Everyone has played many roles and taken on many responsibilities. Only by enduring pain and grievances again and again can each character "shine".
In our hurry, we try to satisfy everyone, but we just ignore how tired and bitter we are.
In the rest of your life, don't owe yourself, love yourself, please yourself and improve yourself, so that people who walk with us can enjoy the spring breeze.
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Don't take too much responsibility for others.
In this world, people's hearts are too complicated. A pure person is often a person who is willing to pay, but is not cherished.
Be kind to others and take care of the overall situation, and always let them take on more responsibilities and pay more than others in life and work.
But this seriousness and responsibility can easily become an excuse for many villains, villains and traitors to shirk their work and shirk their responsibilities.
They brazenly carry out "moral kidnapping" and always push the work to those who are honest and dutiful for all kinds of high-sounding reasons.
My best friend Xiaoya was transferred from the teaching department to the administrative unit, which is very enviable. But Xiaoya said bluntly that she was tired and unhappy.
Xiaoya said that "bullying" can be found everywhere in administrative units: even older colleagues put on a domineering posture and urged Xiaoya to help with their work. Not to mention her immediate boss, a "vase" woman who can only be a "shopkeeper of cutting".
Xiaoya's boss, in addition to accepting work tasks and reporting work results, just visits and chats all day, while Xiaoya has to work overtime frequently. Even if they are sent to study, they will be "called back" and work overtime on weekends.
Xiaoya, who was really fed up, chose to "turn a deaf ear" for the first time and didn't return to work until the end of the training. In the face of the criticism of the female boss as always, Xiaoya no longer takes it to heart, she just does her job well, and as for the rest, she just drags on.
Years of forbearance and dedication have told her the answer. For those who only regard themselves as "tool people", there is no need to share anything Since there is a division of labor, they should be responsible for each other; Even if he is held accountable, he will do his duty from beginning to end. What are you afraid of "false accusation"?
The older a person is, the less it is necessary to help others bear too much. Playing your own role, doing your own thing and being a person who has nothing to do with yourself is a kind of self-protection, and it is also the calmness and calmness precipitated by years.
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Don't worry too much about the children.
There is an old saying: "Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren."
Life is only a hundred years, and the best legacy left to children is not how much money and how many houses, but the inheritance of good family education and family style.
Zeng Guofan, a famous scholar in the late Qing Dynasty, has a great Confucian style, manages the country and politics, and takes the minister as his son as his father, which is commendable, especially his education of his children, which is regarded as the secret of carrying on the family line:
Compared with now, many parents only pay attention to the improvement of academic performance. Zeng Guofan paid more attention to the cultivation of behavior habits and the guidance of behavior character. He set an example for the children.
It is parents' instinct and nature to worry about their children. However, this kind of "worry" can only have an impact if it is based on respecting children's personality, guiding and setting an example.
Therefore, instead of always worrying about how children learn, how to behave and how to do things, we should be strict with ourselves and constantly realize self-improvement and self-improvement in the process of accompanying children to grow up. Under this subtle influence, children will naturally be on an equal footing with their parents.
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It is enough to give others seven points of love, and leave three points of love for yourself.
If a person does not love himself, who will love him?
Just like in the company, the person who comes the earliest and leaves the latest every day gives everything to everyone. Isn't he tired? Isn't he bitter? Of course, I am tired and bitter, and I am eager to get the same return from others, but how many people will "return the favor"?
Therefore, there is no need to put all your thoughts on those who have nothing to do with yourself.
Even for relatives, we should know how to give ourselves some time and space to feel the beauty of life and taste the happiness of life.
I saw a very ordinary but touching movie. The protagonist of the story is a full-time woman in her late sixties. She takes care of her family's diet every day, and her family is used to it and doesn't care.
Worried about trivial days, the heroine never complains. She is glad that she has a husband, children and a family that looks happy in the eyes of others.
However, she was diagnosed with terminal cancer and has lost the opportunity for surgery. As her illness worsened, the whole family felt that they owed her too much: her husband resigned and concentrated on accompanying her; The daughter completely cut off contact with the married man and started blind date; My son is also trying to participate in various trainings and actively looking for a job. Even her mother-in-law, who has been suffering from Alzheimer's disease for many years and has long been disloyal, held her and refused to let go.
In this way, in the last days of her life, the heroine finally left time for herself. Although it was short, it was also the happiest time in her life.
People, don't wait to lose everything, to know how to cherish, to be willing to let go. On the way forward, don't forget that you still have yourself. You need your own double care and care.
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Conclusion:
Life is full of plants and trees.
In this short life, we should know how to love ourselves deeply. Do what you want to do, love the people you love, and let yourself bloom like a flower in the reincarnation of Qiu Lai in spring.
In this way, we will not live up to a trip to the world.
Author: as light as the wind, as light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessing.
The picture comes from the internet.