When people reach middle age, they have elderly parents to support and children to support, and the pressure of life goes hand in hand. It seems that the most effective way to solve the pressure is to make money.
Because, "money can solve 99% of the problems." The rest 1%, maybe only life and death.
Whether it's eating and dressing in front of you, getting sick and seeing a doctor further away, or poetry and distance, you can't do without money.
I don't know when, making money has become the most important thing in our life, so that we regard everything except making money as affectation and affectation.
No one can deny the importance of money, but for more than enough ordinary people, money is not the only way to happiness.
Especially in middle age, people see through the truth of life and find that these three things are more important than making money.
In the TV series "My First Half Life", Chen is a corporate executive with an annual salary of one million, even in Shanghai where talents are abundant. Therefore, his wife, Luo Zijun, can enjoy a good day with a nanny and shopping every day.
Some people may say that if Chen doesn't cheat, but loves Luo Zijun all her life, then she won't have to suffer for going to work and can be happy all her life.
In fact, Luo Zijun showed a strong sense of insecurity before Chen's love affair was exposed, and even went to the company where her husband worked like a bitch.
Such Luo Zijun, even if Chen doesn't dislike her, will live into an older and uglier dissatisfied wife, which has nothing to do with "independence".
When living under the protection of Chen, she was pampered, addicted to shopping and consumption, and mentally derailed from Chen's world.
On the contrary, after the divorce, Luo Zijun was forced to return to the workplace by life, grew up bit by bit by his own efforts, and his gas field gradually became stronger.
Her change was first affirmed by her good friend Tang Jing, and later even her ex-husband began to regret it and wanted to go back to before the divorce.
In fact, after the divorce, Luo Zijun's salary was very low and he had to raise children. She is not rich, and her clothes are naturally not as good as before the divorce, but this cannot hide her inner light.
Because she is self-reliant, she doesn't have to please her husband for money, and she doesn't have to worry about her husband being taken away by young girls. Her confidence comes from herself. Without shelter, she can stand up and live like her own armor.
Such Luo Zijun, even if he leads a simple life with his son alone, is better than being raised by Chen and being suspicious all day.
Spiritual independence brings a sense of security far more than money.
Life is a ship, and each of us should learn to be our own helmsman. We should not envy luxury cruise ships, but take care of our own boats.
Because it is not up to us to decide where the cruise ship is going, the ship is simple, but it is completely under our control.
Some people say that if a woman does well, it is better to marry her. I don't agree with those seemingly "lucky" women. What we can see is that she has been blessed for eight generations; What I can't see is that she is good enough to get married.
However, being able to live a good life alone does not mean a happy marriage.
Since we have chosen marriage, we should manage it carefully and gain a harmonious relationship between husband and wife. Because a good marriage can nourish people, a disharmonious relationship between husband and wife will only consume people.
Last year, a farmer couple in Wenzhou, Zhejiang Province got angry because of a video of them dancing.
In the video, the husband wears liberation shoes and the wife wears black cloth shoes. Simple clothes don't affect their love of dance at all.
Some people may say that rural people will have a lot of time to do what they want after finishing their crops. If you give him a "996", there is absolutely no leisure for dancing.
In fact, however, fate has no preference for them, but is cruel.
Once, my husband had a car accident, and he spent all his savings on medical treatment, leaving a serious psychological sequelae. My wife has to be busy with business and taking care of the family.
In order to help her husband recover his physical and mental health and relieve the pressure, the wife took her husband to learn to dance after seeing others dancing in the square dance.
After experiencing the initial unaccustomed and resistance, they are more and more happy, the pressure is released, and their bodies are gradually getting better. This kind of self-healing is better than spending money to find the best psychologist.
Being able to become online celebrities is precisely because of their positive attitude towards bad luck, as well as their wife's insistence on her husband's appreciation and trust.
Obviously poor, when my wife dances, her husband doesn't call her "poor and happy", and both husband and wife jump.
Even if they live in a shabby tile house, have no decent furniture at home and eat simple meals, the husband and wife are United enough to make their happiness far exceed that of those couples who live in luxury but live in strange bedfellows.
A poor but harmonious marriage relationship is far happier than a relationship that earns a lot of money but leaves Germany. I believe everyone inside has experience.
Once, the best answer I saw about why I wanted children was this: "I want children to participate in the growth of a life. I don't have to fight for my appearance, I can carry on the family line and help me support the elderly." As long as this life exists, I will walk in this beautiful world and give me a chance to walk with her (him) ... "
For a child, the careful companionship of parents affects his life, and the future of the child affects his parents' later life.
A few years ago, there was a popular saying that made people cry: you can't hold you when you lift a brick, and you can't hold you when you put down a brick.
Every responsible parent wants to earn more money and provide good material conditions for their children. However, it is inevitable to ignore a problem: children's education is effective.
All good habits and character cultivation are cultivated from an early age. When children are young, their parents are their world. Parents' words and deeds will take root in their hearts. It was the golden age of family education.
In order to earn money, the children of migrant workers who leave their children to the elderly are likely to become the same bottom workers as them.
Education is fair. I won't pity you because your life is hard, and I won't favor you because you have money.
Poor people neglect their children's education in order to make money, and are likely to fall into the predicament of poverty from generation to generation; The rich do not pay attention to the companionship and education of their children, and may be "not rich for three generations."
Hong Kong superstar Jackie Chan has a prominent position in the world film industry. He is an anti-drug ambassador, but his son was imprisoned for half a year for taking Du.
In this regard, Jackie Chan has publicly stated that he neglected the growth of his family and son because he was busy with his career. As an artist, he is confident, but as a father, he is full of guilt.
The success of any career can't make up for the failure of children's education. Obviously, it can be a role model for children, but in the end it has become a shadow for children.
The real "rich support" is not to give children expensive money blindly, but to support them with unconditional love and rational rules.
It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish. It is better to set an example and teach children how to be a useful person by giving them rich materials. Only when children are truly adults can they have a harmonious parent-child relationship.
When people reach middle age, life is over half. You will find the meaning of life, that is, walk and watch, never forget the goal ahead and never ignore the scenery around you.
Working hard to make money and create good material conditions for family members is a compulsory course in life; Self-confidence and maintaining the independence of spirit and personality are also the practice of life; Only by managing the marriage relationship with your heart can you find the road to happiness; Accompany children with love and build a warm home, and life will be one step closer to perfection.
Money can indeed solve many problems, but the loveliness of this world lies in its richness and diversity. People who live with heart will live up to their seriousness and wisdom.
If you have money, you can enjoy the elegance of the environment and the delicious food in high-end restaurants. If you don't have much money, you can really taste the original flavor of the food in the food stall.
Don't forget that successful people have their glory and joy, and ordinary people also have their own pride and luck.
It is important to make money hard, but having an independent spirit is more important than anything else, because with it, you can advance and retreat freely and avoid the risks of life; Having a warm home is more important than anything else, because with it, you will have a real happiness full of fireworks and a real happiness that is grounded.
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