Although in our folk, the cost of having a son is always greater than the cost of having a daughter. But in the long run, a series of problems will break out after the daughter gets married. Because not every daughter may live with her parents for a long time.
After all daughters get married, their parents are unaccompanied, which is different from sons. After their marriage, it is certain that their son will live with his parents, and most daughter-in-law have no objection to this. But after the daughter gets married, the high probability is to live with her husband. Few men are willing to be door-to-door sons-in-law. Therefore, this basic situation determines that after marriage, women have a great possibility to follow their husbands to live in other places.
It is inevitable that two daughters will get married one after another and their parents will become empty nesters. Whether it's taking a heavy courier, buying some heavy items, or even having a headache or brain fever, you can only rely on your wife to solve it. My daughter went home several times. If the old man is not seriously ill, it is difficult for her to have time and opportunity to accompany him.
Because they have been married for a long time, parents' pension has become a problem. Sometimes, because of going to college or working, my daughter will know men from other places and fall in love and get married with them. This will definitely lead to distant marriage, which will definitely give the daughter more development space and freedom, but it will also bring a series of problems. For example, when a daughter is bullied at her husband's house, the family can't know and help. If she is wronged, there is no one to talk to. For parents, once both daughters are married, one of the old couple suddenly becomes seriously ill, and there is no one to rely on except his wife.
If you are lucky, you will arrive at the hospital safely and get treatment smoothly. If you are unlucky, the consequences will be unimaginable. ?
Distant distance will make sisters become indifferent because both daughters are getting married, so if it is not a coincidence, two people will have less and less contact because of their different choices. Although blood is thicker than water, under the double pressure of life and work, the relationship between them will gradually become indifferent. If there is a dispute on some issues, it will even lead to a fierce verbal conflict between the two daughters.
These problems are naturally not what the old couple want to see. If both of them are not married locally, this kind of thing is still very likely. The so-called married daughter and the spilled water are the most important things for the elderly.
Conclusion: The problems faced by the two-daughter family are contradictions derived from the aging tide of China population. Parents' care for the elderly, health and safety management, are all concerned by the far-married daughter. But it can't be because of parents that a daughter can't marry far away.
So how to solve the problem of providing for the aged in these families may be a new challenge that these daughters and society need to face together.