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The old man said that men get married when they are older, and women get married when they are older. When the relationship between men and women has reached a certain level, it will involve the etiquette of bride price when they begin to talk about marriage.
How many people, on the threshold of marriage, broke up because of the bride price.
After this happened many times, some men hated the bride price. What's more, they say it's a bad habit for thousands of years.
In recent years, "sky-high" bride price has indeed appeared in some places. Marrying a daughter and asking for a bride price of 300 thousand made the man's family overwhelmed and finally had to give up this relationship.
Three hundred thousand, for most working-class families, is really a lot of money. It is no exaggeration to say that children are surrounded by four walls after finishing college.
However, this sky-high bride price is, after all, a very small number of families. Most parents are still open-minded. Everyone has experienced it and understands how difficult it is to raise children. They just want their future son-in-law to treat their girls well. This daughter, who is regarded as a princess at home, is still loved by her husband's family.
Many girls want something simple. As long as you are willing to care about her, love her and give her enough sense of security, she will have the confidence to entrust her life to you.
Many lovers who broke up because the bride price was not settled, the man said that he was too poor to give the bride price and was not married. Sorry, this pot is poor.
It is never the bride price that destroys feelings, but your attitude towards it.
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Many men always use poverty as an excuse to tell their girls directly: "You know my family's situation, and you are so sensible, you still don't want the bride price. We have been dating for so many years, don't you understand my heart? "
To tell the truth, it is a girl's right to give the bride price, and it is your attitude. No matter how poor you are, you don't even have thousands of dollars. If that's the case, it's hard for the girl to solve the problem of food and clothing even if she follows you, so who dares to marry you?
Besides, a man who wants to marry a wife without spending a penny can love his future wife more than himself.
Adult love smells like money, either transfer money or get married in a bride price.
Many girls said, "What disappoints them is not that he has money and needs to give a bride price, but that he didn't intend to give it at the beginning, and there are always people who marry their wives without spending a penny, and even make money, which makes me seem to say that I want a bride price and become inhuman."
A man haggles over the bride price again and again. After all, he just doesn't think your life is worth the money.
You can be so haggle over every ounce before marriage. How generous can you be after marriage?
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Classmate Qin Qin has been dating a boy for 10 years, so it's time to talk about marriage. Finally, at the bride price, the two families broke up and later broke up.
My dear boyfriend Xiao Kai is also my high school classmate. We have the same circle, but we are still in touch.
After breaking up, Xiao Kai mentioned this 10-year relationship, always saying that he was too poor to give Qinqin the life she wanted, and he couldn't afford much bride price money, which led to the separation.
I can't help but feel chilling. I made myself look like an infatuated man, and put all the responsibilities on the woman. What's more, I secretly said that your marriage broke down because the bride price demanded by Qin Qin's family was too high.
A person with normal thinking will not think that the other party broke up because he disliked your poverty. A girl has been dating you for ten years. Doesn't she know your financial situation in the past ten years? If you are a girl who hates poverty and loves wealth, how can ten years of youth be wasted on you and how can you want to take you home to meet your parents and talk about marriage?
Later, when I attended the class reunion, I heard another saying that love failed in Qinqin's mouth.
Qin Qin said: "From the beginning, I knew that the family environment in Xiao Kai was very ordinary, so I didn't ask Xiao Kai to give any expensive gifts on holidays. I must go out for a good meal on the anniversary. Even an occasional meal is AA's. Besides, it's from me. I only hope that Xiao Kai can save some money to prepare for a small family in the future. "
Kay was very grateful and kind to her at first, but over time, she took it for granted. Later, on Qinqin's birthday, there was nothing but a happy birthday, and even a red envelope from 5.2 yuan.
On the contrary, on Kay's birthday, Kiss always prepared gifts and gave out red envelopes, and he accepted them, without feeling embarrassed at all.
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Qinqin sometimes feels wronged and says half jokingly that you should also express it on my birthday. I can't give it to you every time, but you have to give it back a little.
Xiao Kai shrugged and said, your family economy is ok. This money means nothing to your family. When I get rich, I will definitely buy you many gifts.
Although Qinqin was unhappy at that time, she was immersed in love and soon forgot it. It was not until the wedding that the two sides agreed on the bride price. Qinqin's parents are also very reasonable and understand that Xiao Kai's family economy is very general. They only said that they only wanted to kiss and be happy after marriage. As for the bride price, just look at it, that is, it will be given to you in the end to make you happy in the future.
Xiao Kai's parents said directly, "In this case, why don't we just give the bride price? Anyway, the money will be given to the couple in the end, which is the same. "
Xiao Kai has no right to speak at home, so he acquiesced in his parents' views.
Qinqin's family was dumbfounded directly and felt even more chilling. They have made the biggest concession, but the other side is pushing their luck, and they have the face to say no to the bride price.
Qinqin also felt disheartened. After ten years of love, she has never received the attention and love she deserves. She refused to pay a penny. How much love can she have?
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As the saying goes, men who spend money for you don't necessarily love you, but men who refuse to spend a penny for you certainly don't love you.
Furthermore, a man who loves you and his in-laws, even if their families are poor, will show due courtesy if they attach importance to this marriage.
Everyone has meat in his heart, and everyone has his own children. How do you feel if your daughter marries a man and the other person doesn't even pay a penny?
My cousin married a poor boy. The only difference is that her husband's family respects her cousin very much. There should be as many manners as there are, but some are just more. At the bride price, my cousin's family also said that it would be good to give a form, and my cousin's family nodded with a smile.
However, when receiving the bride price, the cousin family was still shocked, far beyond their expectations and beyond the economic scope of the cousin family.
Cousin is a little jealous of her mother-in-law, saying that she stole all her belongings and had to start all over again.
Cousin said, "What does this money mean to your life?" ? My parents are very supportive of me in doing this. It is said that it is not easy to raise a daughter. In a blink of an eye, we can make money and marry into our family. If you even care about the bride price, how can it make sense? People mix society with their conscience and then become poor. This courtesy is still there. "
Sure enough, my cousin has been married for 15 years, and her life is very sweet, and her in-laws get along well. Through years of hard work, the days are getting better and better, and the family is happy.
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Bridal gift has never been a stumbling block on the road to marriage, and it is your attitude towards the bride price that ultimately leads to the breakup. You always use poverty as a shield to cover up your desire to get something for nothing.
If you really love a girl, how can you feel that you have given her too much? She bet her whole life on you, but you are willing to let her lose.
If a man really loves a girl, even if he gives everything, he will think that he will do whatever it takes. Because of love, he has no regrets.
On the other hand, if a man is always careful about money, he is afraid that he will pay more. Even if it is such a big event as getting married, he will bargain again and again, what's more, he won't even pay a penny, because in his heart, you don't even have a penny.
Just like those discounted goods in the mall, even gifts, how much can you cherish out of human instinct?