The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult problem in this world, and even in the universe, without one.
The hard way
My colleague, Xiao Mei, looks like she has a lot of spirit this time, and she is shining brightly every day.
Asked the reason, said: mother-in-law home.
Only this sentence, we will be unspoken, each other snickering.
This is the first time I've ever seen a woman with a mother-in-law go home, and I've never seen her do it before.
A month later, my mother-in-law will be back.
Okay.
Every family has wars. If you're fighting with your kids, you might forget about it the next day, but if you're fighting with your mother-in-law, it might go on for years, or even for the rest of your life.
Have to admit, the most difficult scripture is this one? The Way to Get Along with Your Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law.
I was just pushed out of the maternity ward, my mother-in-law forced me to give birth to a second child
I have a friend Qing, a company executive. The company's main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers, so that they can enjoy the best of both worlds, and the best of both worlds.
Because they have been busy with their careers, Qing is very late to have a child. 36 years old began to prepare for pregnancy, 38 years old to look forward to their own little princess, because it is the age of the mother-in-law, she is on the verge of giving birth to a child from their hometown to help take care of it, and told her that the boy and girl are all good. Qing was also very grateful that she had met a sensible mother-in-law. But when it came time to go into labor, she found out that the fetus was not in the right position, and she had to have a C-section.
But the doctor was late in returning the family's signature. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on this, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on this, and I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on this. The first time I saw this, I was so upset that I had to call my husband to communicate with him again.
Finally, I went into the operating room and heard the baby's first cry, and the doctor told her that it was a beautiful little princess, and she was especially happy. When the operation was completed, she was pushed out and waited for her first words from her mother-in-law: Let's hurry up to recover and have another penis!
Qing recalled that moment, her eager heart immediately cooled, his body on the incision is still in pain, mother-in-law came over to chase the birth.
And it was all just beginning. Since the birth, the family has never been peaceful, two generations of parenting concepts, really too far apart?
The child is not even a month old yet, and the mother-in-law is secretly putting the poop and urine, taking the cloth to tie the legs, and using the mouth to test the temperature of the bottle? The most important thing to remember is that you can't afford to be so upset that you can't communicate with your mother-in-law, so you have to communicate with her politely. She asked her mother-in-law to change these bad habits. But her mother-in-law gave her the cold shoulder, saying that she had too much to do: "When I first brought up my son, it was the same as when I brought up my son. The first time I saw her, I was in the middle of a long journey, and I was able to get to the bottom of the problem.
Six months later, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting more and more tense. I have no choice but to ask my husband to send my mother-in-law back to her hometown and quit my job to be a full-time mom. Although it is particularly hard, but the good thing is that everything is their own say. The first thing I'd like to do is to get the chance to see what I'm talking about.
Mr. Kennedy is still a good man, but he occasionally complains that it's too hard for him to raise a family on his own. I'm not sure how much I'm going to miss the days when I was in the workplace, but when I think about going back to work, I'm going to have to ask my mother-in-law to come back to help me with the kids, and I'm hesitant to do that. The hard work of bringing up a child alone is still harder than the disagreements of bringing up a child with two people, isn't it?
Mother-in-law lost herself for the sake of the family
A colleague, Xinran, complained in a chat that she had a big conflict with her mother-in-law over the issue of children's education.
The reason for this is that my mother-in-law sent my child to an English tutoring class, where she met a child of about the same age, and the other child took the initiative to say hello, but my son was a bit reluctant to respond. When Xinran returned home, her mother-in-law began to complain that her child was too slow to socialize. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.
And then I remembered that last week, my mother-in-law took it upon herself to buy a lot of summer tutorials and test papers for her children, and she stipulated that she would let her children do a few pages of work every day, and then she said: "Mom, I know that the children themselves are potentials, and you have to admit that our children are not the ones who will be able to make it out of this world if they are not artificially elevated. The first thing you need to do is to think about whether you have any other hobbies or interests, and don't keep competing with your children.
The mother-in-law was furious: I've been worrying all day long, and I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do anything about it, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to do something about it, and I'm sure I'm going to be able to do something about it, and I'm going to be able to do something about it!
This time, pull out a lot of old sesame rotten grain thing, what summer in the end to the child open air conditioning ah, can not drink cool water ah, can not eat snacks ah and so on and so forth, endless chicken hair.
Xinran and I complained: in fact, quite grateful to my mother-in-law, after all, to help us clean up the house and transport the children, helped a lot. These should not be the obligation of the elderly people should do. The first time I saw this, I was able to see the whole world, and I was able to see the whole world, and I was able to see the whole world.
However, the most horrible problem just appeared? I always dissed her while I couldn't stay away from her.
The two people who are not related by blood, have different habits, different concepts of parenting, and have to argue in a family for the so-called? The first time I've seen this, I've had a chance to see it. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that. The fact is that the company's products and services are not available in the United States.
What is the nature of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
Counselor Raven Lee once said? The fire in many families starts when the first child is born, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law fight over the child's upbringing and education. If the husband is still on the mother's side in this invisible war, it is undoubtedly the same as adding fuel to the fire.
I think this is true.
But how many generations have been plagued by the biggest problem of life? What is the nature of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
In fact, it is the way men deal with this triangle, how to transform and mediate in the role of son and husband.
Since ancient times, mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law have fought and envied each other. As far back as we know "Southeast Peacock", there have been daughters-in-law because of mom and pop men and strong mother-in-law? hanging herself from the southeast branch? had.
Although our modern society is no longer experiencing such intense conflict and tragic consequences of the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, but the daily life of the firewood, rice, oil and salt, where there will not be friction white-hot fight? Whose mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is not a patchwork of different colors, but each has its own? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that.
The two layers of relationships we face, one layer is: the man and the mother of the parent-child relationship, based on blood, absolutely cut off; one layer is, with the wife of the husband and wife relationship, to sex / love as a link, the mother as a woman and can not be completed.
If now asked, working mothers have no the most difficult to solve the confusion is what?
? Not working hard, but in the management of family relationships, especially in the face of their own mother-in-law.
If the man in the middle doesn't have the right outlook, the sense of boundaries he should have with his own mom, and the determination to objectively defend his loved ones, it will be the most terrifying stealth bomb that destroys a family.
A letter from a future mother-in-law to her son
Knowledgeable netizen @SwordSaintMeowMaster said:
I've seen the failure of the family tends to be that the husband is often like a pendulum, a moment biased to the mother, a moment and then biased to the side of the daughter-in-law, he does not have their own independent thinking, to become a toy for the two women in the family to fight over. The two women in the family are fighting over the toys. And I've seen successful families, often the husband is the mother and wife *** with the object of worship, even if there is a conflict, the husband can step in to resolve it in a timely manner.
So, how important it is to cultivate a son with high emotional intelligence ~
A mom wrote this letter to her six-year-old son:
Son, I'm writing this letter to you today to tell you that one day you'll grow up, meet a girl you like, you'll fall in love, get married, and have your own independent life.
As a mother, although especially sad, but for your future growth and true independence, I will be very pleased, because from now on, your side will have a mutual love and you *** with go on, And I will also be in your adult before, try to cultivate you into a man with a responsibility, because of your small family, you need to you and your wife *** with support.
After you get married, please move out of the house, although still a family, but you should have a separate small world, to enjoy life, enjoy the world of two people should have been the romance and sweetness, you will have their own routine, and we are willing to accept each other's discomfort.
If you have your own baby, remember that I will always love you as your mom and as your baby's grandmother, but that doesn't mean I have to babysit. We will have our own senior years too.
But if you need it, I'll do what I can to help you, because your life and work, while full of endless possibilities and opportunities, is also very stressful, and we were young enough to know that life isn't easy.
If I come to help you with your children, I will inevitably live together, so please do not worry about you and your daughter-in-law, because I have long thought about what I want to do?
First of all, about intergenerational, I will respect the independent space and privacy of your young couple, we have also been young, I will not interfere in your private life because I am your mother;
Secondly, about bringing up the children, Every era will have a new scientific concept of parenting, and I have also been red-faced and argued with your grandmother many times over how to raise and educate you more scientifically. But if I become a grandma, please rest assured that my daughter-in-law will fully respect her intuition and learning ability as a mom, Of course, I will do my best to do a good job if I need to play the auxiliary, and at the same time, I will try to keep up with the pace of the times, learn the concepts of bringing up children that are more in line with the trend of the times, and become a scientific grandma;
The third thing about myself is that I have a lot of experience in the field of parenting. strong> Thirdly, about myself, bringing children to you is actually not my obligation, so if you have time to bring up your own children on vacation, please allow me to take a few days off to enjoy my own life, despite my age, I will still be eager to go out and enrich my old age. As the parents of children, you also do not directly throw the children to me, or to accompany them more, after all, the role of mom and dad, no one can replace.
I hope that when the time comes, we can respect each other, trust each other, give each other space, live in peace, equality and mutual benefit.
Child, you are still small, I will always be at your side to accompany. When you have your own lover and children, I am willing to be behind you until you no longer need me?
I'll be free by then~
Love, mom
Every mother-in-law is going through this from the position of a daughter-in-law. The sweet and sour experience of being with your own mother-in-law can only be experienced by yourself.
And the child is an independent person, not the parents' private property, he will eventually go to find his own heaven and earth and happiness. The son chose his wife *** with life, also does not mean to abandon their mom.
Mom will always be his mom, but the mistress of a family can only be his wife.
If a family, mom can decently withdraw from her son's life, respecting the independent living space of the young couple; the son has his own opinion, respecting his mom and defending his daughter-in-law; the daughter-in-law respects and treats her mother-in-law well, and tolerates with principles.
I think the best state of a happy marriage is probably this.