Whether young people or older people in a relationship, will encounter the same problem, namely: chatting will not find a topic, in the initial relationship we can open the situation depends on whether we start the communication is smooth, to be able to ? In the beginning of a relationship, whether we can open up the situation depends on whether we start communicating smoothly, to be able to ? This requires us to find the right topic in the usual chat, so that between you produce **** Ming, so as to carry out benign emotional exchanges.
a. Chat topics to pension life as the main, think about the future as a supplementTopic 1: pension life. For the elderly group, old age has been the mainstream topic, because everyone is experiencing old age life. When you are looking for an old partner, this topic and each other to communicate is undoubtedly the best choice. You can discuss the old age experience, and say their own views on some of the current situation, this time not only can cause **** Ming, but also can make each other impressed by you. In this way, the chat is naturally warm, and the situation of love is open.
Topic two: memories of the past. Two old people stay together to chat, you can also recall the past all kinds of, say more positive and interesting past, less heartbreaking journey. The reason why you should say positive and interesting things is to avoid the other person to be depressed and fall into the sad past. If the other party is depressed, although you can speak to comfort, but for your future relationship with more harm than good. If you talk about something positive and interesting, you can make the atmosphere of your conversation more joyful, and joy is exactly the key element in the relationship.
Topic 3: Thinking about the future. What are your arrangements for the future, whether it is to fulfill their former ideals, or to do public service, or other. These plans for the future can also be a topic of conversation between you, it not only allows you to find the future with the goal, but also allows you to understand each other more, can be said to be two birds with one stone.
In short, it's not hard to find topics to talk about, it's just that we need to relax and not get nervous. These three topics, the elderly group can be completely combined with the actual situation, to choose the best.
Second, explore each other's hobbies, try to learn, more interactiveOlder people in the chat with the opposite sex, you can also go to explore each other's hobbies. For example, each other like square dancing, you can also try, that is, active atmosphere, but also strengthen the interaction between the two sides. You can even let the other person to teach you to dance square dance, which is an excellent mode of interaction. We can give an example to illustrate the specific details of the application. Take an example: Old Zhang has just met his favorite second marriage partner, and the two of them are trying to get in touch. In the process of chatting, Lao Zhang learned that the other party likes square dancing, but he is not good at it and can't intervene at all. Old Zhang had a bright idea and said to his second marriage partner: "What you said about square dancing, I heard it. You said the square dance, I listen to all want to learn a little, but I'm clumsy afraid of other people laugh, you can teach me?
This example has two major highlights: First, the old Zhang expressed his expectations of learning, the other party will not refuse, so that the relationship between the two sides to promote; Second, the old Zhang said that he was afraid of other people's jokes, requesting the other party to teach themselves, and instantly categorized the other party as ? own people? This not only reflects the trust, but also draws the distance between each other. In short, we must know each other's interests, even if it does not matter, we can go to learn. In the process of learning. The relationship between the two people has also been enhanced, more so that the other side feel that you are a live to learn old people, more reliable!
Third, with the heart for the heart, to avoid words, reflecting the sincerityWhether it is young or old, for the emotional needs of the consistent desire, which is human nature. And in the process of two people, not only to chat, but also need to do sincerely. If you are in the process of interaction, not be able to use to do sincere treatment, between words are false. Then. This relationship itself is not worth continuing, because it violates? With sincerity for sincerity? The moral code. Frankly, do not say words that do not mean, not only reflects the personal qualities, but also reflects your cherish and sincerity of this relationship. Very do not disturb the attitude of choosing a marriage, is the basic principle of our elderly to find a second marriage partner.
In fact, there is no esoteric skill in chatting skills, it is just a small method in the process of pursuing our partner. But sincerity is different, it is in the pursuit of a partner in the process of reflecting the overall quality of your personal, as well as your attitude towards the matter of looking for a second marriage partner and the ultimate goal.
In short, when older people looking for a second marriage partner, we must use the sincere for sincere, avoid words, reflect the minimum sincerity! Older people in the process of finding a second marriage partner, the so chat with the opposite sex: to pension life, memories of the past, think about the future as the topic; take the initiative to explore each other's interests and hobbies, try to learn, and more interaction; to do with sincerity, reflecting the sincerity that should be there!