How to move a man
How to move a man, some women find it easy, feel easy. Some people find it difficult to know how to do it. So how to move men, the following is what I have carefully prepared for you related content, so that you instantly store to catch the hearts of men, take a look at it, I hope to help you.
How to move men 1
There is really nothing to move men? Is their heart really harder than a rock?
I would say no, not really. It's true that men do look hard on the surface, but if you open up their shells you'll find that the heart inside is actually very soft.
I've seen couples come together for relationship growth, and at first the man's shell is hard and he doesn't talk much. However, when he was asked to take each other's hands, look at each other face-to-face, have some interaction from the eyes, and then speak from the heart and say something to thank the other person, the man was like shattered in an instant. In the moment his heart opened up, he cried like a child.
It seems that there are a lot of words that are usually suppressed by them, and those that are touched, appreciated, and cherished are all hidden by them in the thick shell of a big man who is ashamed to let the other side see. Yet when you do see it, it is a very moving moment.
"What is the most touching thing about men?" Taking advantage of this theme, I'm also sharing some of my treasured men's heartfelt words here.
One, into the heart of the man, give appreciation and worship
Women want to pamper, men want to worship.
Men need to worship from the bottom of their bones, and their most basic psychological need for the opposite sex is to be recognized.
They like to hear others to their own affirmation and praise, especially women's appreciation and worship, which will give them a sense of value, and thus full of confidence.
In recent times, with the popularity of "Wolf Warrior 2", Wu Jing Xie Nan, a low-profile couple, has also become the object of attention.
Wu Jing and Xie Nan in *** with the interview, Xie Nan talked about Wu Jing is a face of worship.
There is also show-off devil Tsai Shaofen, every time on the program will say:
My husband sings really well, he is also very good at martial arts! Dance very well, really really super handsome!
"If you are subconsciously implanting in a man every day that he's great, that he's hardworking and capable, that he loves you, that he cares for you, then slowly he subconsciously feels that he's really like this, and the more he's willing to go in which direction."
Tsai Shaofen's clearly did this.
On the one hand, it nourishes the man and gives him motivation to be better, and on the other hand, it makes the other person love himself more and more, which is a win-win situation in love.
Second, empathy is more y rooted than care
Empathy is actually "**** love":
immersive understanding and feeling of each other's `various emotional changes that occur in their own similar experiences and emotions to and The other person's feelings are ****ed up by their own similar experiences and emotions.
Especially when two people in a relationship encountered conflicts and friction, you can stand in each other's point of view to consider the problem, a better understanding of each other.
For the other person's feelings, express acceptance, as well as "put yourself in the shoes of" understanding:
"So you were thinking like this, no wonder you also have emotions, no wonder you are sad ah!
For example, if your boyfriend is upset because his favorite team lost, instead of blaming him for ignoring you, go up to him and say:
"I've tried to buy a dress that I was looking at and someone else bought it first, and honey, I understand how upsetting and frustrating that can be."
*** Emotional competence is a must-have skill for highly emotional women.
Another example would be a girl who is particularly sad about a breakup and then goes to her girlfriends to confide in them.
The girlfriends who don't know how to **** love are either all kinds of scolding the boy how scummy, no matter the end of this relationship in the end is who's fault, or in the side of the hilarious talk about the wind.
On the contrary, if it is the girlfriends who know how to **** love, this time will tell her about their own failed relationship experience, and how they got through it.
That kind of hurt and sadness she also experienced, with her to produce more **** Ming, will naturally cause her mood swings.
Often, a "well, I know exactly what you're feeling at the moment" is a better way to get to the heart of the matter than all the comforting care.
The other side will also feel that you are really the most understanding person in the world.
Three, accept his vulnerability, become his spiritual dependence
Men are actually children.
"Men in the encounter of difficult problems, generally speaking, is the lack of women to deal with the problem of toughness and flexibility, when trying a variety of methods still can not properly deal with some of the thorny issues, men than women are prone to desperate thoughts of desperation."
In a relationship, it's important for a woman to be able to embrace a man's vulnerability. You can accept his softest place, he will be willing to live with you.
Learn to accept and allow the helpless, vulnerable parts of a man to exist.
This is the moment that makes a man feel touched in the deepest sense - accepting, allowing the existence of the incompetent, helpless, vulnerable part of a man.
For thousands of years, the outside world has given so much awareness that 'men have to be strong' that in men's consciousness, they cannot express their vulnerability. Even if they disguise themselves, pretend to be strong, and swallow their teeth into their stomachs, this is the state that a man should have.
But when they are almost crushed by the pressure, if someone can accept, understand their vulnerability, tender care of their self-esteem, men will really be touched to no additional.
Of course it's not easy, sometimes we do not realize that when men express vulnerability, focus on each other weak place. But if you do, it makes men feel ashamed. They will instantly shut down and put up their defenses.
A true acceptance is feeling from the inside out that it's OK for men to be this way. In fact, it is true that the real strong man is not only rigid, the real strong man is rich. The man who dares to share his vulnerability is the real strong man.
Then if a woman can give a man such a feeling, the man will not only be touched more will have respect for the woman. The reason is that this acceptance shows exactly the influence of the woman on the man.
A man can discover the perspectives and strengths of the female world by communicating with a woman, and he realizes that he doesn't have to become a straight man cancer, instead he is able to accept his own vulnerability, and also accept the different talents of others who are really powerful.
The woman with delicate emotions, to the man to understand and normalize the problem, which is a huge role in soothing the man's emotions. The woman will teach the man how to soften down, and the man at the moment is touched by the fact that he realized that the woman is to help him de-stress, not to increase the pressure on him.
Finally, it is also hoped that every little lady can practice these three skills as soon as possible.
Subdue a man's heart, so that he will die to love you for life.
Meanwhile women have six more roles that will make men very touched.
1, appeasement
Being able to understand and support each other when they have emotions. The ability to normalize and generalize the other person's emotions, so that the other person in a feeling of being supported, to show their inner self.
(Example sentence: Yeah, it's definitely going to break down, you're not God? It must be especially stressful to have so much work given to you alone, right?)
2. The observer
Has the ability to step outside. The ability to step outside of yourself to observe the other person in the exchange, but also the ability to use this role to remind the other person to express themselves honestly and sincerely.
(Example sentence: You just got louder all of a sudden, did I say something that made you uncomfortable?)
3. Interventionist
The ability to rationally give some guidance in the event of a problem, and loosening and grasping the other side of the feeling that it is understood, and at the same time do not have to go with the intense emotions and out of control at once.
(Example sentence: The emotions are so strong right now, can we stop for a while? Maybe it would be better to slow down a little bit and then we can figure out how to solve the problem.)
4. Protector
Boundaries to self, pampering the other while not letting yourself get hurt. It is precisely this feeling of challenging men that will make men feel the presence and power of women. At the same time this can be a model for men so that they do not have to sacrifice themselves too much.
(Example sentence: I know you're in a bad mood, but I get hurt when you talk about me like that. I'm sorry, I need to calm myself down now, take care of yourself.)
5, the explorer
With the man's permission, can help guide the man to explore the thoughts and needs behind the emotions. This kind of emotional grooming happens to be something that men are not very good at.
(Example sentence: Yes, we can't breathe with all this going on, and yet you insist on doing it. Why? Are you afraid of letting them down? Or ...... something else?)
6, collaborators
Some things in the family can help men share. Let the man feel not alone, feel someone to accompany him *** with the face of these things. This a practical action support, will also make the man very touched.
(Example sentence: The children are not only yours, I am their mother, you can not find the time to do that I will take more, it is okay.
If a woman can realize the above three roles and do well in these six roles, men will be very, very moved! They are not cold-blooded animals, when they are these important psychological needs have been met, even if they do not say, the heart will flow to you unlimited love.
The psychological needs of human beings are only these two:
1, maternal appeasement, for our recognition.
2. The paternal perspective, the view of the world.
Recognition and challenge are always the two pillars of our inner need.
When a woman can stand beside a man and give him the feeling of such a pillar, the man is not only touched, but also more likely to be like chicken blood, trying to become better and worthy of you - him.
Bless the women, bless you more and more good, also wait for more and more good men.
How to move men 21, play careful eyes
This is a double-edged sword, do not need to look like you are not committed, heartless, lack of "clinical atmosphere"; with too much, it is also easy to let people annoyed, like Lin Daiyu, trouble, coughing up more than blood! What to do? The safest thing to do is, after the anger, timely transformation of Yin into eyes, as if the spring weather, like not weaned children, for an inch of sadness and sadness, but also for a centimeter of happiness and happiness.
2, remember to say "hate"
This is a strange word, love in the love field of men, love to hear, because it represents a kind of intimacy, and a little ambiguous, not every man is qualified to receive. For the heroine, this word, will be particularly gluttonous, pain, and a wonderful "anger" flavor, if then drag a little tail, it will be more stirring.
3, Si Fan
Full of little girls thinking, forget about the competition in the workplace or the examination room, this time only want to mundane pink trivia, such as kissing, such as drawing eyebrows such as stockings ...... thought about the action of the head to direct the hands and feet, and the little girl's heart, you will be Will unconsciously whole body soft up, like being drawn sinews, a mind only waiting for him to care for ......
4, hot and cold alternately
Can not be too much to show enthusiasm for the boys, but also can not be too cold to show their own do not care. This will only make your relationship worse and worse.
5, do annoyed
Look at the above tricks, have not found to go to impress the hearts of men, really is not very difficult, in the face of the heart of the man a lot of times you need to be a little woman's side, and occasionally spilled, pretend to be silly can impress the hearts of men.
The crystallization of love comes from emotion, every day to share a different emotional story, you want to see are here, like don't forget to point down the attention oh ......