Is a mother-in-law wrong if she doesn't help her son with the kids? No, what is wrong with the elderly? The children are their own, not the old man's. The old people have worked hard all their lives to bring up their sons and daughters, and it has not been easy, so why do they have to deprive the old people of their own life chances and have to bring up their grandchildren for their sons and daughters? Besides, it is actually not good for the elderly, for the children, or for the children for the old people to bring up the children!
Mother-in-laws helping with the kids is actually not good for child development! Older people have more traditional parenting experiences and aren't able to keep up with modern medicine and parenting concepts very well. And some of the old methods of parenting have been proven by modern medicine, and do not have the scientific nature. For example, the old people often say that if you have a cold, drink more water, cover up more blankets, and then you will be fine. For babies, it's easy to cause "muffled fever", and in serious cases, it can endanger the baby's life.
The "next-generation relatives", so that the old people more spoiled grandchildren, grandchildren. The old people help to bring up the children, older, see around the knees of the grandchildren, grandchildren, only love, which have discipline! Just to meet the needs of the child, want to watch TV, give to watch TV; want to eat snacks, quickly buy snacks to eat; do not want to get up, let the child sleep more, and so on. Even if the old people again angry, want to discipline the child, but also afraid of children and mom "flip tongue", and then cause unnecessary conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, over time, the child is more and more difficult to manage, more and more capricious.
The old man's legs are not good enough to cause injury to the child. After the babies learn to walk, every day in addition to sleep and eat, the rest of the time is in motion. When the children cry, the old people are aggrieved and the parents are embarrassed. This is also the cause of many conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. The old people have worked hard all their lives, it is not easy to retire, can have their own time, planting flowers, playing cards, square dancing, grandchildren were born. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car.
There is a typical example around me. My friend's mother-in-law was not very good at speaking, and my friend and her husband were both busy with their work, so I had to bring my mother-in-law over to take care of my grandchildren. The mother-in-law plays with her grandson at home every day, watches TV, and hardly ever leaves the house. When she went to the neighborhood to walk and play with her grandson, she could not communicate with the other children's parents because of her dialect. In the evening, my friend and her husband came back, and they were so busy eating, playing with the child, and putting the child to bed that they didn't have time to worry about my mother-in-law's thoughts and situation. The old man helped to bring more than half a year, severe depression, back and legs of the old disease also committed, no way, back to the old home to recuperate. The result is that three months after returning home, the old man is all right.
So, if the old people themselves are not ready for psychological and physical preparation, do not force the old people to help with the child. If there is really no way, need to help the elderly to take care of the child, do children, must be more worried about the elderly, they also need to take care of and care.
Small Li's mother-in-law retired to help her take care of her daughter, and had hoped to help her son and daughter-in-law to ease the burden, so that the two can work at ease, but the result is that the couple almost divorced. As a company executive, Xiao Li often has to organize departmental meetings, dinners and activities, and often comes back late at night, and often needs to socialize and drink. Weekends are rare two days off, Li used to sleep a lazy. These have become the mother-in-law's eyes can not see the "bad habits".
So, the mother-in-law to help bring up the child, parents and the elderly are also to do a good job of physical and mental, life in all aspects of the preparation, the children should be more concerned about the old people, after all, that is their parents, not just a nanny! If the mother-in-law or mother-in-law can not help with the child, but also to learn to understand the elderly, respect for the elderly, at the same time, to take up their own as parents should bear the responsibility! This is a qualified parents do, rather than to consider the elderly do not help with the child is right or wrong!