As the saying goes, the old man and the child are intergenerational, and it is a fact that the old man loves his granddaughter and grandson. But it is also undeniable that there is a generation gap between the elderly and the younger generation, and that they are not able to keep up with the times in their views on certain matters. Moreover, the companionship of father and mother is especially important for children in their growth process, and a long time of absence can also lead to emotional indifference. So is it really a good idea to entrust your child to an older family member?
The phenomenon of "fake baby" is becoming more common, and "intergenerational pro" is no longer available, so young parents should beware!
Online there was once such a report article: Lili's child has been nine months, but still can not open the mouth called mom and dad. Lili heart full of doubt, is the child's body problems? At that moment, Lili hurriedly took the child to the hospital for a comprehensive examination. The doctor said that the child's indicators are normal, and the results show that there is no difference.
What exactly is the reason why the child is still unable to speak at nine months? Lili was unable to find the reason, just follow the doctor's instructions to the child continued to observe. Until one time Lili went back to her parents' home, when she entered the house, she saw her parents were playing mahjong in the mahjong parlor, while her own child was set aside and was fiddling with toys alone. His own parents did not communicate with the child in the slightest, letting the child play alone.
At that time, Lili was very angry and understood at once the reason why her child could not speak. After discussing with her husband, she decided to take the child back to her own education. They felt that the parents were not only failing to take care of the child's growth, but also increasing the risk of losing the child. After weighing the pros and cons, they decided to get personally involved in the child's development process, and no matter how hard it was, they had to find time to be with the child and try to make up for the trauma the child had suffered before.
So what are some of the issues that arise that cause parents to have problems raising their children?
1, incorrect upbringing
The child from birth has a critical period to learn to walk, learn to speak and so on, and missing these critical periods will lead to the child's developmental delay. The elderly do not pay attention to their children's mental health. For example, as mentioned in the article, Lili's child could not speak at the age of nine, which is obviously the result of the lack of proper education for the child.
Parents live in a different era and have different ideas than we do. They don't understand this, everything is about nature, in addition to ensuring that the child's basic food and clothing, and can't be scientific education of the child, so that the brain and body coordination in the direction of the healthy development of the child. The young people in the network of knowledge and information developed in a timely manner to receive a variety of advanced information on parenting, the parents of the companion is particularly important.
2, limited energy can not look after the child
As a young man, the economic pressure to work overtime every day, thinking of saving money to plan for the future development, so that the child's future in the best school. When it comes to work-family balance and not being able to take care of your child at all times, you think of your parents, who have a lot of free time on their hands. But there are a lot of downsides to parenting, and there are a lot of realities involved.
While the elderly have generally retired from work and spend their leisure time at home raising flowers and cooking, or dancing and playing chess, but after all, the elderly are getting older, and they generally move slowly, have blurred vision, and can't spit out words, etc., and will be unable to take care of their children. If there is such a situation will make the child lose the language exercise environment, the elderly can not withstand the small children's energetic.
There are also some individual cases, due to the old man's long-term spoiling, the child gradually developed some bad habits that are difficult to get rid of, such as speaking impolitely, arrogant, rude and so on, these bad habits will have a negative impact on the child's future development, and it is difficult to correct.
The first-time parents should be able to judge for themselves whether the elderly are suitable to bring up their children. When the work is too busy, it can be entrusted to the elderly, but never as a hands-off. We also need to do a good job of thinking about the elderly, so that they understand that there are many ways to love, not just spoiled. In the face of old-fashioned elderly people who are more old-fashioned in their thinking, we have to point this out in an appropriate manner. In fact, to ensure the healthy growth of children, the most crucial thing is that parents are personally involved in giving children the best company.