The gap between the parenting class in Nanning was as if an interview with the teacher about how to teach a good lesson was done, and the teacher was very open to give, giving a lot of a lot! Because there is no record, just the memory of the feelings left in the heart, written in the form of dialog, to share with all colleagues who love psychology, spread psychology, let us take the teacher as an example, excellence, tireless!
1The teacher, how to tell a thing that can be understood by everyone?
The teacher said, "Lectures need to have a good grasp of yourself, others, and the situation in place in order to present good content, and most importantly, to be able to speak into the hearts of the learners, to be a real driving force to make change happen." --- Lin Wencai
The teacher also said, "Think about how you can make something clear and understandable to everyone! For example, the process and points of trauma treatment, be logical and focused, be 1,2,3, not 1a,1b,1c;2a,2b,2c .... Then the teacher actually spoke again on the spot as a demonstration and received so much love! The teacher is very open, the important thing is whether we are ready to receive, the teacher too much love for her teaching assistants!
2 teachers, how to do lectures to be able to hit everyone, not too deep, not too shallow, not biased: white people do not feel unintelligible, old students do not feel too shallow, senior students do not feel boring!
The teacher said: human nature! Human nature is **** the same, to do a lot of counseling, more understanding of human nature, so that the lecture can be interpreted accurately and profoundly! The human nature is able to connect all people!
3 I asked the teacher: you in the lecture, just right to throw out the soul of the question, the moment the whole field of energy are aggregated together, everyone into the course, when the answer is thrown out, instantly into the depths of the iceberg of all people, this is how to do it?
The teacher said that the field energy is to be adjusted, you have to connect with the field, and sometimes it will be adjusted to the whole field's breathing is the same frequency, a breath of air are in a rhythm, no one will run!
4 I asked the teacher:Parenting class the way you interpreted the iceberg of dads is so absorbing, first there is a deep understanding of dads: you are not ATMs. Then teaching moms not to ask dads in a blaming way, and then talking about how a male is less likely to be recognized than a female is, and that leaders are able to give that part, so they'll be on top of their work, letting moms see dads' desire to understand the difference about men, and then applying the consistency they've given to dads to be empowered again. All of this makes the dads already surging inside to the point of no return.
The teacher said: Yes, I often have male students come up to me and tell me: Mr. Lin, you understand me so well!
5 I asked the teacher: your baggage is frequent, and often implies the next theme of padding, the flow of energy is still full of expectations, everyone is open - connection - touch - awareness - change occurs very quickly.
The teacher said: Yes, humor is very important in lecturing. Everyone who wants to teach a good lesson needs to learn humor.
6 Sensei, why did the students in your course quickly enter the open state on the first morning, and everyone's awareness went to their growth point very quickly, it was amazing!
The teacher said: Yes (Lin Wencai unique expression and tone), I have been thinking, if they only listen to me once How can I do to make them just listen, as if they have done a case!
"Lectures on how to penetrate into the inner system of the students, to produce the effect as if doing a case, to produce a change in the force of action, and then the transformation occurs, the relationship changes, family harmony, is my pursuit of lectures. Every time the course is changed to enhance, it is for this purpose." ---- Lin Wencai
7 teacher, 250 people in the classroom questions, your rhythm switching fast and accurate, not a single superfluous word, each participant's question answer is to go to: point to - awareness - Reflection-what to do. And in the part of the focus that everyone wants to hear, the explanation is very detailed. Balanced everyone's iceberg, and just three days of class, 250 people should ask basically have the opportunity to ask, this efficiency is amazing!
The teacher nodded: Yes, I am satisfied with today's answer session.
8 Teacher, "Dance Storm", "Newcomers in Comedy", we are also watching, but see that you are very fast and have already put a lot of things to use in the lecture, lecture is also an art, art are connected, this combination is too subtle.
The teacher said: I absorbed a lot in these two programs, Zhang Guoli said a student: your breathing is not right. Many people say Yue Yunpeng's rhythm is very good, I watched it very much feel, this change in lectures began in Guangzhou intimate class, 400 people in the classroom is my state is very good! A lot of reviews in the Dance Storm program I like very much and have a lot of feelings!
9 Teacher, what you said is just right, not too much, not too little, the students' mindset is just right!
The teacher said: Yes, it was studied, a person's attention span of 15 minutes, exceeded, the heart will be annoyed. Just fine is that will remain patient. It is just right to hold it for 15 minutes!
10 teachers, citing an example of a small child who heard a video on psychological nutrition: Mom, this teacher knows me? .... That expression, that tone of voice, that action, it's a child's face, it's so vivid, it's funny and it's deep.
The teacher nodded his head and smiled happily: the most difficult to say in the comic is the monologue, a person has to speak for so long is very testing, say the monologue the best two people, which has Guo Degang, which is not easy!
11 teacher, why is the start point of the students so fast, many students immediately use to enjoy the good results, which is too fast!
The teacher said: I have been thinking, what is the most effective, what is the most able to help the case owner, and is simple and fast so that students can quickly do, and achieve good results!
(No wonder, the teacher emphasized that the father's longing can be accomplished as long as the mother moves her mouth, while the mother's longing is different from person to person and needs time, so which one is simple? Many participants immediately went home and made it for their husbands, and were so happy when the group shared!)
12 teachers, your psychological nutrition is very simple, emotional management is not difficult, but I heard a lot of developmental psychology, fine points (which is only I know, sweat) and other rich things in it, but you talk about the time of four or two thousand pounds, so in order to talk about the lesson is good, read a lot of books is really very important and important!
The teacher said: of course, behind each theory I have read a large number of related books, basically all the relevant books are read, and then the essence of which can be used to bring, so Jianfei teacher supervise each of your requirements, I feel that said not too much at all!
Response from Mr. Lin Wencai:
The focus of my lectures:
1. Each theory must have a good example that clearly illustrates the theory.
2. The example is from my own experience, so it is real and convincing
3. It can also be a case example, first of all with the consent of the case owner. Explain the situation before and after, because it is real and can touch the heartstrings of the participants.
4. The rhythm of consideration is about every 15 minutes to have a highlight, consider the psychology of trainees, what do they care? What do you want to know? What do not understand? How to change their original perception? What can they hear to push them to change? The answer is: desire, pain points, shock, yearning.
5. It is important to understand the iceberg of the participants, not to talk about themselves.
6 lecture rhythm is important, not a time to talk too much, but to speak in depth, theory, examples, how to do, how to do it all to speak in depth. They want to understand before speaking, do not understand do not speak.
6 Lecture as a case for all, in-depth iceberg, touch the feelings, become a driving force, willing to take action, to bring about change in the relationship.
7 listen to understand , understand will do, do can see the effect.
The first day of the Nanning Parenting Class, the assistant teacher learned to share
Returning to Mr. Lin's parenting class, I brought a lot of confusion that had accumulated in my daily lectures and counseling. However, as soon as the teacher opened her mouth, she felt so enjoyable.
Learning to share:
Communication Layers Analysis 1: A little bit of experience: a point of knowledge in the mind with a very experiential story, the point of knowledge may be forgotten, but the story is firmly remembered in the body.
2 When focusing on the idea layer: use the story to ask the soul question: what do I do when he is not like me? Yes, what to do? Each person's heart is initiating its own journey! 230 people's field energies flowed y in the aggregation, it was so energizing! At this time the teacher started to decipher his iceberg, when he is different from me. Then two examples of what the iceberg is when different is not accepted and the decision - to stay away.
? What can be done to have a good relationship and what is the reason for a bad relationship? Presented in a clear and white way, each person is enlightened. Begin to reflect on the fact that my children (husband) stay away from me, it turns out that I am the reason. --- Perfectly disarmed defense, back to their own body to find the reason.
3 communication level from the outside to the inside to talk about how to go deeper, and then from the inside to the outside to talk about why the closure, put forward the golden sentence: love alone can not make a relationship long, that is what makes the relationship can last? (There's a soul searching question?) Safety! The whole room was already expecting the word safe in their hearts, 230 people, securely set in place. I silently shouted in my heart: well done, Goddess of Literature!
Safety 1 three not to do the explanation, concise and clear, what is it? How to do? Straight into the iceberg of compulsive repetition: know it but just can't do it - because you're the first child to be hurt.
2. Anxiety is explained out of a visual ratio, so that anxious people quickly go to the self-reflection, impressive!
Seed 1 nature bloom five golden flowers, the teacher drew a very free a plant, feeling the teacher's discretion made in every detail!
2 teacher with physical nature and the five golden flowers presented at the same time, the inner and outer combined to provide a comprehensive view of the child's growth. (The teacher used the word activation to make the padding, for the depth of the latter buried learning momentum)
3 nutrition is not enough to present the sample: directly throw out the problem, psychological nutrition is not enough. To this point, the students for the course of the expectations has been clear and clear was y hooked, no one late, no one to the bathroom, for fear of missing every word! Including the teaching assistants!
Deeply feel that lecturing is a kind of practice, every detail, every interaction, every word should be well figured out. My teacher, Wencai, is a moving treasure! Salute!
# Nanning parenting class learning to share two
The efficacy of psychological nutrition teacher explained two examples, a 24-year-old mental illness, a four-year-old autism, the teacher presented how to hand in hand to the implementation of psychological nutrition, and then told the audience, this is the extreme case, but in the hearts of all the trainees, unconsciously will be put down a lot of anxiety, my child is much better than these two cases. My child is much better than these two cases, as long as I learn to do, my child will show five golden flowers.
This section of ---- is about awakening the desire for change in parents, but also giving them plenty of hope, and using just the right amount of force!
The life of the most important mom why can do unconditional and the most important, if the mother did not give, the golden sentence came: a lifetime of searching, there is a person to give themselves psychological nourishment. Clever is to give examples: left-behind children, early love of secondary school students, from typical cases to common cases in life, here to pave the way for the difference in the love of dads - men's phenylephrine is actually only in love at first sight, haha, this part is because of these two parts of the talk a lot of moms, dads need to be connected to the inside of the heart, too, (I guess) )
Security Security part of the talk is more concise and clear: the goal of security - each stage of the graphic state - physiological characteristics - psychological nature development , Not a word of redundancy.
On the part of the mother's sense of security, the teacher told the story of landmines using body language, on the stage to simulate the state of the child in two situations. This part of the explanation of the state of mind is very neutral, for the emotionally unstable mother, is to see the impact on the child, but did not receive from the teacher more accusatory hints, inside the nuances contain the teacher's acceptance of this part of my learning, impartial presentation of the truth, in the expression of their own heart to see if there is a lack of acceptance of such a caseworker, nuance to see the truth Oh!
New me from Satya's: the wisest human being is 4 years old. Use this quote to start a positive orientation, and then in the child's iceberg began to unravel the needs - bring out the importance of dad - three major gifts for the child. Ends with three things for dad:1 Speak to dad: you are not an ATM.2. Decode the man's desire for life and remind wives to go home and affirm their husbands instead of blaming them.3. Apply yourself: I'm happy 。。。。。 Under this series of offense, dads have been inspired by the heart of the don't, should be hot tears, small chest are up, this demonstration, should also be the soul confidant level!!!!
My learning to this point, the first day of the content of the review, each link interlocking, each padding out of the gods, each connection y locked, each humor easily and naturally, the teacher lectures, four or two pounds! Deep realization, many years of learning to learn to see the problem clearly, but the important thing is, how do you go to awaken millions of parents to learn the desire and need, this part is not easy! Too much force, scares away. Not hard enough, useless, but the teacher presents a perfect example like a dance storm, y rewarding! Gratitude!