I think you encountered this problem, should be most of the Chinese families will encounter problems. The difficulties encountered in mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is really a big problem in China's family relationship. You must find a way to ease the relationship between you and your mother-in-law, you can not just get by, that way, all kinds of problems in life will lead to your wife's relationship with your wife, more and more rigid, the contradiction will be more and more. It is understandable that your mother-in-law suddenly has such a woman in her life, sharing away most of her son's love, and her son's center of gravity in life has shifted from herself to another woman. This is something that any mother who is a mother would feel slightly jealous of.
Secondly, you have to understand that your mother-in-law has reached such an age that she is likely to reach a period of menopause. So a lot of things in life can easily make her cranky. And if you're just joining the family, you'll have to be careful with a lot of things. Pay more attention to your mother-in-law's mood changes and don't do anything to make her angry when she is in a bad mood. Of course, I don't mean that you have to be careful in this family, you will be very tired, after all, you are going to live in this family for the rest of your life. It means that you have to understand your mother-in-law, understand what kind of person she is?
Then usually you can see what your mother-in-law likes to do, and then accompany her to do some of the things he likes to do. For example, now some older people do not want to go to the square dance! You can accompany your mother-in-law to have some fun during the square dance. You sleep, you try to accompany your mother-in-law to do some of the things she likes to do. And then those aunts who are close to your mother-in-law. Get to know them a little bit better and communicate with them a little bit more. If they usually communicate with your mother-in-law, help you say a few good words, it will be very good to improve your mother-in-law's impression. Usually it is also more to communicate with your mother-in-law, encounter any problem it can also, all to your mother-in-law to ask for advice, because you ask her more questions, will make her feel that you value her, will be very good to improve your impression of her.
? Lastly what about also don't because you and your husband have a better relationship. And let your husband always go to your mother-in-law to help you say good words, because that will make your mother-in-law's impression of you more and more bad, she will think you are deliberately provoking the relationship between him and his son. Then in the usual life you can also express some concern for your mother-in-law, for example, when you go shopping for clothes, see a dress is very suitable for your mother-in-law, you have to buy it back to your mother-in-law. Then usually at home after dinner, you have to rush to wash the dishes. You can also take the initiative to help your mother-in-law with the laundry. If she tells you that she doesn't need you to do this, then you can say that this is what you should do as a daughter-in-law, and that you will treat him as your mother with all your heart when you take away her son. And hopefully he will treat you like her daughter.