We saw a TV report about an old mother with kidney disease, if you don't get a new kidney, your life will be threatened, and then the oldest son stepped forward and asked to donate a kidney to his mother, which hurt his mother, who strongly objected to the idea, saying that she would rather die than do it. The son was afraid of delaying his mother's condition, so after discussing with his family, he tricked his mother into donating a young kidney to him. A young kidney donated to the mother, after successful surgery, the family is still hidden from the old mother, the most touching is the mother and son living in the next ward, the mother is not aware of, when the mother wants to see the oldest son, the family just lied to her that the son to go on a business trip, I was moved to tears after reading the report, friends, is it such a lie to impede the integrity of it?
A little girl with leukemia, in the late stages of her life, when the doctor asked what her biggest wish was, she said she wanted to go to Tiananmen Square to see the flag-raising ceremony, a dying girl's last wish, the doctor and the parents of which there is no reason not to meet it? But because her family lives in the distant Xinjiang, if her request is met, the doctor is afraid that the girl can not withstand the fatigue of the journey, so a collective lie organized by more than 2,000 volunteers and doctors and the girl's family began to lie, from the train to take the tourist bus, along the way, from the station to the waiter to serve tea, even to the travelers to talk to the passengers, are all intentionally arranged, and finally came to a school, in the military, to the police, to the police, to the hospital. A school, in the marching band accompanied by the sound of the national anthem, the blind girl thought she really came to the long-desired Tiananmen Square, when she saw her powerless to raise her small hand to the direction of the national flag salute, the people present all shed tears, this organized by more than 2,000 people in a collective lying action, you can say that their well-intentioned lies have impeded the integrity of it?
And, a lot of elderly people do not feel well and do not want to let their children know the first time, for fear of affecting the children's normal work and study! A lot of children fall down and say that it does not hurt, in order to let parents say that they are brave! There are many successful personnel behind the silent dedication of the woman tired, never complained, in order to let their husbands can rest assured that the work done better for the family to worry a little less .... Such examples in our country has a long history of civilization is really countless, here I do not enumerate, the facts speak louder than words, to sum up, they are lying, but their lies are good intentioned, is not impeded by the integrity of the ......
Good intentioned lies are not impeded by the integrity of the
"Lies" are called "lies" because they are false, untrue and deceitful words. If a person often has a lie flow with the mouth, so as to deceive others, over time, he will lose people's trust. Just like the child in the article "the lying child", every day shouting "the wolf is coming" in order to seek excitement, happy, but when the wolf really comes, he only one person to face independently, to bear by himself, no matter how much shouting will not help, and there will be no one to help him again. Because the people who may come to help him have gotten used to his shouting, and thought that he was "teasing you" again, so it can be seen that the lie has impeded the integrity.
But today, when we talk about "lies," there is a qualifier - good faith, and with this qualifier, the nature of the lie is fundamentally changed. "Goodwill lies" are people's good wishes for things, is the people's good heart of the dialog, is the people comfort each other a warmth, is the people's heart out of a kind of tenderness ...... who will not go to the extent of its credibility, even if the The people who hear the kind lies know that it is a lie, but also the same will go to try to believe, will not feel the hypocrisy of the liar, and sometimes have to be grateful from the heart it.
When a terminally ill patient is sentenced to death by a doctor, his parents, loved ones, children, and all of his relatives will not directly tell him: "life can not be saved", "the most can still live in the world for a long time," and so on. These words are true. Although this is the truth, who would be so cruel as to tell the truth to a loved one who is already in pain and suffering, just as a judge would pronounce a death sentence on a prisoner? At this point, everyone will form a united front and keep their mouths shut about the truth, while using well-intentioned lies to make the patient hopeful for treatment, so that the patient can spend the rest of his or her days in a peaceful state of mind. Could this be a hindrance to honesty!
When a child who does not rhyme with the world suddenly suffers a misfortune and loses his relatives, how to explain to him where his relatives have gone. We think the best way is still: do not tell him the real situation for the time being, just say to a very far away place to go on business, or in the foreign study and work and so on. When the child understands, has a certain ability to bear the time, and then to tell the truth, the child will also understand the relatives of the practice, will not be angry because they did not know the truth. Is it possible that such words also hinder the integrity!
When a soldier who is on a mission in the field of the mother is very sick, hot a breath of time, how much hope to see his son for the last time ah, but the son is not able to come back, can not do a little filial piety for the old mother, to take care of once for the son of his mother worried about the mother, he was very apologetic, and also very much in his thoughts. And the old mother is very understanding of the son, told the relatives around him, after he left, do not tell the distant son, can not let him distracted, to say that the condition has been stabilized, so that he can rest assured that he will do his best for the country. Is such a well-intentioned lie a hindrance to integrity!
So, I insist that: not only does a well-intentioned lie not hinder the integrity, but also will greatly enhance the friendship between people and feelings, social stability also has an indelible role. Suggestion: the goodwill of the lie should be used, and honesty is not a great conflict.
Goodwill lies do not impede the integrity of the four defense speech
Now, I will summarize our position.
Firstly, a good lie is a lie out of good motives, with the purpose and starting point of safeguarding the interests of others. As we all know, there is a contradiction between universality and particularity, and the particularity is contained in the particularity and distinguished from the universality. On the nature of its good lie itself determines that it is not evil benefit, but in the heart of the sincerity, the foundation of the good, and malicious lie is for the benefit of the liar, with a strong desire for profit, weak rationality, others only as a means to harm the behavior of others at all costs. The lie that a good person is "forced" to tell in a certain state is good, and this lie is a kind of kindness and concern for the subject. And the heart of the wrong person, no matter how to disguise, how rhetoric, how to rack their brains for their own malicious lies crowned with good intentions of the high hat, the lies are said with malicious purposes. Obviously, a well-intentioned lie is no obstacle to honesty.
Secondly, a well-intentioned lie is a way of being in the world, a reflection of the quality of thinking for others.
A terminally ill patient's friends and relatives always use well-intentioned lies to make his condition light and encourage him to cooperate with the doctor's treatment, I believe that everyone here will not be accused of dishonesty because of this, right? On the contrary it is malicious truthfulness. A captive tells the deployment of his side's troops under the lure of the enemy, does anyone think he is honest? Honesty to the enemy is betrayal to the nation, ah!
Guangzhou brain hospital forensic science department director said: "Lying is a kind of human instinct, as for whether honesty, the key in with which kind of lie."
A lie that expresses refusal of love on the basis of not directly hurting the suitor; a lie that expresses the power of not being able to do anything in interpersonal communication under a man who is in great love but is not willing to disappoint the inviter is indispensable in interpersonal communication. It makes us more comfortable in the world, not like a prismatic stone, cut others head and blood, but also their own scars.
It is clear that there is a need for a layer of protective coloring and lubrication between people. Since the time of the expulsion from the Garden of Eden, people are not naked but surrounded by bark and blades of grass, aren't they?
Third: although the good lie is a kind of lie, but can not say that the lie is necessarily impede the integrity, to analyze the specific problem.
The reason why integrity is respected by everyone is because it is goodwill not to deceive, goodwill lie on the surface, it seems to impede the principle of integrity, but essentially, the reason why it exists, is because of speaking the truth impedes the principle of goodwill.
The lie of good faith and honesty, in fact, is the relationship of unity of opposites, and that so-called violation of the integrity of precisely provide a useful complement, and is not in the way, let's say: the provisions of the road in the same direction of the pedestrians can only occupy half of the road, and does not impede the passage of everyone ah!
Fourth: A world without lies is like an earth without dust. We agree that a good lie is not an obstacle to honesty and integrity does not mean that we promote it, the key lies in the degree.
What is lying? If indiscriminately defined as: not truthful, telling lies, exaggerating, covering up, distorting the truth. Then our life is full of big and small lies, from the highly inflammatory advertisements to the sweet words between lovers, all of them are full of exaggerated words, even the literature itself has become a lie. Everyone has a standard for lies in mind, and how to grasp this degree is the first thing we think about. Compared with the lies of bad motives, good faith lies will make people's feelings become more harmonious, harmonious, life becomes more tasty, it can skillfully avoid conflict, to achieve emotional communication and smooth interaction, and how to hinder the integrity of it?
Therefore, we need to learn to recognize malicious lies, to protect ourselves from harm; at the same time, to improve their own cultivation, thinking about the best way to solve the problem. "The way of the university, in the Mingde, in the pro-people, in stopping at the best." As for those who are cozy and make life full of interest; as for those who are full of kindness, compassionate lies, let them bloom!
Isn't there a saying that a kind lie is beautiful. When we lie moderately for the sake of other people's happiness and hope, the lie is changed into understanding, respect and tolerance, with magical power.
Here's an example, there is a student, he is not very good at long-distance running, but in a test, the teacher told him that his long-distance running speed is faster than other students, and also said that he has the opportunity to represent the school to participate in the competition, told him to work hard, the student heard the teacher's words are very excited, because he has always thought that he does not have the talent of long-distance running, but he can represent the school to participate in the competition. The student was very excited after hearing the teacher's words because he had always thought that he had no talent for long-distance running, but he could represent his school in the competition. From that day on, he really liked long-distance running and insisted on getting up every day to run. After a period of time, he was not able to represent the school to participate in the competition at all, but he was really selected.
Once there was a teacher who spread a panic that he could predict the future for his students: you may become a mathematician in the future, he can be a writer, and that one has an artistic talent ...... In the teacher's instruction, inculcation, encouragement and molding, the children became diligent and hard-working, understanding and good at learning. A few years later, a large number of students with excellent results into the door of the university, the village is also famous. People thought that the old teacher could calculate and sense the future, in fact, the teacher's good intentions is a beautiful lie planted in the children's hearts, like sowing a seed in the soil, will eventually flourish, blossom and bear fruit.
Reading the American short story "The Last Leaf," my eyes are always moist and wet. When the sick old man looks at the fading and decaying leaves and desolate despair, the loving painter with a carefully sketched piece of green leaves to decorate the dry tree of life, so as to maintain a section of the dying light of life. Is this not the ultimate lie?
Lies out of good intentions are the nourishment of life and the source of faith. It allows people to light up the fire of hope from the heart, sure that there is love in the world, there is trust, there are touched, and thus find more reasons to smile at life. Kindness lies, is to give the spirit of human nature, embodies the emotional finesse and maturity of thought, prompting people to be strong and persistent, can not help but go to work to fight for the final victory over the fragile, desperate to survive.
The parents of a lie, so that the world of children face like flowers, brilliant; teacher of a lie, so that the uncertainty of the students are no longer confused, better growth; doctor of a lie, so that the fear of patients from the destruction of the new life ......
Dear friends, wake up, in fact, lies of good intentions! There is simply no obstacle to honesty, do not think that good lies will get in the way of the integrity of the issue, because as long as you have in mind that it is for the sake of others, then good lies are precious, it will not cause a crisis of confidence, nor will it tarnish the civilization, and will not distort the human nature.
Good lies have the magical power to inspire you to make progress again and again, and to never give up lightly for the dream in your heart. Because the road ahead is completely illuminated by a joyful mood, and life is better for it.
If being open and straightforward is a mistake, I choose to lie.
If truthfulness and frankness are a disservice, I choose the lie.
If it's for the sake of no more pain or sorrow for myself or others, what's the harm in a little more lying?
Example Example 1:
Life-saving lies example more. August 2 last year, Pu'an County, downstairs town of Wenlian coal mine water bubble roof, Xiao Hong Yang Tongshun and other four people are working underground; ten minutes time, the water flooded the alley and roof, the way out of the blocked, there is no way to retreat, they were forced to the alley above a one-meter-high, three-meter-wide platform, the water level is still rising, the situation is very critical.
The four of them divided into two groups of rotation to the platform above the digging ash, two days to dig out two one-meter-high steps, in the case of exhaustion, three, four days did not eat, hunger, cold, fear and despair together, in order to inspire everyone in the desperation and step by step pressing the grim reaper to fight, Xiao Hong time and time again, lied to report that the water level in the decline, who can hold on to it, who can get out alive.
Persisting to the fourth day, the thin air in the pit has been someone faint and unconscious, but also at this time, the water level really fell, the four of them feel that it is a chance to escape, help each other step by step to climb to the mouth of the well; at this time, the mouth of the well of the nine pumping machines are draining the water day and night, the people on the well thought that the four of them certainly have no hope of survival, but it is not expected that they in the fight with the Grim Reaper has achieved the final victory. The four of them were thought to be dead, but they won the final battle with death.
Example 2:
There is another example of a U.S. transport plane that was forced to land in a sandstorm in the desert in the last century, but the plane was so badly damaged that it could not resume takeoff. The communications equipment was damaged and communication with the outside world was cut off; the nine passengers and one pilot were desperate; and their survival instincts led them to fight for the limited supplies of rations and water.
At the critical juncture, a temporary passenger on the plane stepped forward and said: "Don't be alarmed, I'm an airplane designer, as long as we all work together and listen to my command, we can fix the plane". This is like a shot of cardiac stabilizer, stabilized the mood of everyone, they consciously save water and dry food; everything is in order, everyone united and sandstorms difficult to fight.
Ten days passed and the plane was not repaired, but a team of camel caravan of traders passing through the desert rescued them. A few days later, people found out that the temporary passenger was not an airplane designer at all, he was an elementary school teacher who knew nothing about airplanes. When someone found out the truth, they called him a liar and angrily asked him, "How could you lie to us when our lives were on the line? The teacher said: If I hadn't lied, would we be alive now?