What is filial piety? Simple! Poor parents, money to for filial piety. Lonely parents, companionship as filial piety. If your parents are short-tempered, understanding is filial piety. The first thing you need to do is to take care of your parents when they are sick. The parents of the nagging, listening to the filial piety.
But it is also very complicated, people often do not know what parents need the most, every time full of joy, pay the wishful thinking, in exchange for the parents do not understand the response.
If it is a lack of money parents, you give simple understanding is not enough. The parents who are lonely, you always mail a lot of health care items and health equipment online, but also can not fill the void in the heart of the parents.
My colleague, Xiao Yang, is very bitter and complains that her mother-in-law is always too picky about herself.
"Every time I go to her with my husband, I buy a lot of nice things in big packages. Her house has no elevator and she lives on the top floor, so my husband and I don't even have a smile on our faces after we carry the stuff up there ......."
Xiao Yang complained in her office. Feeling very innocent, like an aggrieved child.
Afterwards, I learned that, in fact, Xiao Yang's mother-in-law did not mean to make things difficult for Xiao Yang, she just could not understand why Xiao Yang, after many years of marriage, insisted on not having a child, since Xiao Yang's father-in-law's death, her mother-in-law's world suddenly darkened, and the emptiness of the life, so that she how she wanted to make their daughter-in-law to have a baby, which is also the wish of her father-in-law before his death.
But Xiao Yang also has his own reasoning, "I'm not don't want, I want to wait a few more years, wait until the age of forty, career and character are stabilized, and then want it is not too late, which in the marriage of the husband before the obvious and said yes, but he recently faltered, and always because of this and I argued."
Xiao Yang is full of innocence, she thinks she has done everything in the material daughter-in-law should do, why in the mother-in-law's score is still failed? The only thing that makes it difficult for the whole family is that they don't want to have a child.
The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.
Xiao Yang's mother-in-law does not need their help at all in terms of material, what she needs is the continuation of a small life to fill the regret and emptiness of life.
02
Which parent in the world is not selfless to their children? But I am sure that most of the children in the world have discounted the issue of repaying their parents.
I have a friend, the one I admire from the bottom of my heart, in return for parents, if I express my admiration for him in person, as if it is like hitting my own face, because he did things that I understand, but can not do.
He was a man who lived his mother as a bosom friend and his father as a brother, and he was a model for all sons in the world.
He accompanied his mother to dance square dance, surprisingly stiff limbs of his own, jumped into the senior university dance instructor.
He accompanied his retired father to play ping-pong, practicing and practicing, and became the ambassador of ping-pong promotion in their district, which is equal to the retired boring father and find a love of "work" again.
He would accompany his father to listen to all kinds of health care lectures to fool the elderly, and then stand in the elderly point of view to analyze the problem of saving money and practicality, the purchase of the behavior of the good and the bad. He can accurately and timely feedback with his mother on the rise and fall of the gold trend, in the major gold store with his mother to talk and laugh a whole day, even if his mother finally only buy a pair of earrings.
He often accompanied his parents on the Internet before the double 11, swept down the concern for a long time goods, crazy spike after the end of the computer to accompany his parents to calculate how much money, laughing to celebrate the victory of this fine-tuning after the victory.
He and his parents WeChat chat on average more than a hundred a day, and never typed, all with voice, he wanted to analyze the parents in the sound of the mood at this moment.
I asked him how he did it. His answer was only three words: engagement.
Participation, I think this filial piety is not a single pay, but parents in the experience of your filial piety and you can have a kind of interaction, not pure give and take relationship.
03
We are now too easily tired, after a day of work to return home shouting tired. Boring work is not done, overtime until late at night shouting tired. The first thing you need to do is to go to a party that you don't want to go to at all, and you're tired. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty and get out of the way.
The long accumulation of time, so that we are accustomed to find an excuse for themselves to relax. I'm tired, so every time I give is valuable.
"Mom, annoying na! I know ......"
"Dad, medicine for you to buy finished, on time to eat it ......"
"I told you not to buy it, but you don't listen, you fell for it ......"
"Oops! I know, I'm busy now na, say it later ah ......"
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Is not sometimes often like this, I obviously pay enough, why parents are still not happy? We have a generation gap with our parents when we are young, and when we grow up, the generation gap becomes a chasm, don't want your parents to cross over first, they are older, they can't withstand your youthful arrogance.
Use your filial piety in the right way, not according to your own wishful thinking, blindly pay.