Left-behind women
Also known as left-behind wives, they are women who live alone or with other family members in their domicile after their husbands have gone out. With the acceleration of urbanization, the process of transferring rural laborers to the cities, as the main body of the laborers who go out are men, women and children stay in the place of domicile, so there is a group of left-behind women in the countryside. They endure the loneliness of being separated from their husbands for many years, guarding their homes, supporting the elderly, taking care of their children, and shouldering the burden of the whole family.
The long night, the night is the most difficult, the children's parents rest early, about three or five friends with square dancing, spontaneous activities in the countryside is also a lot of time, can pass the time, a long time and her husband is separated from the two places, every night rest but no one to talk together, chatting, and often miss their husbands who are working outside, the left-behind women are also not easy.
Today's left-behind girls can easily become left-behind women when they get married if they don't have in-laws to help look after their children. She noted that in some places, marriage is characterized by "three little things" -- a car, a house and a little wife, who is a mother-in-law in her 40s or 50s. The mother-in-law can help take care of the children, and then go out to work after marriage. When the children grow up, they may have to come back to help bring up their grandchildren, and become "little wives", and then they will be left behind as elderly people.
It's true that many children will say, "I won't let my children do this," but the ultimate choice for many is to go out and work. In his view, that is "the silent compulsion of economic power".
With their husbands away all year round, the mental burden on women left behind has increased significantly and their sense of security has declined. The main manifestations: First, the marriage crisis. Most of the left-behind women are young and middle-aged, some long-term separation of left-behind women because of their husbands working in other countries for a long time, the lack of communication between husband and wife, the two sides suspected each other, coupled with the emptiness of the spiritual life of the self, the lack of self-control, easy to lead to emotional crises. In the survey, I found that "working marriages" are unstable, and there is a lot of separation. Secondly, property security is not effectively protected. After the male labor force went out, only the elderly, children and women are left in the countryside, in this demographic change, resulting in the weakening of the rural security forces, so that the rural social security hazards increase, the phenomenon of rural left-behind families of thieves and petty theft increased, the left-behind women's sense of security greatly reduced. 70% of the left-behind women are faced with enormous pressure of survival and psychological pressure, and no one to talk to, both to worry about their children, and worry about their husbands outside, but also afraid of the flow of women's security. They have to worry about their children and their husbands outside, and they are also afraid of gossip. One of the women told me that her chickens are often stolen, as are her puppies.
Left-behind women not only have to bear heavy agricultural labor, but also have to take care of household chores, and sometimes have to take care of the elderly and educate their underage children, so left-behind women's physical strength is greatly overdrawn. In the survey, we found that most of the "left-behind women" need to independently take on nearly 5 acres of land per person about the agricultural production and raising chickens in the hope of living a stable family life, and more than half of these women said that "it is difficult to take on the farm work alone", "hope to live a stable family life. More than half of these women said that "it is difficult for one person to carry out farm work alone" and that they "want to have a stable family life". Those left-behind women who are in poor health encounter even greater difficulties. For example, Shen Mou, a left-behind woman in our village, has a family of five, with two children attending school, one in high school, a toddler, a frail and sickly mother-in-law, and four acres of responsible farming, all of which is undertaken by her alone. As a result of years of hard work, the accumulation of disease, but also suffered from lumbar spondylosis, in her own words, "sometimes so tired that I don't want to take off my shoes, I want to crawl into bed and sleep, but the children at home have to take care of themselves. Asked about the treatment of lumbar spondylosis, she said that her husband worked to earn money to buy milk powder for their children and pay tuition fees, as well as her mother-in-law needs to be taken care of, there is not much left, their own disease can only support. The company's main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.