Is there any salvation for a gambling husband

This is a question that is in the heart of every family member who has never given up on a problem gambler.　Thinking back to when the first time I heard that the gambler owed gambling debts because of his addiction to gambling, although dismay, shock, hard feelings and sadness struck, family members would always be the first to help the gambler solve his difficulties and pay off the debts, and then, they would hope that the gambler would turn over a new leaf from now on and get out of the gambling business.　What happens? Once the time passes, the painful memories are gradually forgotten, and the old ways reappear, the gambler again owes debts that cannot be repaid, and once again hopes that his family will pay them back on his behalf, and even though the family is in great pain, they will still try their best to pay off the debts for the gambler, and add a series of terms and conditions to help the gambler kick his gambling habit; however, it is not the case that things go against their wishes, and the gambler will flip gambling over and over again, and with the passing of time, and the repetitive and repeated repayments and scoldings, he gradually runs out of energy and strength. I'm not sure if I can do it.　There is no greater sorrow than the death of the heart, and one will constantly ask, "Is it still possible to help a gambler kick his gambling habit?"　It is a Chinese tradition to honor and dishonor one's family members, and this is a virtue, but it becomes a terrible virtue when it falls on the family of a problem gambler. It is not wrong in itself, but in its lack of correct knowledge of the psychology of the gambler? They do not realize that their indulgence will only aggravate the gamblers because the gamblers do not have a good knowledge of gambling.　 Here is an example.　Siu Ming is a twenty-six-year-old young man who has been addicted to gambling on football and horse racing for about ten years. With a monthly income of $9,000 but a gambling debt of as much as $150,000, Siu Ming begs his mother for help whenever his creditors come to his doorstep.　Siu Ming's mother is nearly fifty-five years old, raised Ka Ming alone, and has high expectations of him, wishing that one day her son would become a better man, but unfortunately, this is not the case, and she does not expect her son to be filial to her, but she also has to pay off the debt for him. She had many quarrels and even fights because of Ming's gambling problem, but after scolding and fighting, she still paid for her son's debts.　In the end, she was so overwhelmed by the mental pressure that she finally had to take psychiatric drugs to stabilize herself and continue the road of debt repayment with no end in sight.　I am afraid that Ka Ming's mother's experience is not unique to her. Like her, many family members of problem gamblers have the tendency to sacrifice their lives for the sake of their gamblers, abandoning their money, spirituality, time, health, family, friends, career, and so on, in order to make the prodigal son come back to their senses, and then they can take on anything. Unfortunately, the method is not right, even if you try your best, it will be in vain.　 Can the prodigal son return without leaving him?　The gambler's family has suffered for many years, and when they hear that the gambler is determined to quit gambling, they are overjoyed, and naturally expect them to "cut off their tails" once and for all, and never gamble again, or even better, to get rid of their addiction within a short period of time, so as to get rid of their addiction once and for all. Who knows that quitting gambling is a long-distance obstacle race, not only does it take time to quit gambling, but it is even more difficult.　 The right approach is the key. Gambling cessation is a lonely battle, and the person concerned is always the main battlefield. Therefore, it is important to have a support team present.　Family; Loved ones Self; Environment Psychology; Cognition Gambling cessation is never a solo affair!　"I always think of the gambler, who thinks of me?"　"I often feel helpless in the face of gamblers, who can give me guidance?"　"I am often at a loss as to what to do, is there really a way out?"　If you have these questions, please believe that you are not the only one experiencing these troubles. Many people before you have already traveled these paths and can share them with you, giving you support and advice. The Gambler's Anti-Gambling and Gambling Cessation Center, a professional gambling cessation help agency, get on the road to quitting gambling sooner rather than later.　Gambling husband is still saved 2 Why men are prone to addicted to gambling 1. Men who go gambling usually just want to be entertained and have a good time at first. Later, due to the focus, they get hooked on it, and some of them gradually develop it into their own occupation, and they simply can't stop.　2, gambling establishments in order to attract more gamblers, usually give some benefits to the novice. These small favors make more . people spend more time in the gambling establishment.　This image has been provided by registered user \Mindfulness Confidential\, copyright feedback 3. If you lose some small amount of money, the casino has a way of lending you money so that you can renew and continue to play. This method makes the gambler's confidence increase, and will not consider the consequences of not being able to pay back the money.　4, the atmosphere of the gambling game is usually testosterone, someone in which the provocation, once you feel that the retreat lost face, that is not far from losing money.　5, addicted gamblers always win a little money at the beginning, began to fantasize about being able to make money with the help of gambling, become a big winner in life. And once the loss of money lost more and afraid to go back to the wife there is not good delivery, it is hard to wrestle a big one, trying to return to the capital. It is so step by step to the abyss.　6, in fact, now many mahjong hall inside more or less will be involved in gambling, just too much of this kind of thing is not enough people to check. Advise everyone nothing even square dancing do not go to watch the battle. Don't be obsessed with gambling, you small gambling once you get started can't stop, big gambling will definitely be involved. By the time you lose money owed a debt want to run can not run.　 How to save the love of gambling husband 1, recognize the fact that the husband loves to gamble, for the matter and the husband to discuss calmly, without emotion, on the matter, to avoid the wife's bad attitude aggravated by the husband's bad emotional experience, thus refusing to cooperate with his wife, listen to his wife's words; 2, to help her husband to understand the feelings of the heart when he gambled, why the need to gamble, what is the need for the heart of the lowest level, through the husband gambling What has he gained through gambling?　3, when the husband understands that in gambling he gets a sense of achievement, pleasure, pleasure, and these are not available to him in real life, it can make the husband understand what he really needs, the internal lack of these feelings is the spiritual world does not have the hollow, only to look inward and improve the level of psychological structure, so that they will not look outward to get these so-called good feelings through gambling; 4, to be a wife to be able to Understand their husbands, give their husbands more nutrition from the spirit, nourish and mirror their husbands, so that they do not get the spiritual food in their parents, can be compensated through the life and interaction with their wives and new experiences, so that their husbands are fulfilled, have a sense of stability, do not have to pursue external stimulation; 5, more communication and interaction with their husbands, so that the family life is rich and interesting, full and happy, and so that their husbands are willing to stay at home and participate in family 6, the wife should not do everything, to show weakness in some areas, so that the husband has a sense of value and meaning at home, feel that they are the backbone of the family, to develop the husband's sense of responsibility for the family; 7, considerate and caring for the husband, can see his joys and sorrows, to become a container for the husband's emotions, tolerance, trust, respect, so that the husband feels comfortable at home, relaxed, harmonious and democratic, so as to retain the husband's heart, not greedy for gambling, so that the husband's heart. The heart of the husband will not be addicted to gambling and other stimulating activities.　Gambling husband still save 3 How to save the gambling husband First: gentle control method: husband lost money, will certainly be downcast back, you can use a gentle attitude, concerned about the tone of voice, warmth, if it is very late at night, be sure to ask him if he is hungry, if he said hungry, you must be careful to do some delicious food for him to eat well.　The warmer you are to him, the guiltier he will be. It is best if you can comfort him two more times at this time, so that he will feel very sorry for you, and as long as he has the intention of repentance, you have to praise him a couple of times, saying that he is an opinionated person, and say to him, "I believe that you will not make the same old mistakes in the future. --- This will strengthen his determination to repent. As long as he loves you, then he will take what you say to heart.　Second: Compress your expenses and keep your money under control so that he has no extra money to gamble. If he borrows money from the hands of friends, as long as you know who it is, be sure to say hello to him, such as the husband to borrow from him, do not lend him money, cut off his back, the husband can not borrow money, naturally will be short of breath, and will not be in the mood to play again.　Third, prevention is better than cure. In the husband feel bored, you have to care more about him, more communication with him, a little more care, than a few more nagging good. Before your husband goes out, take precautions, don't wait for him to come back with his head hanging down, and then scold him or sarcastically.　Fourth, the cell phone to pass the message, do not go in front of the crowd to reprimand your husband, do not embarrass your husband in the casino, otherwise, things backfire, it will be very difficult to end. You can use the cell phone to call him back, and of course in a caring tone.　Fifth, give your husband a little free space, desire to escape, so that he can learn self-restraint. ----- man is like a wild horse, want to tame him, not to give him a circle to limit the scope of his activities, but to seek ways to use your tenderness to sensitize his wildness, so that he voluntarily and consciously listen to you! The first time I've seen this, I've seen it in my life, and I've seen it in my life.