality of countless "painful cases", it is not difficult to find, in love and marriage, only material needs regardless of spiritual enjoyment, sooner or later is going to be a big problem.
When a person is free of material worries, he or she will naturally start to have the need for spiritual enjoyment.
For couples, the best way to fulfill this need is to live a more ceremonial life, and the older you get, the more so.
When people reach a certain age, everything is settled down, and it's time to enjoy the time of your life.
It's hard to think about spiritual enjoyment when you've worked so hard for so much of your life, and it's not cost-effective to dismiss yourself and the other person with a "no need".
The most important thing in life is to be happy and satisfied.
Satisfying the rituals of the two sides, only a small price to pay, but the harvest is a great satisfaction and happiness, so why resist?
Two people living life, if there is no sense of ceremony, marriage as a puddle of stagnant water in general, the two people as if the right and left hand in general, a bit of freshness is not, that day to live up to what is the meaning of?
The older you get, the more you need a sense of ceremony, can be a bouquet of flowers, can be a "I love you" before going to sleep, and can even be for each other to do a "love dinner".
Rituals don't have to be specific things and things, and they don't have to cost a lot of money, as long as you have the heart for love, it's enough.
Life needs a sense of ceremony, and couples need to have a sense of ceremony even more.
Particularly middle-aged couples, don't use age as an excuse to keep love warm, start by saying "I love you" to him.