Because when you imitate the strengths, you think you taught them, so when you imitate the weaknesses, you pay special attention to them,
because it's fun.
I'm a father of two sons after 80 years, for this problem, I have a few personal views, with you *** enjoy
1, adults think the shortcomings of the child, before telling the child, the child does not know that this is the wrong thing, so we need to be adults in the discovery of this phenomenon in a positive and appropriate way to tell our children, this is not right, we should not do this! and that we shouldn't do it!
2, the child in the imitation of bad behavior, parents and adults next to avoid overreaction, I believe that some adults will feel that the child imitation of fun, and then laugh, or feel that the imitation of very bad, and then angry, I think this is not the right reaction, because the child to see the adults have a clear reaction, they will think that this can attract attention, and the next time you may also imitate, so adults should be in the handling of these things as much as possible, so that the children will not be able to see the child, and will not be able to see the child. should try to deal with these things in a calm way!
3, adults think good, and adults think bad, are in our experience after a lot of judgment, the child is a blank sheet of paper, so, in the process of growing up, this blank sheet of paper is painted by us colorful, or by us graffiti black, most of the time depends on our parents, continue to learn, so that their own growth, let yourself grow up with the child!
These are my personal views, share with you, welcome to discuss and correct! [Prayer]
A child's instinct is to grow through imitation. The biggest difference between shortcomings and good habits is that shortcomings are easy to form, while good habits take some effort to stick to. Adults can condone some weaknesses because they want to save money, not to mention the little ones. At 2 weeks old, this was the biggest con in my mind.
I remember one night I took my son to the square for a walk, and the square was very busy with old men and women dancing in the square, and a family of skaters. Because my husband is not yet off work, I will stomach to take the child to the square, I did not expect an old man said to my son, "Grandpa likes children ah, come on, Grandpa hugged it", my son? See strangers silly smile, see the posture of the hug, they want to pounce, but fortunately I hand fast a hold tight. The old man laughed at himself, "Yes, do not know, who dares to let the hug ah", next to an old woman and he sang together, even if it may be wrong to blame him, I do not dare to take risks at night. However, the fact that children are close and smiley is indeed a plus, at least during the day.
Many of the strengths and weaknesses have no specific boundaries, and that's true for children, too. At a young age, they're in a period of imitation, and they learn to imitate many things from those around them, but as adults, we tend to disregard the strengths and emphasize the weaknesses.
For example, if my son learns to share something with someone else, I'll be happy to say "baby, you're great," and then the "good points" will just go away. But if my son learns to spit, I will react strongly "stop, don't do that, who taught you that?".
We all like to grab the "shortcomings" and not let go, the child is very clever, he will be through the adult reaction to determine, which thing for him, more attention, then this thing for him, it is the fun thing.
I think, from the child's point of view, then we should try to change the angle, pay attention to the child's "advantages learning", ignore the child's "shortcomings learning", if the child from the adult's attention can not be attracted, then he will be bored and slowly forgotten. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
(2) for the child to understand the human language
older children have been able to understand the human language, tell him that this is a shortcoming, you do not allow. If it is repeated, then serve it with a whip, and if one is not enough, then two.
(C) If the environment is the main cause of the child's shortcomings, then first change the environment can be changed
Children like to imitate the period, then adults around the need to do a good job of modeling, I remember an uncle said, "When his son was small, he took the newspaper every day, even if he did not look down, but also pose, and then his son learned to read the book and read the newspaper. Later, his son also learned to read books and newspapers", and then another friend of mine, who holds a cell phone every day, even scolded his son over there, "do not read seriously, but know to play games on the cell phone". Just think of the picture, yes, "Mengmu three move" is reasonable. and, sometimes adults can not do, can not be too demanding children, after all, "what you do not want to do to others".
A child's eye on the world of life is a curiosity for self, which is a kind of learning, progress, enrichment, growth. Often put forward some new views and questions, as long as the parents have a good training and education, to participate in the society of the right good activities and life, kindergarten and school are the base of choice for children. Children have to learn the direction of good and bad direction, but there is no learning bad mood, not the child's fault, depending on how parents treat the child wrong. How to induce, how to correct, how to help each other, how to take feasible measures and education, that is, the parents of the first teacher.
The child is curious about these often eager to imitate, for them this is a very normal reaction, if such behavior parents angry, the child out of fear will temporarily repress their behavior, but after will continue to repeat this behavior, after all, their curiosity did not meet this behavior can also be obtained from parents to pay more attention to the suggestion is simple, to be distinctive attitude informed of the reasons, and then Correct guidance. Divert attention. This child may be hoping to use other people's shortcomings to magnify their own advantages, but also may be the reason for the family environment, adults exaggerate more children, so now you can give the child to establish a system, every day to find other people an advantage, and want to go to learn can get a star, time long to a certain number of stars can be exchanged for a favorite gift.
First of all, we have to be clear that imitation is the nature of the child, not imitation of shortcomings is the nature of the child. The first thing we need to be clear about is that it is in the nature of the child to imitate, not to imitate the shortcomings. I believe that if he is surrounded by children with good qualities, he will also imitate them. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
In fact, when children are young, they are influenced by all sorts of things, the environment, the school, the children around them, and so on, and when they are young, they can't distinguish between the good and the bad, and they are curious about everything, and then they imitate them, and they may learn from the bad ones, or they may learn from the good ones. Parents should pay attention to observe and guide them in time when they are small. This slowly grows up, can establish the correct values of life outlook.