Why is the couple or the original good
One: each other know each other, mutual trust
The original couple, each other are first married, more know each other, even if they are together for a long time, there is no love, there is also affection. Do not easily mention divorce, because two people can come together is not easy, said there is no affection, is false, can not find freshness, tired of each other, is true. As long as the two sides did not touch the bottom line of morality, to the point of necessity, it is recommended that each other step back, convergence of temper, can not leave to leave. After the departure, and then want to meet a know-how, mutual trust of people, the difficulty is high.
Two: both parents have long been a family, hard to part with
The first marriage couples, are very concerned with the feelings of both parents, married for a long time, both parents, has long been their parents. If you are remarried, it is difficult to do so close, the relationship is good again always feel not a family, it is difficult to open up, unreserved treatment. Even if it is really divorced, treat each other's parents' attitude, will still be the same as not divorced. Because in your heart, they have long been their own family, divorce is not a small matter, even if not for their own consideration, but also to consider the parents.
Three: there *** with the children, parents more a point of love and sense of responsibility
This is particularly important, why do you say that couples or original good? The most fundamental reason is to have *** with the child. The child is the continuation of our life, in order to the child's happiness, parents do what sacrifices are willing, and only original couples may be able to give everything for the child, and non-original couples is very difficult to do. Remarried families, it is difficult to really make love, especially with children, everyone has their own little scheme, wholeheartedly, how easy. The previous I advance of that Ms. Yang, is a living example, her husband to their own children and her children, always differentiated treatment, as a mother, how can not be chilled, not sad?
Couples must be the original good
1, each other have had a lot of **** with the same experience, more understanding of each other
Many couples come to the end, is not not love, but do not know the marriage management skills. Couples married for the first time, often the most invested. And go through so many years, experienced a lot, each other whether temperament or habits have a certain understanding. This understanding is the result of years of business down the line for both parties. Any marriage requires bonding, and if we walk blindly into another marriage, we will find that we do not necessarily have to be as happy as we thought. After Xiao Yan's divorce, he once took out the letter he once wrote to his wife, which made him realize that the way he pursued the girl he is now and the way he once pursued his ex-wife are so consistent. He wondered, if this is the case, then in the future days together, he and his wife now will not be able to escape the fate of such a divorce. He began to especially miss the good times he once had with his wife. Many couples have conflicts, not necessarily irreparable conflicts, when we choose to taste into the new family, it also means that need to be managed, if you do not know how to manage, marriage is still irreconcilable contradictions. The reason why the original match is worth cherishing, this is because often when you are young, there is a person who is willing to cherish you, and you go together, and accompany you for so many years, her emotions are the most sincere, but remarriage, sometimes both the state of mind or mentality you can no longer be as simple and transparent as before.
2, each other have **** the same circle, the interests are also one.
Secondly, the original match is good, this is because the husband and wife after many years of life, often have many **** the same circle. This kind of circle so that couples actually from a certain point of view, not only just emotional ties, and economic interests are also one. Couples in the **** the same life, inevitably also accompanied by economic interests grow as one. Husband and wife are also the best partners. A family grows from small to large without the efforts of both parties. For example, as my previous students told me, they were able to go from being penniless to settling down in this small city, basically because both husband and wife **** the same burden. Couples in many years of life, everyone's interests are bound together, this binding makes the couple's feelings more complex, not just say love and not love so simple.
3, there are children as a bond with each other
Whether you believe it or not, children must be an important bond between husband and wife. In *** with the process of raising children, both husband and wife have a kind of input and pay; the genes in the child are inevitably the child's mother and the child's father on the combination of *** with the body. We look at the child will know that the child is flowing with the blood of both husband and wife **** the same blood, is the crystallization of each other's love. The husband and wife, because of the child, are the guardians of both ****s, and in many things have to be discussed and agreed upon. Unless one of the spouses is particularly irresponsible, leading to role failure, this irreparable towards divorce is understandable. But in a way, the original spouse is good, and that's because of the complete dedication to each other when it comes to commitment. And this is unlikely in a remarried family, it is difficult for anyone to be completely undistracted, and even if a new family is formed, because of the increased number of members, there will be a corresponding increase in the number of conflicts, and all of this will bring more trouble and challenges to the existing life. The reason why couples are still better off with their original partners is more importantly because there are **** same circles and **** same habits over the years. Just because many times too familiar, we ignore each other's good, but if we have a grateful mind to face their wives, you will find that the affirmation of the wife's past is the biggest affirmation of you and the future.
These two kinds of men want to remarry with his ex-wife is very difficult
1) out of sincerity only
Wang Hai and Wang Huanhuan divorced, Wang Hai can not resist the loneliness, and soon found a woman together. Nine-year-old son sentenced to Wang Hai, Wang Hai said his son is his, do not allow the child and Wang Huanhuan to come and go. When the mother, want to child. Buy a gift, quietly go to the school where the child goes to visit. The news quickly reached the ears of the Wang family. Wang Hai and his sister found Wang Huanhuan with a fierce anger. "You want to do this again, I let you never see the child," Wang Hai said his sister to help voice: "You do not come to see the child, will give the child a shadow - shadow, know?" Wang Huanhuan fire was provoked: "I see how the child, the shadow is caused by you ......" Both sides argued, a good fight after this quarrel, Wang Huanhuan disheartened has been single over the day. Five years later, one day, Wang Huanhuan did not expect his ex-husband will call him: "so long you have not seen the child, want him. This will he grow taller, I let the child to find you ah" after putting down the phone. Wang Huanhuan still go to work. About the evening, the son to Wang Huanhuan called: "Mom ............" Wang Huanhuan while crying while listening, after a while the son rode to her place. The mother and the two met.
Wang Huanhuan was momentarily happy, and did not distinguish why the ex-husband. Things seem to return to normal, the next day, the son continued to return to school, after a few days, the original and ex-husband familiar with the old horse to find Wang Huanhuan, I tell you a thing: this Wang Hai is now also single, he broke with the woman for a long time, Wang Hai would like you to go back to the child is your family, a family of three together. You remarried." Oh! So he's here to make peace. It is the ex-husband entrusted him to come. Wang Huanhuan thought: from the fire pit out, and then jump in, no, resolutely not remarried. So I told Old Ma. Since this day, Wang Huanhuan wanted to reunite with his son this time. Afterwards, it can be a long-term relationship, so always call the son, one day, Wang Huanhuan called the child, the ex-husband answered the phone and said: "You're this old call, affecting the child's learning, the son is my ......" after also scolded Wang Huanhuan with foul language, since then, and not let the mother and son meet. And do not let the two women meet, this time Wang Huanhuan understand, the original ex-husband know that they want children, take the child to seduce, the purpose of remarriage, was rejected, the tail of the fox revealed, really well-intentioned rushed this point, not remarriage is too sensible. Things to here we see, Wang Hai used the child to attract Wang Huanhuan remarriage. Premeditated for a long time, but it is a pity that the smart use the wrong place. Such a man is not really want to remarry with his ex-wife, if you really want to remarry, please use your sincerity and action to prove. We thought his insincerity is difficult to remarry, but there are some men who really want to remarry with their ex-wives can not
2)Women are willing to remarry only
My former colleague Sun Liping also divorced, he chatted with me when I persuaded him to remarry, I said: "He did not mess around outside, remarried to get." "He loves there is no, I do not restore" so resolute. I thought: this man in addition to her no second woman, to the children spend money willingly, divorced also do not drive her away, the two people still live in a family. So this is how to persuade him. According to the words of Sun Liping: "is not divorced from home, not divorced before the separation has been separated, divorced, and the same as the original, each live their own." His ex-husband to remarry her. Sun Liping said:Remarriage is impossible, it is not easy to leave. I had to leave with him, forcing him to leave. Shame ah, I do not dare to say, I just can not let go of the child ...... Moreover, Sun Liping's family do not know she divorced. But the man's family know, this is not remarriage, the man has no hope, and then I learned from Sun Liping that the reason is that the three views are not the same. Divorce is a matter for adults and has nothing to do with children. The child is not an object, the hegemony to have, the child needs affection. Need to caress hope that men and women *** with the maintenance, give.
What circumstances men want to remarry
1. No money
You have money, and who have a relationship, no money, but can see who is the most sincere. When he really lost his wife, only to realize that the original really love him, willing to pay willingly or his own wife.
2. Need to take care of their own children
Many couples divorce, the child will be awarded to the other one to raise, the other one to pay maintenance. If the child is awarded to the man, the man himself did not how to take care of the child, once he started to take care of the child by himself, only to find that the original raise a child is so not easy. They are also very tired, and hope that someone can share his hard work, and the child can not lack of parental care, so it will be very hopeful of remarriage, but sometimes they can not pull face, often only buried in the heart.
3. Anxiety about remarriage
According to statistics, the remarriage rate of divorcees is only 18%. The ease of remarriage is one of the main reasons for remarriage. The parties may see the complexity of remarried families. If not handled properly, it can easily lead to a new marital crisis, and as a "man who has been there", it is natural to be cautious about this.
4. Experience the pain of impulse
Lover is accustomed to eating a home-cooked once hot pot, although exciting, but ultimately can not always eat. There are many men who divorce and live with their lover found that in fact, the lover is far less than the original match. When the novelty recedes, what remains is the bare bones of the trivial life of firewood, rice, oil and salt. Midway into the partner may be looking at you have a strong financial strength, but the final result is not satisfactory anymore. Impulsive punishment, men want to get back the haven they once had by remarrying! Turning back is the shore, but often when you want to turn back, suddenly realize that there is no more waiting on the other side. That wait for you to come back to work overtime to give you a snack to prepare the person has not been on the other side of the shore, the person to give you a consultation waist massage has not been on the other side of the shore, the face with a smile has been unable to retrieve!
5. For the sake of the children
The children are eager to live in a happy family, and the parents' divorce will indeed cause some harm to the children. So some divorced men and women choose to remarry for the sake of their children. Both sides should always contact the child, so that the child to enjoy the affection from both parents, *** with the responsibility of raising children, the child will be able to bravely face the family changes.