Sixty years old, alone, lonely against the dusk. In the end how to spend? First, if you can move, never nest in the house. The more you nest, the more you nest, the more lonely you are. Every day at 5:00 6:00 on time to get up, will be the day of the spirit to wake up, into the fresh day. Try to find something you can do and you are interested in doing, not purely for the money, perhaps the mood is more important than the money. Second, the spirit to chase the dream again, and then pull the wind feel which aspects of the regret, organize, can be achieved to try to realize. The first thing you need to do is to go and visit someone; if you want to be a writer, you may want to take care of your writing; if you want to shout, you may want to join the senior choir; if you want to show off your devilish body, you may want to go to the modeling team to learn the catwalk.... Just be happy! You can be as happy as you want to be! Third, try not to live with your children. If you can be independent, it is better to live alone. One generation has its own way of thinking and living, and it's easy to love each other and hard to get along. As you get older, try not to give your children any trouble, let yourself live a great life, and let the distance produce thoughts. Of course, like children can also bring children. Today, I came across an old lady (61 years old), was exploited by the crooks, panicked to friends and relatives children to arrange jobs, fraud millions, now, the crooks into prison, and friends and relatives are to the court to sue her to let her pay back the money. Millions of dollars of debt, she is an old man who does not even have a living, how to pay? She wished she was in jail, but she was not! So we have to think about what to leave to the community, rather than a lifetime of grass. Six, if possible, by the way to touch a companion. Loneliness is not a monopoly of the elderly. The first thing that you need to do is to get a good understanding of what you're doing and how you're doing it.
The old companion of the old, if one of the old companion first died, the remaining half will certainly be very lonely, after all, the two people a piece of life for decades, emotionally inseparable, especially look at the other people's happy old age, compared to their own unfortunate situation, the kind of loneliness that has never been seen before will come to life. How to get rid of loneliness of the elderly, a better way is to live with their children. If you can live with your children, usually help do some chores, take care of the grandchildren, although busy, morning and evening, someone to talk about La Croix, more people will naturally change the atmosphere of loneliness, lighten the mood of loneliness,! In reality, some of the elderly due to children working abroad, or due to personality differences and other reasons, can not live with their children, living alone alone is inevitable, the situation is better for the open-minded, introverted, withdrawn character is difficult to get rid of the shadow of loneliness! Encountered this situation, what should be done? Talk about two points of view for reference only. One is to find a companion if possible. Modern society, the phenomenon of old age remarriage is very normal, if the individual is willing to, the children agree to find an elderly partner is a good choice, after all, the children can not often at home, there is a person can take care of each other, but also to lift the pain of loneliness. Because of some old traditional concepts are y rooted, many people think that the old age remarriage is not good-looking, so that the children's face. Some lonely old people want to find a companion from the bottom of their hearts, but due to the opposition of their children and their wishes are difficult to follow. Therefore, the lonely old people want to find happiness in old age, change the lonely situation, must be brave to break free from the shackles of the old concepts. On the whole, the lonely old man to find a suitable companion is a feasible way to change their lonely situation. Secondly, there is time for more activities. I said that the activities are not simply to practice the body, but often out of the house, to participate in some activities, including participation in the elderly learning classes, to participate in some of the characteristics of the elderly group of cultural and sports activities, according to their own interests often writing, painting, dancing, walking, fishing, chatting, etc., from the activities to meet the needs of the interests of throw away or reduce the loneliness of life and worry.
I have a very good old age method, which I learned from a grandpa in our village, so I won't worry about the old age problem when I get old. Today, I have the honor to share with you here and exchange questions about the way of old age. I will first share the way of old age of that grandpa in our village, and then analyze it at the end.
The moncler in our village is an ordinary farmer who has spent most of his life as a farmer. He and his wife had a son and a daughter, and when he was fifty-one years old, his partner died of terminal cancer, and his two children were already adults and had joined the workforce.
Although the children have their own income, but he did not stop working, but still insisted on planting crops and then take the fruit of the harvest, to the county town in exchange for gold to make ends meet. Later, when he was 60 years old, his two children got married in the same year, his daughter married far away in Shenzhen City, Guangdong Province, and his son went to Zunyi City, Guizhou Province, as a door-to-door son-in-law.
At that time, he was still in good health, so both children chose to leave him to find their own happiness, and he didn't see any problem with that, so he didn't object to the marriage of the two children. Since his children left, he has stopped farming and instead goes to the village every day, where people gather more often, to talk to his peers in the village, sing or play erhu.
During the day, he is accompanied by his peers and solves the problem of being alone, but at night when he comes home, he is alone again, eating alone and sleeping alone. He felt that he should look for a companion for the rest of his life. He thought about it and came to the conclusion that it would be the best choice to go to a square dance and use the opportunity of square dancing to find a partner.
So he started every night at 8 o'clock, into the city to go to the square dance. During the square dance, he met many people of his age, and they were all single, but they disliked him for being too old and not having an economic base, so they were not willing to spend the rest of their lives with him. As a result, his days of square dancing in the city lasted only two months.
Later, when he was 66 years old, because of a stroke, his feet became swollen and painful, and it was very difficult for him to move. So he not only lost the ability to go to the village to have fun with the elderly but also lost the ability to take care of himself. Despite this, he didn't tell his children about his difficulties but chose to use his savings to hire a nanny to take care of his life.
With a nanny in the family, he was able to chat with her, help her with household chores, and sometimes even put her in a wheelchair and pushed her into the village to have fun with the old people.
He felt that he would be sitting on his hands and spending all his savings, so he came up with a way to get the best of both worlds, to make money and to entertain himself. He sent the nanny to ask workers to help him to the first floor of the house, decorated into a small store look and in the city into the daily necessities and cigarettes and alcohol back to sell.
At the same time, he put a big color TV and some entertainment equipment for the elderly in the store, such as erhu, chess, mahjong and so on. This trick can really work, because the village has attracted the elderly every day gathered in his home entertainment, so he is not lonely and not bored, and at the same time he relies on the income of the store to fill the family.
Although the profits from the store in the village are not very high, not even enough to pay the nanny's salary, but at least it's an income that can ease the burden. I think this is a perfect way for him to retire, so when I am old and my partner is no longer with me and my children are not with me, I will learn from this grandfather in the village.
First, I hired a nanny to take care of me, then I opened a kiosk in the village, and I took turns watching the store with the nanny. Since the nanny is taking care of me alone, he shouldn't be very busy, so I can put him in charge of watching the store while I chat, sing or drink wine and have fun with the village elders in the store. Personally, I wouldn't want to retire to a nursing home anyway.
Because I don't feel comfortable living in a nursing home, I feel like I'm in a school, and it's very inconvenient to have a large group of people living together, and at the same time, the living environment in a nursing home is nowhere near as good as your own home, and the meals you eat in a nursing home are all uniform and not free. Too many old people living in the place will have odor, will seriously affect my physical health, so I choose not to go to the nursing home old age.
The above mentioned, is my personal opinion of the best way to retire, but due to their own family situation and make the final decision. Finally, I would like to recommend the following three options for you to consider in your personal thinking.
The first way: the first choice is to live with their children, no matter where they go, we will follow them to where, after all, they have the obligation to support us. However, the premise is to educate the children well, they know how to know, know how to do filial piety, otherwise even if they give us to live with them, they always give face, we live is not solid.
The second way: if the children's families, such as their parents-in-law, do not welcome us to live with them, we do not have to make it difficult for the children. You can choose to sell your home and rent a house near where your children live, and hire a nanny to take care of you, which will make it easier for you to see your children and for them to take care of you.
The third way: if the children don't want us to go and live with them, and they don't want us to move to the neighborhood, and they don't care about us, we can sell the house. We can choose to sell the house and use the money from the sale of the house to pay for our own old age, the money from the sale of the house is more than enough to pay for our old age.
Since they do not know how to be grateful not know how to filial piety parents, why should we give them their life's work, the sale of the sale of the money to spend, after all, we are already old, if we leave this world, we can not take away the so-called wealth.
This question I am most qualified to answer . I am 56 years old. Divorced ten years ago, single to this day. A year after the divorce, my daughter went to college and went to another city, and then went to the United States to study, work, get married and start a family, and the possibility of returning to settle in the country should not be too great.r
In fact, I have been alone for many years, oh, no, there is also a small companion - the puppy TieDan . The dog is walked twice a day. When there is a class at five o'clock in the morning to walk the dog, no class days want to sleep lazy can not sleep, more than seven o'clock TieDan will definitely come to call me to get up, although he will not speak, but the action is exactly the same as when I called my daughter Xiaoxi get up feeling, very gentle but clear purpose. In the evening, I would hold TieDan and walk around the lake next to my home, looking at the flowers and trees, and listening to all kinds of insects and birds chirping. When spring comes, I am surprised to see flocks of wild ducks, and poems like "The ducks are the first to know the warmth of the spring river" will naturally come to my mind. I am a teacher, in addition to classes, study, walking the dog, I also often go to the gym to swim , insisted for many years, these years to maintain the body much better than ten years ago. Because I have to get up early, I don't dare to go to bed too late at night, so I have been living a regular, rigorous life. r
Many people say, "How can a person cook? The first thing you need to know is how to eat alone. The family relatives also always urge: you have to eat well ah. In fact, this is not a problem for me at all, these years the number of times to go out to eat is less and less, the vast majority of their own home cooking. I don't have to think about other people's tastes, other people's preferences, what I like to eat, what I think is healthy to do, what I want to eat at what point to eat, and then think about the past every day in accordance with other people's preferences to do good meals, waiting patiently for other people to come home to eat, again and again, disappointment, again and again, sad, and now the days are really happy to be flying.r
Daughter although far away from home, but every day, I will be able to chat with me or video, and I will be able to see you. will chat or video with me, what is in her head, what meals she eats every day, what she does, what she buys, where she grows a small pimple, where she breaks a small mouth ......, everything, I basically know. Likewise, she knows everything about me. I have summer and winter vacations, will go to the United States to see her once a year, live a 30, 40 days, travel travel, shopping. She came back a little less often after work, but never more than two years. I'm not sure if this is a good idea, but I think it's a good idea for me to be able to do this, and I think it's a good idea for me to be able to do this, and I think it's a good idea for me to be able to do this. I also want my daughter to work hard and enjoy love and family life while she is young. So at the moment my vision for my future life is to live at home alone when I can take care of myself and go to a nursing home when I can't. However, I hope to go to a good nursing home, in which case I may need some financial assistance from my daughter.r
I used to be afraid of what would happen if I was alone at home and no one knew I was sick, and what would happen if I was abused in a nursing home. What if I went to a nursing home and was abused? Now I don't worry about that anymore. The year before last, I sent my old father away, and thinking about my father's old colleagues and old friends, I clearly realize that no matter how prominent you were, no matter how many filial sons and daughters you had, the last stage of life is painful and helpless. What a wonderful thing it would be to go away alone, quietly, without pain and without bothering your children. As for being abused in a nursing home, so be it. What's the point of living so long when you can't take care of yourself? Besides, these are the worst scenarios I can think of, and there are countless others that are better than this. So, don't worry about the future at all, just live a good life in front of you.