In fact, the background of a number of female friends private letter to consult me, said we just started together when very sweet, boys are basically on call, the message back in seconds, but slowly seems to be cold down, and even I took the initiative to look for him, he is either back to a very busy, no time, or is the message is not to return, he is not in love with me? Is he trying to force me to break up? And so on.
In fact, on this issue, I also read some other emotional bloggers on the Internet, some will say that the man is cold, it must want to use this way to intentionally force you to force you to say break up, to dump you, so at this time, you must stop in time. After reading this I just want to express can you accumulate some virtue, now you know how difficult to establish a relationship, slightly male cold a bit, you say hurry to stop loss in time, to dump people, we are to establish intimate relationship.
Really I do not deny that some men do, like to use this cold war, forcing each other to end the relationship, indeed, but this situation is actually very few, not much. First of all I will give you an analysis of why men will be cold after a long time with you?
The first is the difference in thinking, you have not found a man just with a woman together, this time the man is the most passionate, but also the most proactive, every day to find you, about your dinner and so on. And this time the woman is actually more bland, is to look at the man's attitude, I will decide whether to stay with you. Slowly, this man is very enthusiastic about you after you promised him to be with him, then this time the man may feel that it has been completed, the task has been completed, he may slowly bland some, not as before, every day to you flowers, every day to ask you to eat, every day to pick you up.
But this time the woman is just put into this relationship only began, so she will put her enthusiasm all out, began to put this man. For example, will take the initiative to ask the man in what ah? The woman will ask the man what he's doing, for example, and have dinner with him tonight. But by this time, the man may have returned to his old life, to work, to busy other things, this time the girl will feel you to me flat, you do not love me, you see this is the difference in thinking between men and women.
The second one is that many women don't distinguish the difference between bland and cold. Do you think these two words are similar? In fact, it is not the same, bland is actually love is originally like, that is, for example, I originally I was every day is to and from work, but I suddenly found a girl is very good, I like her very much, I want to chase her, then I will certainly work inside the time to take time to this girl is good, to chase her, every day to block her. But slowly, I think after I've succeeded in chasing her, I'm not going back to my normal work, so I might be a little bit flat to you, but it's definitely not cold.
The coldness is the kind of you run to find him he will not pay attention to you, on you no matter what he ignored you, even disappeared, this is called coldness. This kind of cold situation, may indeed have a kind of forced you to compromise, or that your feelings have been a big problem. Next I will talk about a practical method, in your flat period of time to increase more emotional communication, so that your passion can be slightly rekindled a little bit.
This method is called the scene replacement method, which is the most effective for girls. It is in the same scene, if you do the same thing every time, you will feel boring. But suddenly change a thing, or change a scene, you will feel fresh.
To take the simplest example, for example, our cell phones, if you buy that phone back to the end, have been using that one phone case, all black, and then you also feel no freshness. But once in a while, you buy some more kawaii, good-looking phone case, you will feel good at least for two days, look comfortable. Another change of film, another change of phone case, feel like new, look all comfortable, is a concept.
So how do we go about bringing it into our relationship? Let me give you an example, we as partners often hold hands and kiss, this kind of thing is very normal, especially when separated. But have you ever thought about where you usually kiss or hold hands? May be in some hidden places, did not say in the square dance when, suddenly steak a kiss, so you see on the matter of kissing, you are able to change a scene.
For example, you before, never living room inside the embrace kiss, that may go to try, or you see for example, you go to the street with him to buy clothes, and then in the fitting room, suddenly kissed him a mouthful of this kind of is the most provocative man, which will make you this kind of love stimulation, and immediately came up. Because he will be skeptical, he will think why would she kiss me in public? Could it be that I changed this body of clothing so that she can not help it, could it be that I am too handsome, maybe because of this kiss, he will also return you a kiss. Under this kind of tense and exciting environment, it will make your feelings a little stronger.
Of course, this is just an example I gave, in fact, there are a lot of scenarios can be done, such as in the elevator, the elevator is going to open when suddenly hugged him, and then immediately let go of, these will make you feel different scenarios do different things, the kind of fresh stimulation, but also let your feelings in the flat when the ripples set off more. Relationship flat period is very simple, just like the water in this river, it may be very flat, there is no wave. But this is the time when you just learn to throw a rock down and make some waves. I hope this helps you with your feelings.