The children said to their father: "You are not saying that you love my mom? The first time I saw this, I was in the middle of a conversation with my mother, and I was in the middle of a conversation with her, and I was in the middle of a conversation with my mother, and I was in the middle of a conversation with her. Old Zhang didn't wait for three months, he looked for a woman. Because he said, he is too afraid of loneliness, in fact, he can not live by himself at all, find a woman to serve him just.
A man in his fifties is not the same as a woman, who has no companion and lives a lot on her own, but a man almost never can. It's not just a question of loneliness, but also of the ability to live on one's own. Of course, the main fear of loneliness is still a psychological problem, life can not take care of themselves, it is perfectly possible to find a nanny to solve, but the nanny can not solve the old man's psychological loneliness.
First, the old man after fifty, the stronger the psychological dependence, like the reverse growth, the older the more children. Women are like a school, forever school, young to manage the husband, old more to manage the husband. Men are more flamboyant when they are young, and they need the company of women when they are old. A young man's husband is a companion in his old age. There is a woman to take him as a child tube with, the old man feel not lonely.
Secondly, the old man over fifty, ambition has no place, the ship to the dock car to the station, the heart suddenly empty, previously loaded with career and flowery. Now, the stomach is empty, suddenly feel or wife pro, do not lie to him, do not bully him, do not hit him, see through the world, think only wife can rely on each other. Wife every day, he felt a kind of "discipline" happiness, but afraid that no one cared about him, because in the workplace, society, no one cared about him, if he lost his wife's "discipline", he would be very lost.
Third, the old man over fifty, life after self-care ability is poor. Young women dislike old men, only the wife does not dislike, even if they dislike can tolerate their husbands. There is a big sister said, his husband more than fifty, and lazy and greedy, nothing to do, but also want to be a lord, how about raising a pig? Considering that he earns more than 5,000 dollars a month, it is better than raising a pig. But the old man when the "pig" is also full of, by his wife every day to rule the dishwashing mopping walks, but also understand that this is the wife wants to be healthy, so, noisy, not lonely, not lonely, the old man will enjoy this state.
Mature type of psychology. Younger than the elderly, more mature and stable than young people, but without the active and aggressive young people. "Unlike men in their thirties and forties, most men around the age of 50 are worried about their sexual inadequacy, for fear of missing the 'last train', when faced with 'temptation', it is easy to fall into the emotional whirlpool. " More need for fulfillment, more afraid of loneliness.5 This age of men, almost a stable home, a comfort life, do not have to run around for food and clothing, the family has a good wife to take care of all this, take care of everything, do not have to worry about their own, the children have grown up, have their own work and life, the days of the ordinary, no waves and no ripples. This time the man ignored the bland happiness, the day in his eyes, the more boring. The more you want to be valued. I remember a celebrity said a sentence (who said I forget): modern people's problems, there are only two kinds, not enough to eat and hungry, full of support. The original saying may be a bit more elegant, but that's roughly what it means. I think this is very normal, not enough time to eat, to make a living busy running around, and eat and wear no worries when a heart began to move, look at the things that are used to feel the loss of meaning, the desire for new things began to occupy the more and more disturbed heart, then seek companionship, it is unavoidable.
The loneliness of 50 years old is not like the loneliness of 20 years old, a half body into the ground, over a day to earn a day; one is eight or nine o'clock in the sun, over a day hi day!
50 years old, an age when parents may no longer be around. As the saying goes, there is a home at seventy, a mom at eighty, the items in the house are used by mom and dad, easy to see things. If the children are gone, they are even lonelier. They are not like 20 years old, they can still continue to work, and when they are done, there are still mom and dad.
The 50s are a time when life has become a certainty. "The most important thing to remember is that it's the age when you've got to be able to get the most out of your life, and it's the age when you've got to be able to get the most out of your life. Because of the laziness and irresponsibility of the young, creating a sense of powerlessness now, from powerlessness to loneliness. Now the movement can still move, but the heart, ability, age are some of the effort. 50-year-old loneliness is in fact the aftermath of the 20-year-old left behind. I'm not sure if I'm a good person, but I'm a good person, and I'm a good person, and I'm a good person.
I think there are three kinds of people in this world are the least lonely. One is a beggar, one is a goat herder, and one is a successful person. Beggars in addition to eating, drinking, and having a sense of the other are senseless, eating is the biggest happy. Sheep herder in the mountains, with the sheep for company, sunset, humming every day, leisurely! Successful people will not say, all kinds of want freedom, environment.
How not to be lonely at 50? If you think you can still salvage a little, learn from Chu Shijian, 70 years old is still in prison 80 years old can make 50 million. Or you can follow the square dance mom twisting, maybe you can find a soul mate. Since the depth of life has bottomed out, then live a width, so that life is colorful, simply put, find yourself a thing to do, so that you are not so lonely.
My neighbor, Li Jia, loved his wife like crazy, not so much love, but rather very dependent, as if leaving his wife can not live. Last year, his partner passed away, and his children are living in other cities. Li Jia is lonely and isolated, and his home is so messy that he can hardly get off his feet.
His sons and daughters said to him: "Don't you say you love my mom? Although we do not oppose you to find a partner, but at least wait a year, you think about finding a partner. Li Jia didn't wait three months and immediately looked for a woman. Because, he said, he was too afraid of being alone, in fact, he could not live on his own at all, just want to find a woman to serve him.
Men in their fifties are not like women, who live a lot on their own without an old partner, but men almost never can. It's not just about loneliness, it's also about the ability to live on your own. Of course, the main fear of loneliness is still a psychological problem, life can not take care of themselves, it is perfectly possible to find a nanny to solve, but the nanny can not solve the old man's psychological loneliness.
So the 50-year-old man is afraid of loneliness mainly because of the following reasons.
First, the old man after fifty, the stronger the psychological dependence, like growing backwards, the older the more children. Women are like a school, forever school, young to manage the husband, old more to manage the husband. Men are more flamboyant when they are young, and they need the company of women when they are old. A young man's husband is a companion in his old age. There is a woman to bring him as a child tube, the old man feel not lonely.
The second is that the old man after fifty, ambition has no use, the ship to the dock car to the station, the heart suddenly empty, before loaded with career and flowery. Now, the stomach is empty, suddenly feel or wife pro, do not lie to him, do not bully him, do not hit him, see through the world, think only wife can rely on each other. The wife every day, he felt a kind of "discipline" happiness, but afraid of no one care about him, because in the workplace, society, no one care about him, if he lost his wife's "discipline", he will be very lost.
Thirdly, after fifty years, the old man's ability to take care of himself is poor. Young women dislike old men, but only wives don't, and even if they do, they can tolerate their own husbands. There is a big sister said, his husband more than fifty, lazy and greedy, nothing to do, but also want to be a lord, how about raising a pig? Considering that he earns more than 5,000 dollars a month, it is better than raising a pig. However, the old man when the "pig" is also full, by his wife every day to rule the dishwashing mopping walks, but also understand that this is the wife wants to be healthy, so, noisy, not lonely, not lonely, the old man will enjoy this state.
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This means that the psychological emptiness! It also proves that you go up to the age, the mentality is a little old, need, want a companion, not to say that the young man and wife of the old old old companion, but men and women alone can be quite a lot of people, you can find a woman to be a companion, someone to hook up with the exchange, don't want to look for, watch TV, cell phone, play cards, it is best to read books!
In fact, more than fifty years old, people as long as the idle time will feel lonely, fifty years old is more tomorrow night, because it can not be the same as the young people, playing the game is not interested in, soak the bar and completely out of place,
Good question, I'll answer it.
First, people live longer. We know that the old saying that "fifty and know the fate of heaven", the so-called "know the fate of heaven" is that after fifty years of age, know the ideal realization of the difficult, so do things no longer pursue the results, the reason is that the previous life expectancy is short, to fifty years old, most of the rest of its life is not The reason is that in the past, people's life expectancy was short. Now, the average person lives to seventy or eighty years old no problem, when fifty years old on the lonely, how to do in the next few decades, I believe it is you you are also afraid.
Second, life after fifty is another busy stage. Fifty years old before the busy, is for the house, car, children, although to the age of fifty, the child grows up, but the current state of the country, when people reach the age of fifty, most of them have to be for the children's marriage, the house, the car, the children are busy, these busy, if it is a person, it is how much worry, how difficult. This situation, can not be afraid of loneliness.
Third, loneliness is the lack of companionship, companionship is difficult to find. People to fifty, most of the children are adults, or different places to study, or have their own business, now the pace of society, so that children have fewer accompanying parents, at this time if the loss of the other half, basically is really lonely, not to mention the friends, some of the companions, friends can not be accompanied, not to mention find a companion, a variety of reasons, and then look for companions this is even harder, and even if you look for, it's more the equivalent of looking for babysitters, not to mention the fact that the children have a lot of time to spend with their parents. The first thing you need to do is to find a way to get the best out of your life.
Fourth, fifty years old, embarrassing age. Fifty years old, to be honest, in the present, not old, but in life and work, most of the "old comrades". Maybe you used to be the backbone, excellent, into the "old comrades", then most of the time and these have nothing to do with the society is always young people, they are not young, less youthful scenery, will be lonely, this loneliness caused by loneliness, I believe that everyone will appear, will be afraid of, especially in a certain position of the people.
It's not a problem of 50 men but most men are lazy, poor self-care ability to live, no wife at home no one to do housework to burn the rice, so you see a lot of divorced men nowadays are also very fast to find a wife, down the road, men are not so happy, the woman