Recently, "a boy in Yueyang, Hunan was tied to a ladder and repeatedly soaked in water" has caused heated discussion. In the video, a teenager was tied to a wooden ladder and was repeatedly pressed into the water by an adult male and choked. Hunan Pingjiang County reported that the incident occurred on June 29. The boy had done bad things many times and refused to repent. His father made the move out of anger and threatened his son. The boy kidnapped in the video is named Qin Mouqiang. He is 13 years old. The man holding a long ladder is his father Qin Mounan. He belongs to Group 6 of Jianshan Village, Meixian Town, Pingjiang County. According to reports from surrounding residents, Qin Mouqiang repeatedly beat his neighbors' chickens, fish and other domestic livestock to death, picked up rocks and hit people at the slightest disagreement, repeatedly stole cigarettes, money and other property from surrounding villagers, and beat his mother. Because of the above-mentioned bad behavior, the Meixian Town Police Station came to investigate many times. Because of his age, they mainly criticized and educated him. On the evening of June 28, when some villagers in Jianshan Village, Meixian Town were dancing in the village-level activity square, Qin Mouqiang deliberately turned off the lights in the square many times, preventing the villagers from carrying out their activities normally. After receiving the feedback, the Jianshan Village Committee immediately contacted Qin Mounan by phone and requested that Qin Mouqiang be given ideological education. At 6 o'clock in the morning on June 29, Qin Mounan gave him a verbal education about Qin Mouqiang's deliberate turning off the lights in the square the night before. Qin Mouqiang reacted strongly and raised a wooden stick to hit Qin Mounan on the head. After Qin Mounan avoided it in time, he tied Qin Mouqiang to a wooden ladder and pushed him into a pond with a depth of half a meter to intimidate him. The process takes about 1 minute.
Answer
I am very opposed to this approach!
1. Let me look at the specific situation first
Boys do a lot of bad things! It’s also outrageous!
1. Beating the neighbor’s chickens, fish and other domestic livestock to death many times;
2. Picking up stones and hitting others at the slightest disagreement;
3 . Stealing cigarettes, money and other property from surrounding villagers many times;
4. And beating his mother;
5. Deliberately turning off the lights in the square many times.
Reactions from father, villagers, and police station:
1. Critical education
2. Ideological education
3. Oral education
p>4. Threatening the boy by pushing him into a pond half a meter deep
When the boy did something wrong, everyone wanted to educate him. He was wrong! He wants to change! In the end, education is useless and we just use violence to intimidate!
But no one has ever cared about why this child behaved like this! In the beginning, human beings are inherently good. No one is born a bad person!
2. There is a case:
A second-grade boy ran around in the classroom, and no one could control him. He often disrupted the class. He always attacked his classmates for no reason, violently pushed his classmates' heads into the urinal, and burned them with mosquito coils. As for scratching classmates, it's even more serious. His grandparents took care of him, but in the end there was nothing they could do. His grandmother follows him around like a shadow every day. In class, I sat at the same table with him and held him down to prevent him from getting up and causing trouble; after class, I grabbed his hand and prevented him from playing with other students, for fear that he would hurt other students. The first thing the psychology teacher saw when he saw him was this: all the classmates were playing in twos and threes, but he was the only one with his hands tightly clamped by his grandma, unable to do anything. I want to break away but I can't; I look at the other classmates, seeming eager, helpless and hostile, like little prisoners. After understanding his family situation, the psychology teacher also understood why the boy behaved like this. The boy lives with his grandparents, his parents are divorced, his mother has run away from home, and his father is fooling around all day long. The grandfather has a bad temper and used to beat and scold his son. Now he uses the same method to "educate" his grandson, and he often vents his dissatisfaction with his son on his grandson. His grandmother takes care of everything for her children all day long. She is eager to succeed and wants to train her grandson into a talented person to make up for the shame that her son has brought to the family. Therefore, she asks the boy to do this and that all day long. The boy is often scolded if he does not do well. The psychological teacher's approach to solving the child's problem is not to directly do "ideological work" for the child, but to start by eliminating the "root cause" of the disease and focus on improving his living environment. The psychology teacher's approach is also very simple. Through regular contact with grandparents, they ask them not to beat or scold the child, respect the child, and not put pressure on the child. Gradually, the child's condition improved, and he gradually began to have his own restraints.
3. Back to Qin Mouqiang, the two boys actually have many similarities.
His father's intimidation by pushing him into a pond half a meter deep was causing greater harm to Qin Mouqiang and might intensify his rebellion! Moreover, it is not difficult to infer from Qin Mounan's method of intimidation that he would usually hit or scold Qin Mouqiang. If you want to truly change Qin Mouqiang and get him on the right track, the key is to look at his parents. The key to solving Qin Mouqiang's problem is not to do "ideological work" for him, but to find out the "root cause" of his disease and then "eliminate" the root cause.