Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the process of interaction, there is always a kind of, difficult to grasp but must grasp the degree, after this degree, a little too close, each other too much, forget the beginning of the two actually have no relationship at all, if too far, far less than this degree, will appear a little less close, we must know that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is already a family member, should not be divided too clear. Some daughters-in-law, some times, will be the mother-in-law's sacrifice and pay, as a matter of course, think the mother-in-law should share their own pressure, instead of accompanying their own children, to give themselves a variety of help, but she forgot, the mother-in-law also has the right to independent choice, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, should be equal, and there is no one who manages to who this kind of superior and subordinate relationship, the following is a kind of fruit of their own mother-in-law's The following is one of Gogo's wrong attitudes towards her mother-in-law.
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GuoGuo is pampered grew up, from childhood, ten fingers do not dip in the spring water, in the marriage, only slowly began to learn to do housework things, the first time in the kitchen, vinegar as a soy sauce, but also almost to the kitchen to the fire, in the continuous practice, the cooking has finally been improved, at least, also became a hall, down to the kitchen of the virtuous wife. Fruit's mother-in-law, also know that Fruit is not very good at housework, so there is no requirement for Fruit, every time to Fruit's home, will also help Fruit to do a little work, every time the mother-in-law to come, Fruit are happy to relax, because her mother-in-law to do better than their own, cooking is also better than their own to be tasty.
In the fruit when pregnant, because the mother is too far away, and can not come over to take care of the fruit, now the economic conditions can not afford to hire a nanny, so the fruit can only let the mother-in-law over to take care of their own, the mother-in-law did not have any requirements, and did not mention the matter of money, has been particularly dedicated to the care of the fruit, self-taught some knowledge, every day, varied cooking for the fruit to eat, it may be accustomed to, the fruit, the mother-in-law has not thought that the mother-in-law is not a good person, but she is not a good person, and she has no idea what she is doing. Gogo didn't feel that her mother-in-law's treatment of herself was something she should be thankful for, but instead felt that her mother-in-law had done a good job, but it was all due. When Gogo went to the hospital to wait for the birth of the next bed, they all boasted that Gogo was lucky to have such a caring mother-in-law.
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After the birth of the child, Gogo recovered very quickly, out of the month, want to go back to continue to work, can only be entrusted to the mother-in-law to continue to take care of the child, the mother-in-law is quite fond of their own grandchildren, so agreed to give the child to the mother-in-law, the Gogo itself is very relieved, but the mother-in-law has a habit of going out to dance every night, so that the Gogo is not very fond of.
After thinking about it, Gogo said to her mother-in-law, "Mother-in-law, can you not go to the square dance, you have free time in the evening, you should accompany the grandchildren, in case you go to the dance during this time, the child out of something how to do?" Hearing that Guoguo was apparently discussing with herself, but was actually questioning herself, her mother-in-law was a little less than happy, and replied, "Daughter-in-law, you're meddling too much, I've already done my part, so don't be so demanding, okay? I take care of your child during the day, and I take care of the child's food and drink, and in addition to that, I also do the laundry and cook for you, what have you ever done, and at night, when you're off work and there is someone else in the house, you take care of the child a little bit, right? I just want to relax and exercise, can you give me some freedom? I'm not your nanny, I'm your mother-in-law, I'm your child's grandmother, I'm helping you with the kids, it's just a favor, not a job, do you think I'm taking all my work for granted? Honestly, even if I say now that I'm tired and will go home to rest right away, no one will say that I'm irresponsible, only some people will think that you don't care about the elderly at all."
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GuoGuo listened to what her mother-in-law said, and felt that she did seem to be doing a little too much, this period of time, her mother-in-law took care of her pregnant self, and took care of her newborn baby, and did a particularly good job, probably because her mother-in-law did a particularly good job, so that GuoGuo thought that her mother-in-law should be doing this, and forgot to respect her mother-in-law, and also forgot that she actually had a responsibility to The mother-in-law apologized for her attitude, and she accepted it readily. Since then, she has been very supportive of her mother-in-law's efforts to go out and dance, and has been much more attentive to her children than she was before.
[Conclusion] Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, some times, do not have to be particularly clear, after all, is a family, but there are times, or should be a little clearer, after all, mother-in-law is not your mother, she did not have to pay for your obligations, she did for you, you should be grateful, and can not be taken for granted. Mother-in-law once or twice to lend a helping hand, is good intentions, but also love, as a daughter-in-law, should be a little more transparent, can not be too harsh on the mother-in-law, should be given the respect and freedom, or should be given. If the tube is too much, will only make the mother-in-law resentment, think this daughter-in-law is not worth their own pay, no humane, only know the exploitation, as a daughter-in-law should be respected to the mother-in-law, this is a learning curve.