The mother-in-law's health is not particularly good, and the couple's work is quite busy, weighing the situation, they hired a clockwork aunt to do the cooking and hygiene, in order to reduce the mother-in-law's burden. However, the mother-in-law is too costly, and she is trying to get rid of the aunt by all means, saying that she can do it herself.
The mother-in-law recited several times after the dishes thought of the old man saving a lifetime, afraid of spending money on the psychology of understandable, they agreed, can only be a small couple off work to help share the burden of forget about it.
But the aunt went for a period of time after the mother-in-law often said headache, back pain, let her go to the hospital to check, and dead not to say that the old lying on the good. The first time I saw my mother-in-law's mental fatigue, I was also quite upset, but I drew the attention of the aunt and she did not agree with a hundred.
The most depressing thing about the dish is that once I overheard my mother-in-law chatting with a neighbor, saying that she was too miserable to wait for her mother-in-law when she was young, and that she had to wait for her son and daughter-in-law when she was old.
The first time I saw this, I was in the middle of a conversation with my mother-in-law, and she said, "I don't know what to say, but I don't know what to say!
There are many other things, such as:
buying clothes for her is too wasteful to wear, and when she sees other old ladies on the road wearing bright clothes, she says that her life is not worth living;
taking her out to eat is too expensive to go home to do, and when she finishes cooking, she is tired of sweating and sighing;
accompanying her to go out to play and feeling that she needs to spend money on everything, and then letting her stay home alone, she complains that her son does not care about her and does not stay with her.
A few days before Tanabata, Liu asked Xiaomei what she wanted as a gift, and Xiaomei said she didn't want anything, and that it would be good to be plain. The same day home from work, Liu proposed to go out to eat on the holiday? Xiaomei felt that the holiday is certainly more people road traffic jam price, think about it or forget it.
Before going to bed, the girlfriends group in the chat, someone said to go to the beach vacation, someone said to go out to eat a big meal, someone said to receive a rose ...... only Xiaomei nothing, she lay in bed, the more you think the more lost, can not help but count down the big Liu two sentences.
Da Liu is very depressed: "I asked is that you say what do not want ah! I used to buy you gifts, you either hate this bad or that expensive, I do not dare to buy you something."
In fact, Xiaomei saw a branded bag, the style is selected, but the price is not cheap, equivalent to her one month's salary. She did not say and Daliusha, she also knows that Daliusha will not oppose, but she can not afford to buy.
Knowing this reason, Da Liu sighed and said: "Our family money are in your place, you want to buy what I stopped you? I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it," he said.
It is true that they are unreasonable, Xiaomei a little irritated: "It is not because we do not have money, or I will not be able to give up?" The first time I heard this, I was angry: "You mean you think I'm poor, right? I'm so poor that I can't afford to buy you that bag?"
The two men had a big fight, and the bag was finally bought for Xiaomei, but Xiaomei didn't seem to be as happy as she thought she would be when she was holding the bag.
Women can easily see their own shadow on Xiaomei - why my eyes are full of tears, because I live too much aggression.
Happiness can't wait for others to give, happiness also need to fulfill themselves. You live happily, others also follow the happy, no one wants to live with a belly full of bitter water ` people.
The woman is most afraid of is aggrieved themselves, because once you are aggrieved, you will unknowingly become full of complaints. A woman with a lot of complaints, no matter how much you pay, others will not appreciate. And those so-called "selfish", pay attention to self-feeling, willing to meet the needs of the self, but more likely to get other people's favor.
For example, my neighbor old lady, she is keen on square dancing, every day daughter-in-law after work are active in their own children, urge the mother-in-law to go to dance;
For example, the baby mother group egg mother, keen on playing mahjong, every weekend her husband is active in taking the children, so that she is painfully playing cards;
For example, my colleague Xiaoli, she does not know how to cook, her husband took care of the three meals a day. ......
Because they don't compromise themselves, others are willing to "pay" for their happiness. The most afraid of is the kind of entangled people, their own hold a stomach of bitter water, even with other people also followed the suffering.
Like clothes to buy, as long as it is not overconsumption, and will not affect the quality of life; like to eat what to eat, nothing to be ashamed of, should learn to treat yourself; like to travel on the go, even if it is the weekend of a seaside vacation, spend not much, but can let you get pleasure and relaxation.
It's okay to have a little mess at home, take a break when you're tired, and then clean up when you have the energy to do so; take a vacation if you're not feeling well, and rest well so that you can work better; when you're tired of taking care of your kids, slip away once in a while and let loose for a little while, and get your girlfriends to have a cup of coffee and come back, and continue to fight with full blood ......
Life's too short, and you need to learn how to give yourself some sugar.