Do you believe that love is all good?
Pure and simple, love is indeed beautiful. That heartwarming feeling that can make one forget all their worries. Just want to snuggle in that person's arms, even without saying a word, and never part for eternity.
The so-called tenderness is probably the shallow tenderness of the bay in each other's eyes.
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Love and age have nothing to do with, that feeling is indefinable, is to want to be with you, is to want to care for you to take care of you. That is a kind of courage from the heart, there is no reason.
But almost everyone's love is realistic, most of the deepest wounds in the world come from love. When love transcends the bonds of marriage, it may no longer be beautiful, but instead become an eternal regret.
The deeper the love, the deeper the hurt. Many people should have felt this way, and many people have been hurt by love.
Some people say that marriage is complicated, and others say that marriage is romantic. Different people must have different feelings about marriage. Some people can easily grow old together, and some people live through each other into the once that can no longer stay.
Perhaps, the love of the world can only be experienced. There are a lot of things, did not experience, have not seen the people will not understand.
Have talked to many people face to face, all of them are real people. They cheated, they don't know if it was love. To show you a real life case of two people that happened two years ago.
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Mr. Xue, 39, is a father of two and earns a good income. He had been cheating on his wife for more than two years, and he regretted it after she found out. He wants to forget the woman, but he feels intolerant.
Mr. Xue said these words: I'm torn between the two sides, my wife asked me to choose one or the other, either divorce or break up with that little girl. I believe you guys, if you can convince me to break up with her, I'll send you a banner.
I didn't love her much in the first place, it was just a monotonous life. I like to play billiards, often night and buddy to go downstairs to play a few games, she and I is through the billiards to know. My buddy is a very good player and likes to play with women. He intentionally hit the ball to the girl's table to create the opportunity to chat. I'm not sure how much we got to know each other, but I'm sure we got to know each other better and better.
Following days, we still go to play ball, the little girl began to approach me. She was from out of town and worked as a waitress in a cybercafe. I'm embarrassed to tell you the exact process, but she approached me first, she wanted to flirt with me, not me to approach her. Then we started dating, and then she became my lover.
I thought it was okay to play around and didn't feel anything for her. She also said not to make me think too much, just to be friends. We kept dating and she was pregnant with my child. I didn't want it in the end, but I started to feel guilty.
We've been together for two years now, and she's getting older and older, and she's 27 years old, and she's still not seeing anyone. I felt I couldn't do this anymore or she would rely on me. I told her, you find a boyfriend. She said she didn't want to find one, just stay with you like this and be happy being single for the rest of your life.
What she meant was clear to me, and I started to get scared. I gave my buddies about this, my buddies said let you play you play, play stupid on the line. By the time you are really tired of throwing, you think she loves you ah, don't be sentimental! I think I'm right, I don't love her either. And then just miss the breakup, I actually really fell in love with her.
Then she was pregnant with my child, and this time she said she wanted to have it. She also said she didn't want a name and was willing to be a single mom. She also said, you just have to remember that I had a baby for you and I'll be satisfied. Holy crap, I'm really scared.
I told my buddy, and he advised me to dump her now, no more games, or failing that, play disappear. I can't bear to do it, I gave my father said, my father was so angry that he drank a bottle of wine, also let me throw her. I told my wife, I did not expect to get into trouble directly! Wife went and beat her up and beat me up too. Now my wife and I divorce, the little girl said she would like to be with me for a long time, to use love to drive my wife away. The two of them are incompatible and I am in a dilemma.
I did fall in love with her, and I think the divorce is fine. But on second thought, divorce is too sorry for my wife and parents. Who says there is no love in extramarital affairs? This is love, or I wouldn't be so upset.
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Mrs. Song, 33, mother of a 7-year-old child, is a housewife. She cheated on her husband for more than a year when he found out, and she promised not to contact the man again. But as soon as her husband went on a business trip, the man came to her. She was too embarrassed to say no and is now torn.
Mrs. Song said these words: I'm so upset right now that every time my husband goes on a business trip, I have to send the kids to his grandmother's house. Nowadays, kids know better. I'm afraid he'll see things he shouldn't, and I'm afraid he'll give his dad the slip. That man keeps stalking me and I don't know what to do. I want to break up so badly, but I can't do it.
We met when we were square dancing, he was two years younger than me, and he was always attentive to me. I am also empty it, my husband is often not at home, I do what my husband do not know. I am getting more and more bold, and I accompany him to play in the evening. I accompanied him to drink milk tea, accompanied him to play the crane machine.
At that time we were both very simple, neither of us thought about that. Although he wanted to hug me, I always avoided him, this is only a kind of ambiguity, very simple kind of it.
The danger came, that day we were together, I was really impulsive. I regretted it afterwards, I ignored him for days. He apologized to me and then we got back together. I gradually felt happy, it was a kind of first love, I was happy to see him. Don't get me wrong, it was a kind of love, it had nothing to do with the two of us rolling in bed.
We were getting closer and closer, I remember one time my battery car broke down, I didn't even call my husband, the first thing I thought of was him. Whenever my husband traveled, we would be together. He came to my house several times, and I've been to his house, all after 12 o'clock at night. One time the kid woke up and we were hugging and the kid saw us. Luckily, he only saw the hug and nothing else.
After my husband came back, the kid blabbed. He told his dad that an uncle came up to our house at night. I beat the kid up and I didn't admit it. After the child fell asleep, I apologized to my husband and knelt down, and he said to give me a chance.
Now it's been another six months, and I'm still not getting over it. I want to break up, he always says this is the last time. Sometimes I quarrel with him, he coaxed me again. I am a soft hearted person, knife mouth and tofu heart, I think this is also love.
Have you guys seen my situation? Although the affair is immoral, but I do feel the power of love ah.
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They all resumed their normal married life too. They never came back and life was pretty happy I guess.
After reading these two cases, think about that question again, is an affair love?
Love is a spiritual realm that makes no sense. And they both had a physical need first, then a hazy relationship. Technically, they just had love, and it wasn't pure, much less lasting. They ended up choosing family over lovers.
Maybe different people have different definitions of love, but no marriage can be separated from responsibility. When there is a conflict between the responsibility of marriage and love, please choose responsibility.