Children imitate the bad behavior how to do
Children imitate the bad behavior how to do, we must know that children's ability to imitate is the strongest, so the children imitate the bad behavior how to do, as a parent of the first to do their own good, to become a good example of the child to learn, so that there is no imitation of the object.
The child imitated the bad behavior how to do 1When the elderly in the family have bad behavior habits ...... how to do?
A mom takes her son to the supermarket to shop. The mom wanted to buy a little fruit, told the boy to draw a transparent plastic bag on the side. The next moment to the mother to see stunned:
The child drew a series of more than 10 transparent plastic bags, he first hand more than 10 transparent plastic bags rolled, stuffed into his wide pants pockets, and finally drew a transparent plastic bags, walked to the side of the mother loaded with fruit. Seeing their own son to make the move, the mother heart is not a taste.
The child's grandmother usually has this kind of bad habit of smoking a whole bunch of plastic bags as soon as she enters the supermarket, and the child must have imitated his grandmother's behavior ......
This is the latest request for help from a mom who says that the elderly people in her family are very difficult to communicate with, and that every time she says a few words, she gets upset. But a child's bad imitation is not a trivial matter, and if it becomes a habit, it will surely tarnish the child's character, and in the future it will even affect the child's interpersonal relationships with others.
Imitation is the nature of children, what kind of imitation should parents be wary of?
People who come into contact with the child and live with the child become objects of imitation for the child. There are two kinds of imitation in a child's development.
Type 1: Immediate imitation
As parents, it's not hard to see that
When a small baby is lying in a crib and playing, if we stick out our tongues at Ta, Ta will probably stick them out, too;
When we smile at Ta, Ta will probably smile right back;
A little older child will see the road and the road, and then he will see the road and the road, and then he will see the road. If you are an older child and see a hunchbacked old lady walking on the road, you may imitate the slow movement of the hunchbacked old lady;
If you see an old lady dancing in the square, you may be excited to imitate the dancing posture in a vivid way.......
All these behaviors of the children are instant imitations, and they can be imitated as soon as they see them. If children who imitate instantly often make us laugh, then children who imitate delayed can give us fear, especially delayed imitation of bad behavior.
Type 2: Delayed imitation
What does delayed imitation mean? That is, after the child sees, not immediately imitate out, parents do not know how the child is affected, but after a period of time, the child will make some deja vu behavior.
For example, at the beginning of this article, the child imitated his grandmother to steal the plastic bag;
Another example is that during the usual meal, the child imitated his grandma to bite off the vegetables, and then threw it to the bystanders to eat;
Another example is that the child will imitate his grandpa to secretly pour wine to drink when he is not paying attention to the people;
Another example is that the child may imitate his grandpa to dig his nose in the public *** occasions with no fear. Shi......
These behaviors are not so much mimicry as they are children who have internalized the imitated behaviors into their own habits and behaviors.
This has been specifically explained by developmental psychologist Jean Piaget. He said that as the child's mind develops, it internalizes the behaviors that it usually imitates and forms its own mental images. In short, the behavior of the people around the child will slowly become the child's own behavior.
How do you break the bad behavior of children who imitate the elderly in the family?
1. Relational isolation?
In history, there is Meng's mother. Mengzi's mother, in order to get a good environment for her child to imbibe, she moved three times, time and again, isolating herself from past relationships in the hope that her child would get a good imitation.
We face bad imitation in the family, for example, such as the old man in order to coax the child to eat, promised the child to buy toys after eating, the result is that none of the time to honor;
The child may then learn to lie, perhaps he stole sugar and then lied, saying that the sugar is a teddy bear to steal and eat ...... In the face of this situation, the young parents bring their children around.
However, not all families have the financial means to do so.
Last year, a reader's mom told me that her son, who is already 5 years old and needs to swipe a card to ride the subway because he's growing so fast, mimics his grandpa by "skipping".
Every time he enters the subway, the child will deliberately look around to see if there are any staff, and then quickly drilled through the gate. The first time I saw the child's behavior, the mother felt very "hot". When she discussed with her husband, whether to live separately from the elderly, but he refused.
The husband's reasoning is very realistic: First, the economic problem, the couple have to work, they can not afford to hire a nanny to take care of the child; Second, if you let the lonely old father to live on their own, they will be put on the "ungrateful" hat ......
Psychological isolation. strong> 2, psychological isolation
There is a term, called the "rotten apple effect", in a basket, appeared a rotten apple, some people do not want to throw away the rotten apple, not long, but surprised to find that the whole basket of apples are bad. If someone in a family has very bad behavior, the children are likely to be brought up badly.
However, some families, objectively speaking, cannot eliminate such bad influences. Because even if the behavior is bad, after all, they are all family members ah, especially the elderly, can not say live separately.
In addition, many of the elderly to a certain age, the idea is easy to fix, difficult to communicate, can not be changed. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty. Then change the child's thoughts and perceptions, and help the child to correct the understanding of things.
The children said that in the story mentioned above, the child imitated the grandfather to escape the ticket, and see what the mother did later. Use the word "imitate" to counter "imitate".
The story goes that one day, a family of three was playing a role-playing game of driver and passenger, with the dad playing the little angel.
The boy plays the cab driver, the mom plays the passenger, and they put together a little cab with toys and a chair in the back.
Mom: "Hello, how much for a ride to Bunny Park?"
Little boy: "10 dollars."
Mom: "Okay, get in the car, drive!"
Little boy: "Ding, ding, ding, bunny park is here, passengers please get off!"
Mom: "I want to escape, I do not want to pay the fare, bye-bye!" Mom "jumped out of the car" and pretended to break her leg.
At this point, the "little angel" speaks up: "Bad passenger, to punish you for skipping the fare, your leg is broken, and you can never get it back. Unless you return the ticket."
Mom: "Oops, I don't dare to skip the ticket anymore, I have to return the fare now."
"Because you were brave enough to admit your mistake, your leg injury is now gone."
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After the role-playing was over, mom deliberately asked, "Here we are, has anyone ever skipped a ticket yet? The little angel will punish bad passengers."
"Mom ......" the child was a little nervous, "I skipped a ticket with my grandpa the day before yesterday, will the angel make me break my leg too?"
"The little angel is very kind and will give the wrongdoing children the opportunity to correct their mistakes. Why don't mom accompany you to return your subway ticket?"
In the end, the mom took her son and returned the money for the 4 times he skipped the ticket at the subway service station.
Later, the mother found that the child not only did not imitate his grandfather to evade the ticket, but also often persuade his grandfather not to be a bad passenger.
Warm tips: This approach is suitable for children who are still at the age of playing house. Of course, there are other ways to do this, but the principle is to let the child realize that bad behavior is wrong.
In the child's behavioral correction, parents in addition to help children change the wrong perception, parents usually have to accompany the child, give the child a positive and positive imitation of the environment, to reduce the child's contact with the object of bad imitation, can better help the child to ultimately change the bad imitation, to achieve the shape of the behavior.
When the child makes progress, parents should not forget to praise the child. Of course, the child's imitation in the family, in addition to the elderly, parents are also a very important imitated, so the parents themselves should pay attention to their words and deeds.
When there are rotten apples in a basket, if you can't throw away the rotten apples in time, then protect the good ones! Although parents need to pay more, but one day, the children will thank you!
What to do when your child imitates bad behavior2Every parent wants their child to be an angel baby.
But as your child grows up, you realize that your child has many habits that you don't like.
But you know what? Parents are the first teachers of their children.
Parents' words and actions, whether good or bad, can not escape the eyes of the child.
Although parents are not perfect and can not be perfect, but we should be in every stage of life, try to do the best 'themselves.
Let's see if you have any of these bad habits.
If so, make some changes for your kids.
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Arguing in front of your kids
Parental arguments are normal and understandable for adults.
But for a child, the sky is falling, and his sense of security will take a big hit.
Frequent quarrels in front of the child will make the child highly nervous, uneasy, psychological fear.
Therefore, parents should grasp the degree of conflict in front of their children.
Try not to let the quarrel develop into an unmanageable point, which can also reduce the child's sense of fear.
It is the responsibility of parents to make sure that their children feel safe and secure.
Adults should not attack each other if they think their relationship is between two people, as the negative impact on the child's psyche will be difficult to compensate for the rest of his or her life.
Picky Eaters
Once a mother told me:
My child is a picky eater, because I am a little picky, never eat vegetables and carrots, only like to eat meat.
Later, my child followed our example and didn't like to eat greens, so my child was always sick, had yellow hair, and didn't grow.
Some parents love to pick and choose what they think is the best and most nutritious food for their children.
This pick-and-choose approach leaves a deep impression on the child.
The child will naturally gravitate towards the so-called good foods and eat less or even none of the so-called bad but nutrient-rich foods.
Don't talk too much in front of your child about which foods are bad or you don't like.
This can be a psychological influence on the child, which can lead to an early aversion to the food and a refusal to eat the corresponding food.
In addition, parents should not pay too much attention to their children when they eat, but should eat well themselves before encouraging them to eat on their own.
Not obeying traffic rules
When crossing the street, we find that many people are running red lights without a care in the world, and there is no shortage of parents with children.
You think children are too young to understand what adults say and do?
In fact, the opposite is true: from the age of 2, children have a sense of autonomy and judgment.
If you run a red light from time to time, you will think that it is something you can do in TA's eyes, and you may develop a bad habit of running red lights from a young age.
Parents should tell their children the meaning of red, green, and yellow lights and the traffic rules they should follow when they take them across the street.
And to set a good example, they should insist on not running red lights, and always use the crosswalks when crossing the street.
Use your own behavior to give your children a good example.
In front of the kids, you just play with your phone
Often friends say that their kids are addicted to cell phones and computer games.
And when attending parties, parents often see their children playing games on one cell phone each in order to tell them to be quiet.
What is the reason for this addiction?
Parents have to reflect on themselves:
Are adults holding onto their phones all day long? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a cell phone and not play with your kids.
They are not the only ones who are not on their own.
The child will slowly feel that the phone must be very fun, or else the parents are so interested!
Parents should put down the phone, do not let the child have the "world's farthest distance is that I'm by your side, but you're playing with the phone" sense of despair!
Take your children out to see and walk more often, love of sports can not only strengthen the body, but also regulate the mood, active thinking.
Complaining in front of the children
The parents' mentality has an impact on the children, and the parents should never complain in front of the children.
The child is still young, his values are not yet formed, and the parents' attitude towards life directly affects the child's sense of security and trust in real life.
Complaints will make the child early fear of society, invariably bring pressure on the child, is not conducive to the physical and mental development of children.
It will also have an impact on the child's ability to enter society.
For parents, no matter how difficult and frustrating it is, don't complain in front of your children.
Because you are the best teacher of your child, your words and actions will affect your child's healthy growth.
There's no such thing as a bad day, so be positive and pass on the positive energy to your children!