About parents in hometown, I will quote a sentence from Confucius thousands of years ago:
The son said, "Parents are here, not far away from traveling, traveling is a good thing." The Analects of Confucius - Liren
In these words, Confucius "both emphasized that children should support and honor their parents (which they could not do if they traveled far away from home), but did not object to one's going out to strive when one had a justifiable and clear goal. " The premise is to inform parents of the "direction" to go, so that parents can rest assured.
Moose is a "small town youth", from the northwest border town, came to the magic city to further study, study, after graduation, through the examination into the "system", in the magic city, work, settle down. Moose is also an only child, and my parents are currently retired in Shaanxi Province, and occasionally come over to take care of my children. I will talk about my own situation for the subject's reference:
First of all, in order to relieve my parents of the loneliness of their daughter's long absence and their grandson's rare happiness, I go back to Shaanxi at least twice a year. One of them is the New Year's Eve, which is coming again in 2017, and whenever my colleagues ask me, "Are you going home for New Year's Eve this year?" I do not hesitate to answer: "Of course back ah! What New Year's Eve is there if you don't stay with your parents?" On New Year's Day and festivals, I try to reunite with my parents as much as possible; there is also an annual vacation, to be honest, I have not gone out to travel in the last few years, and up to now I have not left the country, and the reason is that, as soon as there is an annual vacation I go back to my hometown. In addition to my parents, I have an 80-year-old grandfather who is still alive, so there is no better way to fulfill my filial piety than to spend more time with the elderly and visit home.
Secondly, I often bring my parents to Shanghai for short stays. After nearly 10 years of struggle, the moose in Shanghai also barely stood foot, so a few months a year, the moose will be the parents will pick up the reunion; and then take advantage of the weekend time to accompany them in some scenic spots in Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai to take a break, in this way, my parents are quite happy.
Third, full support for the elderly to develop their own hobbies. To honor the elderly, it is important to "do what you like". I used to have the misconception that I would spend a lot of money every year on gifts that I thought they would like; and then through many exchanges with my dad, I came to understand the reasoning behind this. In fact, old people don't care about expensive clothes and health care products. My dad loves calligraphy, so I fully support him; I often take the initiative to meet famous calligraphers and introduce them to my dad, so that his retirement life can be more meaningful. My mom's hobbies are tai chi and square dancing; so whenever she comes to Shanghai, I introduce her to dance with the residents in the neighborhood, so that she can exercise and make many new friends.
About the children, it is definitely a good idea to bring them along! You're working in a first-tier city, so do you want to leave your children at home? I don't think the vast majority of people would do that. As for parenting philosophy, I firmly believe in the saying: the road to parenting is long, please first educate yourself.
Many young parents are overly enamored with the idea of overpriced tutorials and private schools, believing that the more expensive the tutorial, the better. The more expensive the tutorials, the better. In the first-tier cities like Beijing, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, where life is already very stressful, many people spend almost 70% of their monthly salary on tutorials for their children; the money is not spent on oneself, and even less on the elderly, but on the children's pursuit of a "high quality of life".
They tell their children to "read well" all day long, but they almost never read; the so-called reading, but also just use the "fragmented time" to pick up the phone to see the article to see the novels; accompanied by the child to go to the counseling class, they are outside with their iPhones, and the children are not in the classroom, but they are in the room. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on an iPad and watch a movie on it, and when you're locked in a room with your kids, they're in the living room watching soap operas and playing all kinds of games on their cell phones.
Every child is unique, and I don't think there is any one-size-fits-all truth in educating children; as a parent, the best way to educate children is to do a good job yourself and set a good example for your children.
For the subject's reference.