My son was born at 6 kg, and I am thin and small, 1.57 96 kg. Then two months later, he grew very fast. When he was 16 kg, I was very tired holding him all day. My husband's mother never hugged him and was too lazy to die. She doesn't care. Sometimes she secretly cries because she is too tired. When my son was eight months old, his grandmother went out to work. This is entirely my own responsibility. The son is two years old and seven months old, and his grandmother didn't bring it for a day. His grandmother came back the other day and asked her to hug me. I said my grandmother couldn't hold it by herself and didn't want her to hold me. I can say for sure that I don't need her to be exhausted in the future, and I am willing.
Taking care of children is really tiring, especially sticky children. He always holds it in his arms and cries as soon as he puts it down. Even if you sleep, you should hug or sleep next to each other. After a long time, even the best temper is tortured and grumpy. If your family doesn't understand your efforts, then you will feel even more devastated. You will feel that giving birth is very painful, and even feel that the child is dragging you down. No children, you're divorced.
I just want to say to all the mothers in the world: hard work!
Because that's how I got through it. My two children are brought up by themselves, and they eat, drink and sleep by themselves. When the children were busy and sick, I cried with two children in my arms, feeling that the world had collapsed, and I regretted it even more.
But when I saw two children jumping around and calling my mother affectionately, I felt that everything I gave was worth it.
So I understand the subject's mood, but I don't agree with you hitting the child. There is nothing wrong with the child. It is because children are insecure that they are so clingy. You should pay more attention to children and change your mind, and you will find them lovely.
The first move, if you can't change the environment, please change your mentality.
Since complaining is useless, I choose to accept life. I accept naughty children, noisy children and lazy husbands. Since I chose to change my mind, I feel that it is much easier to take care of children. Children and husbands are not all shortcomings, but they also have many advantages. When children are sensible, they will give me a hug when they see that I am tired, and my husband can occasionally help with the children. Look at happy things and think about beautiful things every day. I showed my smile to my family, friends and strangers, and I got a smile.
The second trick is to accept your imperfect self, husband and children.
We are not perfect, our children are not perfect, and our husbands are not perfect. But after a long time, all I found were shortcomings. The child knows that he has been crying for a long time, and his husband is lazy. He has become an dissatisfied wife.
Complaining makes us feel very tired, and taking care of our children becomes more tiring, so please accept imperfections.
It doesn't matter if you are too tired to take care of the children. It doesn't matter if the children crawl around on the ground and get their clothes dirty. If your husband is lazy, be lazy! Accept his imperfections and discover more of theirs.
When you accept all the imperfections, you will feel that life becomes perfect and relaxed.
Third, women learn to show weakness.
A bowl of chicken soup is very poisonous, that is, women are weak and mothers are strong. Nobel Prize in Literature laureate and famous British writer william golding once said: I think it is foolish for women to claim equality with men, because women have always been far superior to men. I quite agree with this sentence, women are better than men, especially married mothers. Take care of children's food, drink and sleep, take care of everything at home and earn money by working. What a superwoman! Can do anything.
It's not worth it for a woman to push herself so tired. We need to learn to show weakness to our children. It doesn't matter to cry once in a while, when everyone is weak. A mother who knows how to show weakness will make her children more responsible. A mother who knows how to show weakness will let her children learn to be grateful. A mother who knows how to show weakness will let her children understand their parents' difficulties. Learn to show weakness to children in life, play dumb in front of children, unload their weapons, and let children accept themselves more truly.
We need to show weakness to our husbands. Sometimes it is because we are too strong that we have the saying that men are strong and women are weak. Learn to show weakness, clean the house together, cook together, and go out for a full meal when you are tired. Hard work, hard work, hard work at home, women show weakness, and men will naturally take responsibility. Women are weak, and their marital happiness is stronger.
Finally, I wish every woman who is a mother happiness and more and more beautiful.
I love my baby, my eldest daughter. At that time, she kept holding me, but she couldn't let go. Her father and I took turns hugging her. She always wets the bed, and she is allergic to diapers, so there will be a little noise at night. I immediately got up and made fun of it, but I really didn't hear it. I peed in bed, so I immediately changed places with her. I slept in the wet place and she slept in the dry place. She often vomited when she was a child. Really can't win the pillow. We have never been angry with her for such a thing. The second daughter, angel baby, sleeps as soon as she leaves the bed and never has to be coaxed to sleep. Now Sambo is a premature baby, which is relatively more difficult to raise. Sometimes I don't know what he thinks, and I'm too tired to stand up. However, I won't be angry with him. He is too young to talk. We ...
It's really tiring to take care of the baby alone. Sometimes I can't control my emotions and want to hit my child. When the baby is young, you can try to put it gently, every time you fall asleep. If you cry, pick it up and put it down a few times. If you really can't let it go, just take it. It doesn't matter how heavy the baby is. The baby has been holding it for four months. When he fell asleep, I held him and watched TV, which was quite leisurely. After about six months, I naturally put it down.
To tell the truth, all this is my own experience. My child was born prematurely, only two and a half pounds. I didn't take care of her except that she lived in an incubator. After she left the hospital, I was completely alone. Because there are no grandparents, grandparents and husbands to earn money, only I do it myself. It is conceivable that the nerves of premature infants are not fully developed. She is the kind of person who whines for 24 hours, and even when she falls asleep, she will give out a cry of collapse. I have brought her to her for a year and a month under such torture. After half a year, I was a little relaxed, but she was still a child after all. I will yell at her when I am bored, but I still can't fight. Sometimes it hurts to remember how hard she worked.
I am a grandmother, taking care of my little grandson alone. Daughter and son-in-law are busy at work. From birth to four years old now, four years of hard work is only known to me. The whole person's body and mind are on the child, and I don't have my own time. Only when the child is asleep can I relax a little. But no matter how hard you try, you will never take it out on your child unless the child is really naughty and disobedient. In this case, you will give him two butts, and you will not use force. You will gently make a gesture and hit him twice.
I have this idea. When the child was very young, I was angry that he didn't sleep in the middle of the night and put him on the bed severely. Don't be afraid of your own ideas. It's normal for people to think like this. It is not a simple thing for a girl to go to her mother, nor is she full of maternal love all the time. It's normal to have the idea of hitting her child for a moment. Don't blame yourself for thinking about this moment. I think some mothers have this feeling. Mom who doesn't score 100, don't feel guilty, it's normal. Learn to love yourself first, then love others, and ensure that you don't suffer from postpartum depression, so that you can take better care of your children.
Yes, Dabao is five years old and Bao Xiao is one year and one month old. He has been taking care of, cooking, washing clothes and picking up Dabao by himself. Sometimes he can really fight, but at the same time he will hate his sense of powerlessness, but generally he will not fight hard, because he is his own child after all. Most of them sit there crying with their children in their arms when they are about to collapse, and continue to coax them after crying, so advise people who want to have a second child to do the same.
I had a similar situation with you when my daughter was two months old, but I wouldn't hit her. I was so tired that I put her on the bed and cried, but my heart melted. I listened to her cry for dozens of seconds and quickly picked her up.
A mother who takes care of her children alone is really tired. She tried to leave her children behind countless times, but she gave up. Why? Because I was born in October, I can't bear to part.
The baby cried as soon as it was put down. Ma Bao observes whether the baby is uncomfortable, colic or sick. There must be something wrong with the child crying. She is too young to say anything. If we let her go or even beat her because she is very tired, she will be very helpless.
If pathological crying is ruled out, then the child must want to be close to his mother, because her mother is the person who can give him a sense of security in this world. If Ma Bao is too tired, then when the baby is resting, you should rest with the baby, temporarily put down all the housework and wait for her husband to come back to help. Ma Bao shouldn't vent her dissatisfaction on her children. Because you'll regret it when you call.
If your husband goes to work, you can wait for him to help do something after work, without having to bear it all yourself. The family is for two people, and things will be much more after having children. If you are too tired to do these things, or feel uncomfortable, just wait for your husband to come back and help.
The baby is your own. It hurts your mother to hit the child. Don't hit children, especially when you are tired. This is the last thing to do.
I am also a lonely child. I am two children. The difference between the two children is one year. Husband works in other places, and parents-in-law also have their own jobs. So, no one takes care of my children. I can only take care of them by myself. Let them cry for a while when they are tired, but they won't hit them. Later, when they are older, I will beat them for their mistakes, and I will be measured.
How to take care of children without getting tired? If you are too tired, you should learn to be lazy, because the work at home is trivial and can never be finished. Sometimes I just feel very tired, but I just don't know what I've been busy with all day.