Husband and wife get along, is a study. Some will be married to the bunk brothers, and some will be good to get together. Wang Xiaohai and Wang Xiaowei belong to the latter, but some people say, two people divorce, is long predestined, is this true?
Marriage is because of touching, not love
Some people say, isn't marriage because of love (faint)? Some are, or many are, but some are not. Not in Jia Nailiang's marriage, where the woman didn't love him at all, but was moved by him to get married.
Wang Xiaohai and Wang Xiaowei's marriage should be less about love and more about being touched, too. Wang Xiaohai said in "About Us" that he was first shocked by the "goddess of double-row keys" and became her little fan.
After that, when he was performing a song on stage, there was a person below with a small DV who kept filming, and when he looked at her, he saw that she was the goddess of his heart. He then had a bit of a secret crush.
When he went to Beijing to develop alone, he rented a basement, she came to see him, see such a situation, the sadness in his heart, instantly surged, she fell in tears, he felt that this person, he will guard.
What made his mind even more determined was when he had a car accident, the two of them took a car to the performance place, but there was a serious car accident. He was badly injured, and he was touched when she climbed over to see him despite her injuries. Press resolved to keep her protected for the rest of his life.
And the touching she got was after the two quarreled, she practiced double-row keys for a long time, and as a result, she hurt her back. Wang Xiaowei said in an interview that the injury was so severe, so severe that her back did not listen to her brain.
Her home to the hospital, usually on foot, just 5 minutes away. But she didn't have the strength to go downstairs, much less to the hospital. And Wang Xiaohai, sensing the difference, followed the help her, step by step pan to the hospital. That day, it took ages.
Wang Xiaowei was very touched, in the process of treatment, Wang Xiaohai has been very care of her, so that she felt, he is a person who can be relied upon, the two people work together, a great success, and after the show, but also relatively smooth. The two also finished their marriage as a matter of course.
The most important core of this process, inside, is moving, not love. The difference between touching and love is that when you are touched, there may not be love; in love there will be touching.
Touched is a moment, and love can last. Many people think that if two people spend so much time together, are they just touched? The two of them divorced after 4 years of marriage. Chen He and his ex-wife Xu Jing got divorced after two years of marriage, both of which show that two people together is more about touching than love.
Love is giving, not possessing. Touched, on the other hand, is getting. Wang Xiaohai and Wang Xiaowei two people may also think, this person is okay, although some points can not understand, but also acceptable.
So into the marriage, marriage is the purgatory of love, they are in the process of crossing. But realizing that there are some issues that the two can't tolerate, they choose to let go.
Character incompatibility, is the main reason
Wang Xiaowei character is relatively strong, she feels that as an actress, to achieve something, you have to put in great efforts. Her achievement in double rows of keys shows how hard she works.
Wang Xiaohai also said in the program that Wang Xiaowei has to express her emotions with the keys whether she is angry or happy, which is probably also a good habit she has developed over the years. When she participated in a variety show, she practiced from morning to night to get good grades.
Wang Xiaowei said she woke up very early in the morning, sat in front of the double-row keys and practiced all the time, and it was also often like that that led to the lumbar muscle strain, which eventually hurt her back.
She was more obsessive in her music, which made her neglect Wang Xiaohai's needs. The two expressed different thoughts on the topic of music during the program. She was more specialized while Wang Xiaohai was more grounded.
The difference between the two in the music philosophy, there is a different understanding of the tracks, and neither of them think they are wrong, the combination of different in the philosophy, but also stubborn, then the argument, after that turned into a quarrel.
With the increase in participation in the program, the quarrel is bound to increase, both people do not back down, the result is often disagreeable. They forget that this is work, not life.
Husband and wife life, there is not so much right and wrong, there is mutual understanding and tolerance . This is the source of the theory that marriage is a test of two people. But they are both very persistent. Because of the character of the two people, both more hard-headed.
The two people's different understanding of music rises to the question of the character of the two people. Not just music, but career. Wang Xiaowei is a career girl, she can give up a lot of things for her career, such as having children.
Wang Xiaohai, on the other hand, wants to have a love child, and he worries that if Wang Xiaowei doesn't have a baby now, she might miss the best time. In "Those Things Husbands and Wives", Chen Shu also started out as a careerist, and when she waited until she was middle-aged and then wanted to have a child, she was a bit overwhelmed.
The two are torn on the issue of children, and there are also arguments. Wang Xiaowei thinks he doesn't understand him, while Wang Xiaohai feels that if we don't have a perfect marriage if we have a career, what's the use of a career?
It's understandable that the two people have different points of view. But being in the tempting world of showbiz may be a different story. Yang Mi and Yang Ying, who appeared in the entertainment industry shortly after giving birth, are examples.
Wang Xiaowei feels that her career is more important, and the gap between the two people's philosophies is getting wider and wider, and their hearts are naturally separated. The two people's understanding of marriage, then more and more pessimistic, and ultimately can only cherish each other.
The gap in ability is also a factor
When Wang Xiaowei and Wang Xiaohai were together, it was said that Wang Xiaohai was using Wang Xiaowei to save her popularity, which led to Wang Xiaohai's About Us. In his article, he recalled the past of the two and thought it was love.
But netizens don't think so, in the collaboration between the two, many feel that Wang Xiaohai's vocals can be dispensed with, and Wang Xiaowei's performance in singing and double-rowing the keys would be perfectly adequate.
There are also netizens who think that Wang Xiaowei's participation in the variety show with him is purely a matter of bringing him along with her to become famous, otherwise, with her title and the achievements she has gained, she wouldn't be able to use him at all.
He said in his article that their relationship is mellow, in other words, he has paid quite a lot, and there is no so-called utilitarianism in this relationship. Rather, it was a love affair between two "stupid kids".
He didn't face the problem, his words, just said the state of the two people, and did not say the gap between the two people's ability, and this gap is the family status of the gap.
Many people think that girls should look beautiful at home and men should be out there making money to support their families. Yu Mingjia disagrees, saying that if a woman stays at home for a long time, she will be bound by her living environment and will not have the strength to move forward.
Wang Xiaowei's ability to support herself just as well, and the fact that she's had a steady stream of commercials after the divorce shows where the strength lies. Wang Xiaohai, on the other hand, does not have as many singing opportunities, there is still a gap in strength.
With a big gap in strength, it's hard to communicate with each other when they don't understand each other. For example, Wang Xiaohai would also force Wang Xiaowei to do things she didn't want to do, such as asking her to dance three rows of double-row keys while singing.
He knew she had a bad back and had to dance three rows, which is difficult for an ordinary dancer, let alone her. This unreasonable request was really unacceptable. Could this be love?
The two people's emotions are not on a line, Jun think I do not know, I think Jun ignore. The two people are destined to move further and further apart, if Wang Xiaohai is slightly weaker, the marriage between the two people, may still be able to maintain.
The gap between the two, from the family education
Wang Xiaohai came from a musical family, mom is a music teacher, dad is a university professor, in such an artistic family, he naturally by the music culture.
He sang songs at the Shenyang People's Theater when he was in elementary school, which was reported by the newspaper, and he has been running on the road of music. He loved music, but did not have a professional education in music theory. Because he studied accounting in college, but he did not give up his dream of music. In order to pursue his dream, he went to Beijing and became a northern drifter.
His dreaming process is more about finding a way out, thinking that accounting doesn't work, so he went to Beijing to try, and if it doesn't work, then he went back to his home base, which is secure at the back anyway.
Wang Xiaowei is different, although she is a girl, but very naughty. She mentioned in one of her interviews that she was so naughty that she climbed up the wall to play and finally, once, broke her arm.
Her dad, also a music lover, thought of some way to tether his child so she couldn't be so naughty. He bought an electronic piano based on her interests, and when she came home, she played the songs she learned in school. That's probably talent.
Before she started middle school, she and her dad were watching TV, and on the TV there was a foreign player playing the pipe organ, a more classical kind. He played a symphony orchestra effect with one pipe organ. She told her dad she wanted to learn that.
The old man was also very good, so he asked around, and realized that the university has this, but the teacher said that you need to have a foundation. She then took her daughter to learn from scratch and got into the Shenyang Conservatory of Music, specializing in double-row keys.
At the university, she was also an accomplished performer, and there were double-key recitals, and that's when Wang Xiaohai met her. Her process was more a matter of interest than a way out.
The two had different attitudes toward music, also due to the different family atmospheres. Wang Xiaohai's daily life, music is due to interest; while Wang Xiaowei, from the heart love. It is also this passion that has brought her to this point.
The two are separated, but the education of their respective families, but will never stop. Every family is concerned about the growth of the child, different parents, choose not the same mode of education, you are a parent, you will choose which one?
Conclusion:
Wang Xiaohai and Wang Xiaowei have been separated, their own development, our favorite Nine Moons Miracle, will not be together, no matter what, when they are together, bring us a lot of wonderful singers, that's enough.
Two people separated, but also a kind of fulfillment. Fulfilling each other's dreams is also kind of beautiful. Anyway, I wish them better in the future and cherish each other! Do you think there's a possibility of them getting back together?