In this life, we will meet many people and encounter many things.
Some people come to us to teach us something, and some things we encounter to help us grow.
Every encounter is for a reason, and no encounter is a coincidence.
As the saying goes, "If you don't owe each other, how can you meet."
The world is a great system of balance, and all encounters are made by fate.
01
The Law of Conservation of Energy
There are always things that we find surprisingly consistent.
For example, someone takes a big fall in this place and gets a treasure somewhere else.
Someone is in a relationship, gets hurt badly by someone, and later meets someone who is loved tenderly and properly.
Our world, invariably there is a law of conservation of energy:
thought that will always have, often lost without realizing it;
thought that forever lost, and will return in another form.
I've heard this story.
There is a boy who grew up doing things more seriously, and likes to be more aggressive, and likes to be first in everything.
If you don't get it, you will be depressed and obsessive.
When he grew up, he met his favorite person, and they fell in love with each other and dated for a while, but unfortunately, the girl's family had to move to another city to live.
When they parted, they promised to wait for each other.
As a result, he waited for the girl for 2 years, and then lost contact with her.
After a few years, the man met a lot of people, but still single, his heart is still difficult to let go of the heart of that she once.
Until once, he met his ex-girlfriend in another city by chance, and found that she was holding her husband, children, and living a happy and calm life.
It turned out that only they are stuck in the same place, others have long run to a happy life, he finally let go.
Then he met a woman, at first others think not match, they are together, but the days of life and beautiful, and has been to the end.
Every person you meet in your life has a time limit.
Some people are shallow with you, and will naturally leave when the time comes; some people are deep with you, and will never leave after they come.
The late grasp of the wrong people do not let go, so there is no space within the acceptance of the new to come.
Only those who truly accept the loss can get another encounter arranged by fate.
All the leaving, are destiny, all the encounter, in fact, is a long goodbye reunion.
The extra second you spend on the wrong person will make you postpone meeting those right people in your life.
So stop indulging yourself in the cloudy days of loss and trapping yourself in stopping.
Open the window, a different mood, you will find that the wind is blowing outside, the sun shines brightly, those who are the right person, the right thing is on the way.
02
The Law of Virtue Compatibility
A young man asked an elder, "How can I succeed quickly."
The elder replied, "There is no such way, and even if you succeed, you will lose quickly. If virtue is not worthy of the position, there will be disaster."
A person can only have, what matches him or her.
Who you are, is who you will meet;
What level you are, matches what kind of life.
I used to work for a company where the boss's son came back from abroad and was parachuted into the company's hand.
The boss's wife is very favorite son, all kinds of persuade the boss to let his son find a position to exercise the ability, but was met with the collective opposition of the company's several elders.
The reason is that young people do not have enough understanding of the company's business, and control, it is difficult to convince the public.
As a result, the boss did not listen to advice, coinciding with the company was approaching an important project.
The boss's son did not listen to everyone's advice and was bent on having his own way, resulting in not only no money, but also a huge loss.
The company went bankrupt after not receiving any business for several months because of the poor economic environment at the time.
The idea is that the people in the room are the ones who have to pay for the work, and the people in the room are the ones who have to pay for the work.
Toward the end of the show, Li Tan asked Wang Jianguo if he wanted to award him the title.
But in the audience's mind, there was clearly a better candidate for the champion's spot.
Wang thought about it and said, "I'm very satisfied, I don't think my performance is worthy of the title."
If you don't see that, and have to go out and have something that doesn't belong to you, you're bound to incur unbearable consequences.
Since ancient times, it's been the same thing:
Virtue and position are matched, lost and gained; virtue does not match position, gained and lost.
To get something, you must first pay for it and make yourself strive to be worthy of it.
All encounters are the result of your efforts.
All you get is what you deserve.
03
The Law of Compensation for Absence
I've heard it said:
A man's perversity is the compensation for his absence.
If a person has a sense of lack, he or she will always try to find a way to compensate elsewhere.
For example, when a person lacks love, he or she either frantically seeks to be loved to make up for his or her lack of love, or he or she lowers his or her self-esteem to love people and tries to gain a sense of security.
No matter which kind of compensation psychology, it is difficult to restore balance to the imbalance of the psychological balance, it is likely that the more you ask, the more you lose, the more you struggle, the more you sink.
I used to know a girl who didn't come home for several years in the Spring Festival, and we were all very puzzled, and once she told the truth.
My mom and dad have been fostering her since I was a kid, and I've suffered enough from the pain of being in the middle of a family.
When she grew up and moved back, she was always estranged from them.
When she was able to earn money from her job, her mother would try to ask her for money whenever she went home for the holidays, and she would often reveal that the bride price for her marriage was to be reserved for her younger brother to buy a house.
She escaped from her own home, but the road to her relationship was repeatedly thwarted.
Talked about two relationships, both ended in failure.
Either she was too good to the boy, which led to the boy being stressed out and not being able to return the favor, or she talked about a boyfriend who was much older than her, and then made all kinds of work, feeling that the man didn't love her, and overwhelmed others.
But the result of this demand for compensation is often unhelpful.
As FanDeng said, "If a person can not swim, it is useless to change the pool."
Until one day, when you know what you really need and what to do, those right things will come together in your life.
And that is: The only way you can truly heal yourself is if you begin to face up to your shortcomings, learn to love yourself, fulfill yourself, heal the wounds you've had, and in the process, learn to love and then accept love from others.
I've heard the saying:
No matter who you meet, he is the one who should appear in your life, not by chance.
There are so many people in the world who meet each other for no reason, and every person you meet in life, every story that happens, has its own reason and meaning.
We don't know when the destiny is exhausted, when the person in front of us leaves, we can only try our best to take advantage of the time when the hands can still be held tightly, don't let go.
Doing things seriously, treating people gently, no matter what you meet, all heart to treat.
Not to disappoint every meeting, not to owe every encounter, is to treat the fate of the best cherish and response.
Thanks to everyone in life, some people bring you happiness, some people bring you growth.
No need to worry, no need to obsess.
The encounter will always be encountered, the away from the destiny will be away, the left behind will eventually stay.
All encounters are a kind of reimbursement, all the best arrangement.