1. Good at psychological comfort
When you speak, you should actively cooperate, which shows that the other party's topic is arousing our interest and also implies that we are paying attention to each other. You can also follow his topic and encourage him to continue with an active listening and leisurely attitude, or pour him a cup of tea, or say, "I think so." "That's true!" "Your point of view is exactly the same as mine." This kind of psychological appeasement seems to indicate a positive cooperation, allowing you to pour out your inner feelings in the opposite direction.
2. Actively encourage each other.
When talking with people, you should show an attitude of interest, concern and approval, so that the other person has a strong feeling of recognition. At this time, you mainly encourage the other person to talk more. If the other person asks you to express your opinion again, generally don't interrupt the other person's train of thought because of interruption. Of course, you can repeat each other's statements in some details to show your attention and affirmation and strengthen their feelings. "Yes, only when you are in such a situation can you understand the difficulties of others." Repeating such words is an important psychological support for the other party, and it also increases the fun of his conversation. At the same time, it may also play the role of prompting "lines", so that the other party can express their inner thoughts and inner world more clearly, such as helping to summarize and give appropriate descriptions, so as to keep the other party interested in talking. If you want the other person to open up further, you need more sympathy, understanding and a sense of * * *. Let the other person know that you put yourself in his shoes. You can always say, "I feel the same way when you say this." "I don't think so, but I think you have made it clear." This will help the two sides to strengthen common ground and promote mutual understanding and communication.
3. Express your views sincerely.
When talking with people, if you echo each other's words, don't say a word "no" and express your true opinions, people will follow suit, which will be considered as a person who has no opinion and is glib, and others will not be willing to make friends with you. In daily life, as long as you properly express your different views to others, it will not only offend people, but also be very popular, so that the other party knows that you are seriously considering his problems. Because many things we talk about in our daily life are not absolutely right or wrong. As long as we sincerely express our views, perhaps it is from another side to analyze the problem, the other party will generally accept it reasonably in order to improve our ideas.
4. Pay attention to change the subject in time.
Even the best topic is over. When the speaker's interest wanes and he just repeats something stale, he should change the subject. There are many ways to change the subject. For example, you can stop talking about old topics and be silent for a moment, so that others can say something and lead to new topics. You can also talk after the conversation is interrupted. ...