I think about this question in this way, lonely or not lonely mainly depends on your own mentality, oneself to live a full life naturally will not be lonely.
Like an aunt I know, her husband died when she was 32 years old, leaving two sons and a daughter, she has not remarried for the sake of her children, when she talked to us about this matter, several of us issued a? It's not easy for you to live your life? words.
But she smiled faintly and said she felt quite good, at that time she became strong all of a sudden, she did not want to let the children without a father to produce inferiority complex in their hearts, they gave them more love, and watched them grow up day by day is very happy.
Then they all started their own families, and they lived a good life. Some people advised her to find a companion, and she refused. She felt that she liked to live on her own, and now she is a building manager to help the community, and she also has a good relationship with the neighbors, and she goes out to dance when she is not busy, and she feels very comfortable with her life.
You see some people although the family is complete, but once you talk to people will complain, there is no happy thing in the heart, this is the problem of the mentality, they do not have the ability to feel happy.
Like the day my daughter asked me: ? Mom I'm going away to college this fall, you must be very lonely!
I was like this, children would have drifted away from their parents, I was determined to take the only child certificate, I thought well I will bear the loneliness later, you go I will miss you, but I will not bother you, my shifting goalposts to find their own things to do.
For example, I can have more time to read and write, I can go out and travel a bit, I can also often get together with old friends, and I can learn to talk about the guzheng, because there is this kind of musical instrument in the house, so that I have a full life, and I will not feel lonely.
Yu Feihong participated in the program was asked, you think old alone to stay normal?
Yu Feihong said, I have a lot of friends around me who are single, and they are very full of spirit, of course, they are all male, do you mean to say that because I am a woman, it is not normal to be single?
Why can't women enjoy solitude and gain spiritual strength in it?
If we acknowledge that there has never been an idealized relationship in the world, we can understand why both men and women need to derive fulfillment and satisfaction from other sources.
Love is important, and so is solitude. Women, as well as men, need to learn to withdraw appropriately from relationships and develop an independent and strong heart in solitude.
I hope we can all be strong people with strong hearts in order to learn the essential life lesson of loneliness.