The 4 hurdles of married life, across the past is a lifetime
1. The first two years of marriage a period of integration
Just entered the marriage of two people, the face of cohabitation after marriage, there are many living habits to be integrated. Small to whether to eat spicy, early to bed love clean this kind of problem, big to when to buy a house, want children and so on things. People will find that the marriage is not the same as what they imagined, how beautiful the imagination is, how cruel the reality is. At this time, it is necessary for men and women to *** with the grind, more sympathetic to each other's moods, care for each other's joys and sorrows. This period across the past, the road ahead is also good to go some.
2. Before and after the pregnancy a period of acceptance
This period is a very test of the tacit understanding of the family of origin of both men and women. The woman's reaction to pregnancy, postpartum recovery, emotional conditioning. When there is a child in the family, not only the husband and wife, grandparents, grandparents will be more involved than in the past time, this time the family relationship will be more complex.
The two generations have different ideas about how to bring up a child, and in addition, the two camps of grandparents and grandparents will be more conflicted about who will help bring up the child and other trivial matters. There will also be unpleasant quarrels between husband and wife around various issues of child rearing. In any case, couples need to brace themselves for the responsibility of child rearing and take good care of their love child!
3. Getting along with five to seven years a flat period
Couples together for a long time, each other want to know what, there is no longer a sense of freshness. Every day life is routine, no more waves in the feelings. So it is easy for the outside world temptation lost eyes, but also for the life of the trivial annoyed, and then began to produce doubt, feel that they are not looking for the wrong partner. In fact, every couple will go through a dull period, all we need is to make fun and communicate more. Don't ever be in love or get carried away. Many marriages have survived the thorns but not the blandness.
4, the child left home after an empty nest period
When the child went out to study or have a job, couples do not have to surround the child every day around, as if the power of life is lost. I feel like I can't get motivated to do anything, and I can't find my own value. In the face of their other half, the heart has long been backlogged most of the dissatisfaction, there is absolutely no desire to talk together.
In fact, in this empty nest period, although the children are not around, but also to the couple left alone time and space. You can go for a walk together on a daily basis, or square dance, and find more things to do, and your happiness will be much stronger.
Conclusion
No marriage is flat, every happy marriage needs husband and wife **** with the efforts, together with the operation, bravely face all the ditches and bumps encountered in the marriage. In fact, in addition to these four most difficult cans, there are countless cans in the marriage, large and small. But after encountering problems in the marriage, couples need to *** with the face, together to find ways to solve, so that the marriage relationship can go on for a long time.
Enjoy the process of your efforts, in fact, enjoy life!