Generally speaking, divorce is a major setback in life (except for those who go into someone else's arms early), and these setbacks include separation of parents and children, separation of property, separation of feelings, and so on, but before a relationship breaks down, there should have been some consideration given to all of this. So when you can't handle one of these, hold on to the marriage for dear life, and don't let go of it despite all the bullying, and once you do let go of it, face the setbacks openly.
See too many women (including me) because of divorce and emaciation, and even some people on this ruined his life, but also to see some people (also including me) out of the shadow of divorce, can face life with ease. In the present view, the damage of divorce on women is only one point in the final analysis, is the blow to the self-confidence, do not look at this point is easy to say, but can make you in front of the people can not lift their heads, in the crowd can not be calm, in the work of the work can not be spontaneous, in the feelings of the no longer trust other people.
In marriage, a woman's traditional sense of being around her husband and children, women even if the dedication of more, but the heart has the final destination, so pay more also feel worthwhile, and the loss of marriage will begin to reminisce about their own lost things, feel once worthless. Emotionally, the final departure in the marriage can give a woman a long bout of pain, a small thing can be triggered, and even after the two sides remarried there will be a secret rivalry, seizures from time to time.
If a woman can regain her self-confidence, then the matter of divorce becomes history, not a shadow. Women's qualities determine that women can not be as easy as men to cope with divorce, and the social environment also seems to be more concerned about the divorced woman, so how to cope with the environment, minimize this damage, and re-establish a new order of life?
First of all, recognize the past, including the good and the wrong, if the past is not good all wrong, then be brave, admit that you have made stupid choices or a stupid person, people have to be responsible for their own behavior. I believe it is impossible for a man and a woman who have been in a marriage together to not have an ounce of goodness in their past, and that goodness can wash away your resentment. I have resented countless times, but when I was sober I never regretted the choices I made, it's in the character of the person, and until the character is changed, there is only acceptance. The only way to get out of resentment is to fully accept the mistakes you've made and hold yourself accountable for them, and not having resentment is the first step to finding yourself.
Secondly, recognize the reality, including all kinds of separation, a lot of original things no longer belong to you, even if you're not willing to give up, but also useless, someone in your life has become the past, but someone (children) in your life will always be there and important, how much of the relationship has been objectively existed, so let him exist. In fact, see the reality can let the woman no longer entangled in the previous relationship, I am me, you are you, each other in addition to the politeness between strangers no longer have other concerns. Of course the reality also includes you have a past, have *** with the same flesh and blood (which is often the most entangled women). The reality is that you are a single woman and more responsible for yourself.
Again, find yourself. Acknowledging the past and reality may be something you can force yourself to do at a moment's notice, but finding yourself may take a lot of time and thought. Perhaps this is a long process, but I believe that everyone through to the inner examination, can find the original self, see their own real needs, accept their own incomplete life, so as to regain confidence, live a dashing and comfortable (looks a little difficult only), because although the marriage is lost, but affection, friendship is still there, the woman's natural strengths are still there, the advantages of the individual is also in the pining, just in the temporary loss of the The woman's natural virtues are still there, and her personal virtues are also there, just temporarily lost in the emaciation. No matter how much had given and lost, that is in the form of love and responsibility in the past.