Except for the day before the dead line, doing things at home in my spare time is always restless. The web page opens and closes, the clock is short and long, the day passes without accomplishing anything, and the solitude of being alone always degenerates into an orgy of the good-for-nothing mentality.
So then, can only run to the library, cafe. In the noise of people, it seems to be able to calm down and concentrate.
Call me pretentious, but interviewed a circle of close friends, similar to me this mentality of a lot of people.
There are those who stay in the car for an extra 10 minutes before going to work, doing mental construction.
There are those who don't like to go straight home from work, but have to go to a bar for a cup of tea.
There is a long distance traveling from time to time to isolate the society and empty themselves.
There is a webpage that you can open and watch the pop-ups and laughs and curses to get your meal.
Loneliness is a person's carnival, carnival is a group of people's loneliness.
Most states in life are not extreme loneliness or revelry. Rather, they are between loneliness and revelry, between idleness and busyness.
Both want to be independent of the purity, but also want the company of the crowd. Not too much pressure, but also have a certain sense of existence.
More and more people are choosing to open a gap between their daily home and busy work to find a place to release their true selves. In the third space, honestly face the self.
Today's topic, we talk about what the third space is, the transformation it brings to those who are in it, and how to find your 'third space'.
Today's topic: 'Third Space'
Third space has emerged in cities. There's Star Daddy, which has shaped the third space as its soul, traditional libraries and bookstores, and virtual online platforms.
The concept of third space in the strict sense originated from American sociologist Ray Oldenburg. He defined "third space" as the public space outside the living space of the family (first space) and the workplace (second space) that is not limited by utilitarian relationships, such as the downtown area of city centers, bars, coffee shops, libraries, city parks, etc.
The third space is the space of the soul, the soul, the soul, the soul, the soul, the soul, and the soul.
In such a third space, people's relationships are free and equal, without the hierarchy of the workplace or the constraints of roles in the family.
In traditional culture, the bustling teahouse, the crowded bathhouse, the village entrance where people come and go, the singing stage in the park, and even the square dance floor in the neighborhood are all considered third spaces.
The memory of the old Beijing bathhouse, as shown in the movie "The Bath", seems to be unassuming, but it can give people a sense of stability
The new way of life has crushed, reshaped, and produced some spaces. In the third space, people can face themselves and release themselves.
The third space represents a kind of spiritual support beyond living, and the taste of touching life itself
Why do people need the third space? I interviewed a few of my close friends. They have unique third spaces, and all of them have gained unexpected rewards.
Small P New Media
Third Space: Star Daddy
I love Star Daddy, and even though I don't think it's competitively priced and tastes mediocre, there's always that one or two days a week when I'll walk in by ghost. Is it blind followership? Or is it a showmanship mentality? I guess it's because of some kind of psychological cue that being here gives me some kind of 'ritual'.
At home, I'd be lazy, I'd be paralyzed, I'd be brushing up on my dramas, and I wouldn't be able to do it myself.
But in Star Daddy, I order a cup of coffee, find a seat, open my laptop, and when people come and go around me, I can still calm down and turn it into a piece of writing and a fragmented mood.
How to say this feeling, is that you can foresee before you go, you will be in good shape, is so magical. That's why I don't go to StarDaddy to enjoy myself, I go to create.
Star Daddy is my chicken blood, for the sake of creation, drink this glass!
Little H, the marketing dog
The third space: my own bathroom
My third space, is my home bathroom la, because every time I come out I'm new (really skinny). Although my bathroom is small, I managed to cram in a mini bathtub.
My favorite thing to do is to come home, take off my clothes, throw my worries away, jump into the hot tub, put on a little bit of my favorite music, and light up some scented candles.
Outside the flurry of disturbances and I have nothing to do with, and then the big tired and pressure will be gone. I'm afraid this is a lot of girls longing for the daily life, and I'm glad I practiced.
I will also put a good-looking care and aromatherapy series in the bathroom, and will choose the fragrance according to the mood. I don't know if the bathroom counts as a third space, but this place always makes me feel good.
Life is so exhausting, why not please yourself a little more?
Small W, Designer
Third space: outdoors
My third space is on the road. Every weekend, as long as I'm not working overtime and it's not raining, I take my camera and head out the door to collect the city's fireworks.
Taking photos is to record and rediscover, the flavor in some rare and ordinary light and shadow, the joy in some tired life, and the look on some familiar faces.
I like to go out and watch the clouds rise and the wind blow, and see the women yodeling and the children jumping around. Capturing these scenes has become my favorite thing to do in my spare time.
It's not specific to a particular space, but the joy of the shutter clicking and thriving makes me feel real.
A small bar in an apartment, a corner of a park, a café with a special flavor ......
The second place outside of home where you can laze around is worth digging into and owning.
Look for it again, like a tourist in a city where you're tired of staying.
Instead of just sitting at home numbly brushing up on your laptop, get out and experience some new skills. For example, cooking, dancing, drama, crafts ......
A short escape from the ordinary life and work, but also to make friends and expand their horizons.
Any change that pleases you, embrace it with vigor.
When you don't have the means, you can create a third space at home. Insert a bouquet of flowers, raise a pot of greenery, set up a favorite fragrance ......It's THE PLACE.
No matter how big or small your home is, give yourself a corner where you can take a break from your exhausting life.
Have a pair of eyes of discovery, in the face of any kind of mediocre life, can point dregs into gold.