Even though many people are no longer students, they can still appreciate the tense atmosphere of "preparing for war by the whole people".
I have a different view on this.
Because after I experienced a series of dark moments in my life, I realized that the "College Entrance Examination" might be just the simplest exam in my life.
Before sharing my college entrance examination story, I want to tell you about the trap of "college entrance examination mode".
What is the "College Entrance Examination Mode"?
To put it simply, college entrance examination candidates actually have certain "privileges", but they did not expect that after entering the society, they extended their habit of "privileges" to their lives and work and encountered unexpected setbacks and blows.
Luo Pang talked about this problem when he was doing an "Inspiration Club".
It is precisely because the people of the whole country attach great importance to the college entrance examination that if there are candidates in the courtyard of the community, a few days before the exam, the aunt who dances in the square dance may not dare to play music in public; A bus full of candidates is driving on the road, and the traffic police may also stop passing vehicles and open a way for them; If you accidentally overslept, just show your admission ticket on the way, and maybe a policeman will kindly send you to the examination room.
This is one of the "privileges" and may be the only national privilege in life.
Secondly, we take the college entrance examination in full view, so we will ensure its fairness and openness in all aspects, such as setting questions, taking exams, marking papers and enrolling students. We may never meet such a fair exam again in our life. This is the second "privilege".
Thirdly, although there are many participants in the college entrance examination, it seems that the competition is cruel and fierce, but in fact you will find that whether others work hard or not has little to do with "me" itself. If others get high marks, I can get high marks, and the division of marks is very clear.
In other words, the unstable factors on this track have been cleaned up, and there is only one real variable, that is, the candidates themselves.
After nearly ten years of study, personal efforts and diligence are the only criteria to determine the final result. Moreover, it is precisely because there are so many people on this track that you will feel unprecedented strength, because there are so many candidates fighting with you, and you are not alone at all. This is the third "privilege".
However, after entering the society, you will find that there is no such clean track, no so-called "privilege" and no company of thousands of troops.
On September 2, 2009, I was 25 years old. In order to realize my movie dream, I set foot on the train going north and went to Beijing with my dream.
At that time, I lived in an artist village called Songzhuang outside the Sixth Ring Road. I rented a shabby cottage in the country, monthly rent 140 yuan. It's very cold in winter, where I live, there is no heating, and there is a small hole in the ceiling, from which melted snow water will drip to the ground.
When I get up in the morning, my shoes are frozen on the ground and I can't pick them up; The cup is frozen on the table and can't be picked up.
The hard environment did not extinguish my dreams and enthusiasm. I worked hard and persisted, looking forward to one day being like the "College Entrance Examination". As long as I work hard, I can gain something.
Soon I left Songzhuang and became a film and television worker. I worked as a reporter, co-ordinator, deputy director and actor, and later I became a professional screenwriter, writing some boring scripts about grave robbery and case investigation.
But the film and television industry is depressed, and I have no salary. I look forward to the success of the script shooting and earn a meager manuscript fee.
I am struggling in a moldy rental house outside Bayi Film Studio. Regan Noodles, who eats a bowl of 8 yuan at the door every day, writes a script that no one reads. She has gained weight, deep myopia, severe stomach trouble and is overwhelmed by depression.
At this point, my movie dream has ended before it started.
You see, only by traveling around the world can people understand that the "college entrance examination" is really just a simple exam in life.
People will go through all kinds of exams in their life. But not all questions have standard answers.
For example, if you want to fall in love with a girl, she turns you down. This can't be won by hard work. If you don't like it, you don't like it.
For another example, you go to an awesome company for an interview and compete with another person for the same position. You have higher education and more experience than him, but they are relatives of the boss of the company. What can you do?
When I was wandering in Beijing, one night I received a message from Mix:
"I lost my job, and the company can't stay any longer. It's dissolved. Come out and have a drink with me. "
It happened to be his 30th birthday.
I have been a player in the game industry since I was a child. Over the years, he devoted all his energy and time to the game industry. He worked very hard, very hard. However, under the big waves, most game companies are doomed to bankruptcy. And my hair is small, I still haven't escaped this cruel "exam".
Luo Pang told a story about a salesman who tried his best to compete with his competitors for a big customer, but I'm sorry, but he finally failed.
It doesn't matter if he fails, but this person later learned that the reason for his failure has nothing to do with what he cares about, and it doesn't matter much whether he speaks well or does well.
It is because the one of his big customers has the right to decide, their children have to go to school, and his competitors can provide their children with a place in a prestigious school.
It's that simple.
You see, the college entrance examination once told us that as long as we work hard, we can get results and all the questions can be answered, but this is not the case. No matter how hard you try, many things can't have a good result.
Seeing this, you may feel very depressed. Life is so painful and life is so difficult. Why do you have to work hard? Why are you fighting?
Romain rolland once said, "There is only one true heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth of life."
Each of us is actually advancing on our own heroic journey. Every setback is an experience, and every blow is a growth, because without suffering, we have no chance to be better ourselves.
My hard life and childhood experience in Beijing made me deeply realize that if people put all their eggs in one basket, they will be smashed, only a matter of time.
If you devote all your time to one thing, such as preparing for the college entrance examination, it seems that you are fully committed, but people's ability to resist vulnerability will also become very weak, and it is easy to be crushed by sudden blows and unable to turn over.
The only way to break the situation is to find more baskets and open the eggs, so that your time can hedge your career risks, thus increasing our ability to cope with "change".
For me, the easiest way is to use my spare time to develop a sideline.
So while writing the script, I constantly take time out to read, learn, grow and improve.
It was at this time that I met the media.
Here, I can realize my ideas and complete my complete control of the content. I can directly face fans and users and communicate with them, which gives me a deeper understanding of content creation.
Fortunately, due to my continuous content output, I was selected by a writing training camp and hired as a teacher to become a writing coach. At this time, my headline account, also because of an article called "Lizard Thinking", soared from more than 800 fans and rose by 5000 powder a week. Later, several explosive articles, such as systematic thinking and armored thinking, made my fans break through the 10 thousand mark.
Up to now, I have accumulated nearly 400,000 fans, completely changed the track and started a new life.
You see, some problems seem unsolvable, but in fact they are just because they have chosen the wrong direction; If we think from another angle and re-reserve our own abilities and resources, we can break the trap of "college entrance examination mode" and gain something.
Then, in the face of thousands of candidates in Qian Qian and thousands of strugglers in Qian Qian in the future, what can be done to help them guard against the trap of "college entrance examination mode" in advance and cope with the challenges of life more calmly?
Now that we know that the future world will not be as stable and clean as the college entrance examination, it is necessary for us to change the game strategy and strive to cultivate children's ability to cope with change. While educating children, we can also grow up.
How to do it specifically? I have five suggestions for your reference:
1, teach children to ask questions.
Sometimes it's better to ask the right questions than to find the right answers.
In order to cultivate children's independent thinking ability, we should keep children curious, ask "why" in everything, and even question whether what parents say is correct.
By asking questions, we can quickly understand the environment and the situation that needs to be dealt with, so as to recognize the present situation more quickly and take countermeasures.
2. Enhance children's emotional flexibility.
We need to tell children that "it is very normal to feel and think in two contradictory ways."
For example, in the face of parents' nagging, children will feel concerned about practicality, but they will also feel annoyed; There are two different views on the same thing.
You should also get rid of your past experiences. Those inner voices tell you that "you shouldn't feel or think in a certain way". For example, you must be extroverted and not silent; You must plan without hesitation. Throw them away, and you can choose any flexible way to deal with the world.
3. Tell children to keep studying.
College entrance examination is not the end of study, on the contrary, it is just the beginning.
The knowledge of learning should not only be in books, but also the teachers' words and deeds, classmates' actions and reactions should be the objects of observation and learning.
Any good or bad thing can gain experience from it. The more you gain from various experiences, the more capable and efficient you will become.
4. Cultivate children's emotional ability.
* * * What is emotional ability? We didn't fall into the abyss alone, but stood on the heights and shouted "You have worked hard", but climbed into the depths and held each other's hands and said "I am with you".
Being able to think about problems and solutions from the perspective of others can effectively manage your own behavior and get along with others in exchange for more opportunities and resources.
5. Never label at will.
No matter people or things, once they are easily labeled, their thinking is imprisoned and the ending is set, the game can't be broken.
Everything in this world is not black and white. A person may do some bad things, but his heart is in line with some correct values.
Specific analysis of specific problems is the key to cultivate children's ability to cope with change.