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But nowadays, it seems that the main force of the 80s and 90s, do not have this idea.
Because of the influence of modern concepts, with a higher level of education after 80 and 90 will agree that the birth of children is not to let the child to their own old age, on the contrary, as parents we should be more to think about their children, can not be dragged to their children in their twilight years.
If you really want your children to not be tired in their old age, not to drag them down, then at around 60 years old, before retirement, you have to do a good job of "defense".
What are the preparations we need to do? Here are a few things you can do to get ahead of the game.
Save money for old age
Nowadays, a lot of post-80s and post-90s, the reason why they don't think that raising children is to prevent old age is actually very realistic.
Because a lot of parents actually know in their hearts: children grow up to have their own lives and families need to maintain , even if they live in the son's home, then it is also likely to be less harmonious, after all, the children are big, have their own ideas, the generation gap occurs from time to time.
Those who live in the family, but only the surface harmony, in fact, there are often small contradictions and small conflicts occur. In order to make their lives more comfortable and comfortable, so some of the 80 and 90 years do not want to raise children to prevent old age.
After all, society is now different, the pace of life of young people are relatively fast, if you say that their old, but also to move over to give them trouble, then, of course, there will be conflicts.
And even if the children are willing to accept them, many old people feel uncomfortable going to another environment, or they are more comfortable on their own.
If you don't want your kids to retire, then first of all:
You need to save enough money for your own retirement when you are young.
Money is not omnipotent, but there is no money, especially the old man has to save money to have a good pension.
This is not just about our daily expenses, but also about occasional expenses for medical treatment and medication.
To have a stronger body
In addition to preparing for the money, but also to prepare for the health of the body, after all, the body is the capital of the revolution.
Nowadays, many older people are very concerned about health, after retirement they will also spend more time to exercise to keep their bodies healthy.
Like some of the elderly, they usually dance, play tai chi, which is actually a very good way to keep fit. If you don't want to be sick when you're old, then you should pay attention to strengthening your body before you retire, so that you can have a stronger body.
This will not add to the burden of the children, but also to make their old age more comfortable.
Adjust your mindset
We should also be mentally prepared to adjust our mindset before we retire.
There are a lot of people who are busy working every day before they retire, so they don't feel empty and lonely, but after retirement, there is more time available in life. There is not much work to do every day, so the heart tends to feel a little empty, and this time a lot of negative emotions will also come.
If you really don't want to live with your children, you don't want to burden them, you just want to live the life of an old man, then you should adjust your mindset when you go to work, and you should know that you are destined to have a little loneliness in your old age. In this way we will not be filled with a sudden sense of loneliness and emptiness, and will not develop mental illness.
Reduce your dependence on your children
The last thing we need to do is to prepare ourselves for the fact that, in addition to being able to accept loneliness, we should also:
Reduce your dependence on your children.
When our children are young, it is the children who depend on us, and as we get older, some of us actually become more dependent on our children. If one is extremely dependent on one's children, one is hardly likely to be happy in one's old age.
Because children don't have all the love in the world for their parents, they have their own homes, they have their own children to love, and even if they do love their parents, it's hard to make both ends meet.
So if you want to make your life happier and more enjoyable, don't rely on your children so much, Live your own life and find some fun to fulfill your time, so you won't be too lost.
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Now a lot of parents, in fact, did not want to spend a piece of the children and children, and do not want to bother the children, if they have the intention of this, then we should be prepared to do so in advance.
Let yourself adapt to independent living, just as we teach children to be independent when they are young, in this way, we can make our later life more happy, the child will also feel more relaxed.
Parents, would you choose to live with your children in your later years?
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