In fact, I also read some other emotional bloggers' views on this issue on the Internet. Some people will say that men are cold, and they must be trying to force you to break up and get rid of you in this way. So stop loss must be made in time at this time. After reading it, I just want to express whether you can accumulate some virtues. Now you know it's not easy to build a relationship. If the man is a little cold, you say stop loss in time and get rid of others. We will establish a close relationship.
Indeed, I don't deny that some men do. They like to use this cold war way to force each other to end their relationship. Yes, but this kind of situation is actually rare. First of all, let me give you an analysis of why men are cold when they are with you for a long time.
The first is the difference in thinking. Have you ever found that when a man is just with a woman, he is most passionate and active at this time. He visits you every day, invites you to dinner and so on. At this time, women are actually relatively dull. Only by looking at this man's attitude will I decide whether to be with you or not. Slowly, after this man is very enthusiastic about you, you agree to be with him. At this time, the man may feel that he is finished and the task is completed. He may be a little dull, and he won't send you flowers every day, invite you to dinner and pick you up every day as before.
But at this time, the woman has just begun to invest in this relationship, so she will take out all her enthusiasm and start to put it on this man. For example, will take the initiative to ask what this man is doing? Have dinner together at night. But at this time, maybe the man went back to his old life, went to work and was busy with other things. At this time, girls will think that you are indifferent to me and you don't love me. You see, this is the difference in thinking between men and women.
Second, many women don't know the difference between Su Yan and Leng Yan. Do you think these two words are similar? It's actually different. Plain is actually the original appearance of love, that is, for example, I used to go to work every day and suddenly found a beautiful girl. I like her very much and want to chase her. Then I will definitely take time out after work to be nice to this girl, chase her every day and block her every day. But slowly, I feel that after my success, I am back on the track of normal work. It may be a bit dull for you, but it is definitely not indifference.
Indifference means that you go to him and he doesn't talk to you. No matter what you do, he will ignore you or even disappear. This is called indifference. Then this cold situation may indeed force you to compromise, or your relationship has already had a big problem. Next, I will talk about a practical way to increase more emotional communication in your dull period and rekindle your passion a little.
This method is called scene replacement method, which is the most effective for girls. It is in the same scene that if you do the same thing every time, you will feel bored. But if you suddenly change something or a scene, you will feel fresh.
Take the simplest example, such as our mobile phone. If you buy that mobile phone, at the end, you always use that mobile phone case, which is dark, and then you feel nothing new. But occasionally I buy some Kawaii-style mobile phone cases to wear. At least in those two days, you will feel good and comfortable. I changed a film and a mobile phone case. I think it is as comfortable as new. It is a concept.
Then how can we bring it into our feelings? Let me give you an example. As partners, we often hold hands and kiss. This kind of thing is normal, especially when we are apart. But have you ever wondered where you usually kiss or hold hands? It may be in some secret place. I didn't say I kissed you suddenly when I was dancing in the square dance. You can change the scene with a kiss.
For example, if you haven't kissed in the living room before, you might as well try it or have a look. For example, if you go shopping with him to buy clothes, then suddenly kiss him in the fitting room. This is the most attractive place for men, which will make your love excitement come up again. Because he will doubt, he will wonder why she kissed me in public? Is it because I changed this dress that she can't help it? Is it because I'm too handsome? Maybe he'll give you a kiss back for this. In this tense and exciting environment, your feelings will be stronger.
Of course, this is just an example I gave. In fact, there are many scenes that can be done. For example, in the elevator, when the elevator is about to open, suddenly hug him and then let him go immediately. These will make you feel that different scenes have done different things, will bring you fresh and exciting feelings, and will also make plain feelings set off more waves. The period of emotional dullness is very simple, just like the water in this river, it may be dull without any waves. But at this time you just learn to throw a stone and stir up some waves. I hope it helps your feelings.