First, the poor self-control, cell phones, the temptation of the network is too great, a brush can not stop, addicted to which can not extricate themselves. This kind of parents should find the daughter to have a good chat, to understand her heart, the correction should be corrected.
Second, in order to better study, can improve the efficiency of learning, that can rest assured.
Third, and friends to chat, especially boyfriends, which has to be a good understanding of the understanding, the attitude can not be overly aggressive, as a friend to talk with the daughter to talk, appropriate reminder of the focus of life.
Fourth, do social e-commerce, the former college students do not have smart phones are a variety of part-time job to make money, now directly on the phone to complete, if it is a cell phone entrepreneurship have to be encouraged.
In short, the correct guidance to receive good results, after all, is also considered an adult, too radical way will be counterproductive, but instead of talking to the attitude of friends, the guide will learn more, the other side can also understand the pain of parents in time.
From the title of the question, your daughter is a sophomore, and according to the normal school age of 6 years old, your daughter is already 19-20 years old, and she meets all the conditions for an adult to be responsible for her own behavior.
So I can understand your concern that, as a parent, a child's cell phone use is considered to be a "misdemeanor" by default, whereas, in my opinion, a 19-20 year old adult has the ability to take responsibility for their own behavior, and in many countries, they have been separated from their families of origin since the age of 18. Of course, in response to your concerns, I have a few suggestions:
Find out what your kids are doing on their phones
Nowadays, the mobile internet is not only a tool for people to spend their time, but also allows people to use their odd hours to earn some income, for example, I'm now using my phone to answer your questions, and I'm referring to a lot of people.
And if you're my parent, you might think I'm not doing my job.
It's important to know what your child is doing on her phone. If she's spending her time on social media programs like Jitterbug or Twitter, then I think it's because she's not filling her time, and I'll give you some advice on that later.
If she is using the phone to do part-time work, then congratulations, have a daughter who knows how to use the mobile Internet to create a personal IP, all you need to do is to encourage her to adhere to, and even provide her with more material. (My mom will often send me topics that she thinks will get people's attention for me to create).
If she's playing a game on her phone, then you can join her and find ways to ally yourself with her to learn more about her ideas.
Don't just point fingers and crack down, I can understand how you feel when you see your daughter giggling on her cell phone, screaming and not listening because I have a husband like that.
Self-check yourself if you always hold the phone
It is said that the child is a copy of the parents, we hold the phone to read the news, in the eyes of the child is also in the "play". That's why it's so important that children as young as two or three years old are now more skillful on their cell phones than adults.
What parents do, children learn.
If it's a problem of your own, make a pact with your child: don't touch your phone when we're together, and punish anyone who does.
Filling her time
Phones have all sorts of apps to keep our attention, and it's because there's so much time to kill that they've become a necessity.
And filling your daughter's time so she doesn't have to pick up her phone is the best way to control her phone play.
For example, now that the weather is fine, take her to the countryside to play, see the red flowers and green grass, catch butterflies and grasshoppers, mom and dad quietly and wholeheartedly accompanied by a day, will make the child inside a great sense of satisfaction.
For example, to discuss the challenge of a dish tomorrow, parents in the side of the guide, let her hands do, you use the phone to record let her send to their own video platform, perhaps more accumulated on the fans.
For example, the whole family brainstormed to write a small script, the whole family mobilized to perform up, recorded, sent out, and with everyone to enjoy.
For example, if you have a skill that you want to learn because of time, energy, or money constraints, encourage her to pay tuition and let her learn how to dance, sing, play a musical instrument, draw, or anything else.
In short, do your best to fill your daughter's time. There is no free time, so naturally, she no longer looks at her cell phone.
The future, as you say, is still promising
Kahlil Gibran wrote in the poem "Your Children Are Not Your Children":
Your children are not your children, they are the children of life's desire for itself.
They come into the world through you, but not because of you, and they are with you, but not of you.
You can give them your love, but not your ideas, because they have minds of their own.
You can shelter their bodies, but not their souls, because their souls belong to tomorrow, to a tomorrow that you cannot even dream of.
Their souls belong to tomorrow, to a tomorrow you cannot even dream of.
So don't worry too much about her when the future is bright.
In summary: your daughter is looking at her cell phone in addition to the class time is not only what you see, want to solve it, you need your heart.
How can there be a future? This is your judgment! You carry such a judgment, and I'm sure you're anxious and anxious and even hateful too! But I can also imagine that your daughter, too, must be suffering from your constant blaming, complaining, scolding, and even being degraded by you!
This is a vicious cycle! You know why your daughter can't let go of her cell phone? She can't find her self-worth, she can't get any recognition from her parents, and she can only find recognition and self-worth in the virtual world of the cell phone. She has low self-esteem and can't be self-disciplined, because her upbringing is characterized by demands and constraints, and she won't even think about what kind of things she can do, because her thoughts and feelings are always ignored! Third, she can't find anything happier or more enjoyable than her cell phone! Because the relationship with her close parents is so distant, even communication feels difficult. You can hardly get any joy and happiness except hearing nagging and complaining!
This parent, what do you think, your daughter should do
Playing on the phone is not so bad, there is not much problem! If there is a problem, it is the neglect of the child's mental health by the parents, not to love the child, not to feel the child's happiness and joy, and not to be able to create happiness and joy with the child. Just one-dimensional requirements, control, change the child, so she will be rebellious, will be addicted, will ignore you!
One last question, have you ever been addicted since you were a child? Watching TV, reading romance martial arts novels, playing online games, chasing serials, playing mahjong, etc.! Your future?
Lack of proper guidance
Currently, it is already the age of the Internet, you can use your cell phone in class, and you can use your cell phone to study! It depends on what she's doing with her cell phone. Now I am using my cell phone to study, including the jitterbugs, I am also learning state, to learn what is useful to them! Instead of being bored to kill time!
Jitterbug era may be more important to people's cultural cultivation and individual creative ability, resource integration ability. Precisely AI machines can do the work do not need people to do. Appealing to the three abilities is difficult to learn in school.
Why are more and more children addicted to cell phone computer network games, Internet addiction?
1, some children addicted to the Internet, because the child's usual learning ability is poor, the child thus lost self-confidence, the focus of the day to shift to the Internet. The fact is that there is little or no encouragement from the parents of these children, and the lack of good academic performance coupled with the psychological damage, will simply make them feel inferior.
2, domestic and foreign game merchants in the economic interests of the drive, and constantly launch more, more appealing games, children tend to be tired of this game immediately into the next game, or several games to play in turn.
3, learning too much pressure: the current education system in China, so that children are facing enormous learning pressure, mechanical reading, it is easy to produce an aversion to learning, and then skipping classes, Internet cafes, addicted to the network.
Many parents face their children addicted to cell phones and computers do not dare to control, what is the reason?
When the child's addiction to the Internet affects the study, many parents will be on the child's strict discipline, give the child reasoning, nagging the parents themselves are annoyed, the child is still not listening.
What are the dangers of children's Internet addiction, long time addicted to cell phone computer network games?
1, the network addicts of the psychological and behavioral for the Internet this activity dominated, the Internet has evolved into its main psychological needs, Internet time and energy accounted for the proportion of the gradual increase, which led to the disruption of the individual biological clock. When unable to access the Internet, they experience a strong craving, and even have irritable and restless emotions and corresponding physiological and behavioral responses, which improve after accessing the Internet. Internet access dominates their lives, attention and interest are singularly directed to the Internet, motivation for work and study is weakened, and quality of life declines.
2. The Internet triggers the adolescents' anxiety about sin security. Due to the immaturity of adolescents' physiological and psychological development, poor ability to recognize right and wrong, and weak sense of self-protection, it is possible to cause adolescents' weakening of moral consciousness and declining sense of social responsibility; the hidden disadvantages of network communication and the lack of constraints, which are very easy to make adolescents do something against the norms, and even embark on the road of crime.
3, addicts to the network like glue, compared to the flesh and blood of the relatives appear to be more indifferent. Internet addicts don't show their emotions to their family and friends when they are down, they hide their emotions and turn to the Internet to pour out their feelings and vent their frustrations. In addition, the Internet addicts are often in conflict with their families because of the limitations of their families on the Internet.
What should parents do if their children are addicted to the Internet and are addicted to cell phone, computer, and Internet games for a long time?
1, education should be appropriate. Children are not objects, they have their own ideas, especially for dealing with adolescent children, they are often not willing to set in stone in accordance with the parents and the school planning the road to go, they need more self-space. The traditional Chinese way of education is often based on violent treatment, which not only fails to play a role in education, but even makes children more radical and rebellious.
2, try to improve the child's performance. The most effective way to raise the child's performance is to cultivate the child's interest in learning. Parents should try to improve their children's academic performance.
3, timely control. Of course, we can not avoid encountering "stubborn" children, this time, appropriate control is still necessary. Parents to master certain computer knowledge, you can computer and other network equipment for security settings, set the network disable time, filter out you do not want to let the child browse the bad site, through these ways, can also help children healthy Internet.
Three ways to help your child kick the Internet habit:
The first is unconditional acceptance, waiting for the child to play enough to take the initiative to put down the cell phone network;
The second sends the child to a closed Internet addiction school to kick the habit;
The third helps the child to establish boundaries, so the child has a boundary to use the cell phone computer.
Parents are welcome to follow us and discuss better ways to help their children quit internet addiction, improve depression, and get their children back to school successfully and improve their academic performance.
For sophomore daughters often look at the phone is considered no future a little too one-sided. Nowadays, college courses, many classes are online, homework is submitted online, and some exams are taken online. On the surface there are students who don't leave their cell phones at home and don't take their cell phones out of their eyes, but in fact it is possible that the student is completing her online studies. If your daughter is using her cell phone to study, parents should support it. If non-study pure online surfing, from the parents' point of view, you can understand the parents' expectations of the child, do not want to let the child time wasted on the phone Nowadays, the times have changed, you can learn a lot of online, but also can not be used to look at the old eyes.