Recently, I have traveled with the sister of one of my classmates, who was sitting at the back of my car. Although I am a stranger, we have been constantly looking for topics along the way. She was already fifty-seven, but seemed to look young, both in face and physique. When I found out how old she really was, I couldn't help but keep the compliments coming, absolutely from the heart of course. She told me that he and his husband were retired, and his daughter had a pair of children, one in elementary school and one in kindergarten, and that she lived a very free life every day without having to bring up her children, and that she went to square dancing every night, and that her siblings got together from time to time. She said: We live in a small city with little pressure, just enough money. She described her life as very simple, in fact, his life may really be very simple, but from her tone full of satisfaction, I felt is incomparable contentment and a kind of down-to-earth happiness. At that moment, I suddenly felt that happiness is not so unattainable, happiness is embedded in the simple and contented life.
Many times we live in other people's world, looking up in other people's world, envious of other people's lives, envious of other people's possession, at the same time, always take into account other people's eyes and feelings, their own doings of the judgment standard building on the other people's preferences, because of this, we are always letting themselves live a very tired, happiness also quietly slipped away.
More often than not, we have always positioned the standard of happiness too high, and the reality of their own power can not be reached, people tend to want to not meet and worry, because of the limited capacity of the goal can not be fulfilled and disturbed, happiness should be pursued to the best of their ability, but too demanding, but also let themselves live a very tiring, and happiness is also therefore discounted.
Many times we are trying to pursue a happy life, but we often amplify their own shortcomings, for all they have blind, but also not enough to cherish all they have. We ignore the happiness is actually on our side, happiness is very simple, happiness is everything we have, a person is tired of material, is narrowly confined, do not cherish everything around you, happiness in you will be unaware.
More often than not, happiness comes from the contentment of the mind, too many people's desires, will chase too much, chase too much, will be physically and mentally exhausted, life is not everything, even if you do not encounter a big storm, there will be bumps along the way, if you give too much weight to the soul of the burden is too heavy, and can not extricate themselves from the deep and happiness will be with the wind and pass away.
Life may be like this, you admire the happiness of others at the same time, in fact, they are also looked up to and envied by others. Your happiness is often in the eyes of others, but not in your own heart. When one day you learn to cherish and know how to be content, happiness will reside in your heart.
Put the standard of happiness a little lower, happiness will not be so far out of reach, when we have a grateful heart, when we are full of confidence in life, do what you like to do, have relatives and friends can be thought of and hold on to, because of their own insignificance to bring happiness to others, have things on their minds can be at any time to talk to people, wake up every morning sunshine sprinkled with the room, the night walk in the breeze. I can look up and see the sky full of stars, my heart is not worried, my body is not hurt, so we will be surprised to find that happiness is hidden in our contentment.
There is a thought-provoking story. A rich man and a poor man were talking about what happiness is. The rich man said, "Happiness is like me, living in a high-rise building, eating delicacies, wearing silk and satin, and calling on maids and servants." The poor man said, "Happiness is like what I am now." The rich man heard this, pointed his finger at the poor man's hut, looked up and down at the poor man's shabby clothes, and said contemptuously, "You call this happiness?"
Soon, the rich man's home unfortunately occurred a fire, the mansion suddenly into nothing, overnight the rich man reduced to beggars. Hot summer, a sweaty beggar passed by the poor man's hut, want to ask for a drink of water. The poor man brought a big bowl of cool water, asked him: "What do you think is happiness now?" The beggar said blearily, "Happiness is this bowl of water in your hand!"
This story is a very simple answer to the question of what is happiness. The contentment of the hut dweller is a kind of happiness, and the sweaty beggar's longing for a bowl of water is also a kind of happiness when this simple longing is satisfied.
Satisfaction, not more material possessions, is the inner calm and relaxed, gently walk through the years, dust and dirt. Contentment is to treat everything in this world with a transcendent mindset, treat everything that happens in front of you, Mr. Yang Jiang once said: we had so much desire for the ripples of fate, to the end only to find that life's most exquisite scenery, is actually the inner calmness and composure; we had so much hope for the recognition of the outside world, to the end to know: the world is their own, and others have nothing to do with it."
Life is simple and not cumbersome, and people interact with simple and no more than one, because simple, the heart is as light as water, relaxed and cozy, because simple, to avoid a lot of trouble and worry, cast off a lot of greed and extravagance, people live a simple life, will not be entangled, the heart of the heart, will not be burdened, which may be the best model of happiness.
The strange sister and many people living in this small town, there is this kind of contentment and simplicity and perceived happiness, they are not negative life, not uninspired self-satisfied mediocrity, in the lively and noisy morning market, in the leisurely pacing of the crowd, in the thriving square dance team, you can feel that kind of simple happiness, happiness overflowing with a kind of spontaneity and at ease.
Satisfaction, in order to be carefree, simple, in order to be at ease, in order to be happy from the heart, only such a state of mind, in order to feel the existence of happiness, to feel the satisfaction of happiness.
May we have more peace and ease, and let our hearts be close to happiness every day.