Sometimes you wonder if you don't know how to get along with people, so you can talk to your friends, and that's why you're getting fewer and fewer? When you think about it, the main reason behind it is undoubtedly the following three points, which are very realistic to say.
The first reason: the people did not do.
People and people's encounters, it is a destiny, the edge of the deep poly poly, edge shallow with it. And very often, a person does well, there will be people say bad; a person even if no longer good, there will be people praise good. This is the love between people, it and personal attitude and friendship conditions, closely related.
In fact, Ziyi knows that most of his friends are very affectionate and nostalgic. So after ten or twenty years, still willing to go to classmates, friends party, is only to contact feelings, enhance friendship. However, when people reach middle age, most of them have started their own families and careers, and the responsibilities and burdens on their shoulders are not small, so it is inevitable that they are distracted by the trivialities of life, and the contact is naturally becoming less and less, and with the passage of time, the feelings are slowly fading away is an inevitable thing.
When one day, you and suddenly remembered and a friend contact, and then found that each other have nothing to say, even mixed with a little embarrassed, that is the sign of your edge. In fact, this is also from the side, you usually do not spend energy to manage the friendship, so there will be such an embarrassing situation, that is, the human being did not do.
The second reason: the gap between rich and poor is getting bigger and bigger.
People to middle age, have their own fixed circle, and the circle of people, often living standards and levels are similar. This is what people often say, "Things are gathered together, people are divided into groups"! But people want to go higher, who do not want to be down compatible, so there are two irreconcilable situation.
Poor people want to be friends with the rich, the purpose is to get the rich to carry, but the rich want to socialize with the richer people, so often do not want to waste time on the poor, which is irreconcilable with the first point. At the same time, the rich and poor people's consumption level and consumption concepts are not the same, the poor see the rich "throw money", naturally, will be at a loss, produce a sense of inferiority, if the impulse to consume, and then regret, this is the second point.
If you and your old friend already have a huge wealth gap, the probability of friendship to keep going will not be great, unless you both still appreciate each other, in the height of the idea of matching.
Third, change of heart.
People to middle age, the mentality is becoming more and more calm, the focus is mainly on career and family. For making friends, also have their own unique ideas, so some friends, naturally, will no longer traffic. Can often keep in touch with the work, and career-related friends. And for some useless social contact, often are far away from it. This is very realistic, time is very precious for everyone.
And the feelings of this thing, and can not be eaten. Especially when you are young and make friends of the opposite sex, if you are not careful, you may spark, so in order to avoid suspicion, but also for the sake of each other's marriages and families, naturally, can not be the same as the previous relationship.
The heart if no dust, the heart from the security.